ok i met this girl at a bar we both frequent we fell in love and i feel it is mutual. but she has done some things that hurt me and i might be a little to jealous. one night we were at the bar and this bouncer was hitting on her infront of me but he was doin it jokingly enough it didnt bother me but i felt he was being obnoxius. well a few months later he posted a comment on her myspace that was innapropait. but yet again really didnt bother me then she added him on her friend list so i told her i didnt like and she gets a tude with me tellin me i dont need to tell her who she can and cant hang out with. well a few weeks later i accidently logged into her myspace and seen she had several emails with guy so i figured i would read em and i didnt like what i read she was tellin him her # and that he was cute so i confronted her bout it and she says she was just flirting to get free stuff from the bar. i dont want her in that bar at all without me and she say i am too controlling. am i ?
2007-03-08 14:44:09 · 14 answers · asked by craftsman64 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, I dont think you're in the wrong but honestly, I dont think that this girl sounds that great if thats what shes like. You have reason to be concerned....
2007-03-08 14:47:11 · answer #1 · answered by radiancia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the bar a.k.a the "playground" is a breeding ground for all sorts of problems like this.
which is why i FINALLY learned that if you are serious about someone..i mean truly serious there is no place for a REAL relationship in the bar...as my hubby and i both agree...when you are in a bar...it's pretty much "open play" and "anything goes" type of thing.....what goes on in the bar stays in the bar...and we don't hold nothing against each other....which is why we STAY AWAY! Unless we go there with another couple, and even then it's dangerous....the bar is reserved for single's and those couples who aren't yet settled. If you are ready for something more serious i suggest you move on.
She sounds like she likes to flirt alot with guys and that is something your going to have to accept and deal with and if you cannot then again, move on.
And yeah, i used to flirt all the time to get free stuff from the bar, so that completely makes sense and i wouldn't think that would be a lie at all. When a girl is in the bar it is all about flirting to score the free drinks and any sort of "trinkets" they are tossing out. She might even get some free rounds for you as well; save you some money dude! Hey it's all part of the whole "bar scene"...
She sounds like a total party girl! Can ya hang?
naww you aint jealous
2007-03-08 22:55:59 · answer #2 · answered by LM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer your first question; YES, you are a jealous boyfriend! Be real!
You, accidently logged in to her myspace?? Sounds like a good excuse for snooping!! That is not healthy for you or her...If you are already having doubts you should move on.
2007-03-08 23:03:09 · answer #3 · answered by DEBRATT1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think you need to reevaluate your relationship with this girl.It doesn't sound to me like she is ready to commit to a monogamous relationship with you,because her priority seems to be teasing guys for free drinks(not cool)unless your o.k. with that.You sound like you've been a pretty cool boyfriend up to the point when you accidentally logged on to her my space.No accident and you know it.Its kind of one of those be careful what you wish for things.She says you are to controlling and for her you are because she wants to do whatever she wants with whoever she wants ,whenever she wants.Do you really want to be with a girl who flirts with guys to get free stuff from the bar?If you stay with her shes gonna bring out the worst in you.,unless of course that's what you want.
2007-03-08 22:58:27 · answer #4 · answered by FYIIM1KO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u have a right to know cause she is out ther being promiscuios and is flirtin with guys on myspace .. come on if this continues i think that u should end it and find some one that dosnt doo stuff to make u snoop around like that
2007-03-08 22:49:13 · answer #5 · answered by <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you should trust her. I wouldn't like that behavior either. I found that many of the people I met at bars were just not that reliable.
2007-03-08 22:49:32 · answer #6 · answered by Holly R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems like shes not being very fair to you by acting that way but you are being a little controlling. If you trust her then let her be. but i dont think shes being very fair to you but.... if you love her then trust that her judgement is rigth... hopefully that helps
2007-03-08 22:50:20 · answer #7 · answered by clumsyrockergrl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a woman, and I do not think you are being controlling. For her to be supposedly just flirting sounds kind of fishy to me...
2007-03-08 22:47:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
PSH no she should be the one listening to you. You have a point. Tell her to get in your shoes and see how she feels about it.
2007-03-08 22:49:45 · answer #9 · answered by carlos a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r a nice guy.
ur gf is not. she FLIRTS. if she can flirt to get free stuff.....what is her value......
what else can she do?
ur relationship with her wont last long. if u wan it to end nicely, end it now.
if not, it might turn bitter.
its not worth ur energy too
2007-03-08 22:53:44 · answer #10 · answered by sylll 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋