Please tell me what go it does to kick a child out of your house?

Question

I've talked to to many teens lately (14-18) who have gotten into a fight with their parents and been asked to leave. What good does this actually do. These teens are angry, alone and scared. What are we actually teaching them about parenting. It is really easy to get rid of a kid, when they do something we don't like kick them out or let them be someone elses responsibility.

Answer 1

I have had many friends that were kicked out and they just end up staying with friends and bad mouthing their parents. In theory it makes them appreciate their parents and their luxuries more but nowadays that doesn't always happen.

Answer 2

Based on experience a child that is unruly and not honor their parents needs some experience on their own.
This is when a parent allows their child room to grow. This is hard for any parent to do. Parents these days want children to do and live based on what they do and how they were raised. Children today live different and are smarter and think they know better than parents and even tries to be the parent. If a parent kick them out then they must keep a close eye and contact on them to make sure they do not get out of line along with the wayward world. A parent should never kick their child under age out but seek counseling if the situation warrants it. Another thing when that child gets out there and see a difference in living , he or she will be glad to come home, when he sees the outer life or persons are not better than home.Children too should understand that no one else gonna take care of them for long periods like parents, especially with no money, unless they strike it with someone rich or someone able to support without needing any help.

Answer 3

Being kicked out often makes teens appreciate their parents and their families more. They think that their friends will take care of them but soon find out that thought their friends like them, everything is always conditional and their families are the only people who actually love them. Being 16 and realizes that you have no mother or father to love you and look after you and kiss you better is really scary

Answer 4

Kicking them out on the street does nothing but hurt them, but sometimes in serious situations, it might be good to arrange different living arrangements for the child, just so the parent and child have time to think without yelling and screaming at each other. Sometimes a breather might be a good thing.

Answer 5

When is enough enough?

My mom put my older brother out at 16. He had stolen the family car for the 3rd time and wrecked it for the 2nd. He smoked pot, skipped school and finally got expelled. Tried to kill me by shooting a target practice arrow at me (I was 8) and it hit me in the chest. (Fortunately it was from quite a distance and bounced off my breast bone. I still bear a scar to this day) Arrested I don't even know how many times for petty theft and assault. Spent time (6 months) in Juvenile detention. NO amount of tough love, counseling (private & family), or understanding helped.

What is a mother to do? It was either she throw him out and save her own sanity or kill him. When she finally threw him out I was 10, and I remember thinking how quiet it was around the house. My brother being removed from the family household was the best thing that ever happened to my childhood.

About my brother: He stayed with a sympathetic family down the road and was just as nasty to them until they threw him out. By then he was old enough to join the Navy with his GED and Mom's signature. He got thrown out of the Navy with a less than honorable discharge and then took up with a young lady. He eventually married her and then it eventually fell apart (drugs/alcholol). Later he went into prision for 7 yrs. and it was the best thing that ever happend to him. He finally stoped and took a good look at where and what was happening in his life. When he got out he was a COMPLETELY different person. I am proud of my brother now; he is a decent human being now.