HELP!!! My six yr old girl hates school. It's the sitting she hates.?

Question

She throws tantrums morning and nite because she hates school so much! It's boring. She even wrote her teacher a letter telling her how boring it is. I want to find alternative schools in Concord NH for her but I'm not having any luck. Any advice anyone could give me would be greatly appreciated. Thank you. I am desperate. I hate to see her in so much pain and the tantrums are destroying our little family.

Answer 1

5 and 6-year-old kids are young for school and your US school system gets them in there too early.In other countries children go to school at the age of 7 and make it pretty well.A 5/6-year-old still wants to play with dolls,not to count and write.Here are the results over your poor kids...

Answer 2

I would suggest the alternative school first. But since you said you were having no luck, I'll give you a couple of other options.

Homeschooling. Don't pay attention to those who cry "socialization" - most areas now have homeschooling groups on the net where you can meet up and she can get to know other kids. And realize that, for homeschoolers, socialization means MANY ages - not just the few closest to HER age. After all, in the workplace (y'know, the REAL world) you don't go from one place to another in lines and sit and learn only with people of your age group.

If homeschooling is not an option, however, you could always have her IQ checked and see if you can move her up a grade or two. She SAYS she's bored - she most likely IS. If she's writing letters to the teacher about her boredom, she's most likely gifted. A higher grade will most likely be more challenging, and help her to focus better - however, be sure the teacher is mindful of the age difference - six year olds do things differently than say, eight year olds.

As far as the tantrums, she seems smart enough to comprehend. Sit her down and TALK to her......and LISTEN as well. See what she thinks she needs, and then keep her informed on your progress in getting her that. And let her know that her tantrums just make things more difficult for your case, as no one will want to help out a child who can't control herself. Give her another option for venting her frustration and anger - like a journal to write her thoughts in, perhaps.

Answer 3

Your description reminds me of this set of helpful articles (on-line):

Help for Children With Learning Disabilities:
- Living With a Learning Disability
- "Sit Still and Pay Attention!"
- Meeting the Challenge
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/1997/2/22/article_01.htm

(In case a link becomes modified, this can be used.) http://watchtower.org/search/search_e.htm

Answer 4

She probably shouldn't be allowed to have tantrums w/o being disciplined for it.

If she is able to write a letter to the teacher at her age, then she is probably gifted and bored, but that does not excuse her behavior. Could you home school her at least the rest of this year, then you'd have the summer to decide what to do for next year? It's not too many months till the end of this school year, and if you hs'ed for 3 months then took the summer off, she'd have 6 months before the next school year and she'd mature and after teaching her at home you'd have an idea of what she needed as an educational experience.

Answer 5

Why don't you try being a parent! Seems like the child is raising you instead of you, as the mother telling the child what she will do and seeing to it that she does it!

She shows her butt because you allow it and you reward her for doing it!

Here you are bragging about the rotten behavior and disrespect she showed by writing A NEGATIVE LETTER to her teacher.

The six (6) year old wrote a letter to the teacher? You said and did nothing about it?
What have you got against discipline?

I mean, you expect everyone else to obey the rules and respect you and your child! Males are not supposed to run up and grab you just because they want to. You cannot bite the fruit in the store because it looks good and you want to. And you expect the teacher to obey all rules concerning children and school!

But YOU are not prepared or teaching your child about rules, acceptable behavior! Most of us get up and go to jobs that we would rather not go to, or perform other activities that must get done but we really would rather not be bothered!

How are you teaching your child about her obligations in life? How are you preparing her!

What she does not like? Where did she get the years of experience to determine what is best for her and how to manage likes and dislikes!

The really sad part about all of this is that there are too many people out there, just like you, not teaching there children a da??? Thing!

We see it in walls sprayed with paint, trash thrown down in the streets, males grabbing females, car part being stolen, students being beat upon by other students! Everyone is crying about how bad it is, and like you, they are helping to make things worse.

Your child does not need another school, she needs her butt heated up and the woman that is responsible for her to grow up and be the mother!

Sure hope I mad you mad! Caue if I did, you will keep thinking this over and over again in your anger!

Yes, i am a parent, two children and even though they had a door on their room they were NEVER allowed to close it!

They did not storm out of the room or yell back at their mother! What was on the table was eaten PERIOD! No decussion!
Today, the daughter is a 2nd lt in the Air Force, the boy is working on his Masters at R.I.T.

I'm just a retired E7 from the US Army!

Answer 6

i think if it's sitting down and pay attention that ails her it could be a.d.d which just means it's hard for her to keep her attention on one thing and focus so ask you doctor it's nothing to be ashamed of just do some research

Answer 7

It isn't the sitting she hates, was she a spoiled child when she was home with mommy or daddy up until school? She isn't in pain she wants her way and her way only. You need to step up as the parent before somebody forces you to put her on ritalin. That or maybe that is the escape from parenting you might want like 100's of 1000's of other parents opt for.

--Observation--
I've noticed that people don't look for truthful answers here they just want somebody to make them feel better for their lack of parenting. They are too easy to put blame where it deserves, granted the government run education here is horrible, but a parent who doesn't prepare a child is just as much to blame. If you want somebody to be a "yes man" you need to go somewhere else.

Answer 8

Hi. I was a kindergarten teacher for a couple of years. I have seen this before. I have known kids to switch from a public school to a Montessori School. A Montessori school gives the child option to do whatever they want to do. It helps kids to interact more with there own imagination and passions

Answer 9

She needs to learn to sit. She's going to have to go through many, many years of sitting. She's young, so she has time to become used to something.

Unless she has a disease or a physical disorder that doesn't allow her to sit, I would recommend you keep her in school and force her to learn to sit.

You could homeschool her if you want, but I wouldn't suggest it as children need to learn to socialize with others.

If she hates school because it's boring, you should try scheduling a conference with her teacher and ask her if she could try making the class more interesting and be more enthusiastic.

Answer 10

just put up with it after awhile of not giving her attention she will stop eventually but also talk to the teacher about taking regular breaks from sitting and let them be able to get up and walk around.