can i turn on his passion again? please help?

Question

The story in general. I'm a jap girl and my boy is from Spain. We met in japan and been dating for 1 and a half year. We are both very passionate, he's very fun-loving and honest. We were madly in love even we were apart. We met whenever we had vacations. Very great moments.

Sometimes he was confused about his feelings for me when we're apart, maybe coz of distance, or stress from work? But whenever we saw each other in person, all confusion would be gone.

The last time we met was January 2007. We had very great time, both were very in love; we were planning to meet in Easter. He said that he was gonna regret if he loses me.

However, he finally decided to break up with me this Feb, coz he has lost the love feelings, he doesnt have the motivation to make me happy with distance. He was very sad. But i think he has already got over this break-up now (he's a happy person who can get over sadness easily).

I suggested to meet in Easter. he rejected. He said that he will ONLY treat me like a friend, he doesnt want 'something' to happen when we meet.

I still love him a whole lot. I dont know if i should still see him in easter in Spain.

I always have a hope that "things will be fine if we meet". coz he took care of me alot when i was near, he cant handle Long D relationship well when im far. I dunno how possible it is to turn on his passion when we meet. I just think that im gonna regret in either cases. If i dont go, i will regret for not trying my best. If i go, luckily i can turn on our passion, but i cant afford it if he treats me cold, and i dont wanna look like a clingy sticky gal.

What should i do??? go or not????? please help me

Answer 1

Well, I'm sorry to have to tell you, but it's not fair to have a long distance relationship. He wants something constant. It's just too long to wait several months to see a person you're in a relationship with. If you really want that, you might want to ask him if there is a possiblity for a good hearty try if you actually lived in the same area. If you won't consider a move & neither will he, it's best to let him go. If you love him, then the most important thing to you should be that he is happy, whether it is with you, or not. You don't want to be causing him the pain of not being there to hold him or comfort him when he needs it. A person can say what ever they want, but if you're really realistic about the situation, if you're not there, someone else lives alot closer & can be there for him. Maybe that's what he needs, so really, it's unfair to try for more than a friendship unless you are going to make the move to Spain very very soon! Give him some respect, at least he's being honest with himself about what he needs!

I do hate to be the bearer of bad news, but that's the way the human heart works. It is only so strong & can only handle so much. Time & distance doesn't always make the heart grow fonder, but it always makes the human grow smarter.

Answer 2

Go. because if you sit at home, you'll always wonder what if. and if you go, youll also find out if he really loves you anymore. if he doesnt, then that will be ur Q to leave, and to enjoy spain alone, and try to move on, pick up whats left of your heart and move on. the only way to know for sure, is to go and see him and see what happens with him.

Answer 3

i was in a similar situation as urs... and my ex ended up meeting a new girl so we broke up... i think u should not go to spain for easter because u'll regret going and stick to ur decision now, don't look back so u won't regret... and he might've found a new girl already

Answer 4

Long distance relationships are very very difficult, especially
when you are young and not married..
You may be able to make him love you one more time but
the next long distance separation will be the end of it...

Answer 5

I m sorry to say but move on....it sounds as if he has an interest in someone else...im sorry

Answer 6

he has told you he lost love feelings and just wants to be friends.act accordingly