Mother of the bride has to wear beige?

Question

I'm engaged and my mom said that two people have told her that the mother of the bride is supposed to wear beige to the wedding. I've never heard this and she definitely doesn't want to wear beige. Has anyone else heard this and is it really the customary thing?

Answer 1

First of all, the mother of the bride does NOT have to wear beige. That may be a custom among some of your mother's friends, but that is not necessary.

The only guideline is that the M.O.B. not wear a matching wedding dress.

Whatever color you deem appropriate, your wedding colors, a nice pastel or something conservative like navy or dove gray is appropriate.

When I got married, the ENTIRE wedding party wore white.
I had a wedding gown with Alencon lace and hand beading and a chapel length train, my husband wore a white cutaway tuxedo with tails and his light gray eelskin cowboy boot.
The groomsmen had baby blue cummerbunds, ties and vests, the mothers of bride and groom had white on white brocade with a paisley print and my bridesmaids had white on white satin with blue sashes to match the groomsmen's vest.

The photographer said it was the first wedding where everyone was in white that he had ever taken the photos for and he said it was awesome!

Have the mothers wear whatever you deem appropriate and let everyone else stew. It's YOUR big day.

Answer 2

First of all, congratulations!

I recently got married and I did/tried to do TONS of research on everything about weddings-including the apparel. I've never heard that the MOTB has to wear beige. What I've always heard /read is that she shouldn't clash or "upstage" the other members of the bridal party. The MOTB and the MOTG should wear the same/similar colors but not exactly the same dress. Also, they shouldn't wear white-that is reserved for the bride. The MOTB is one of the important people on the big day--after the bride and groom of course-- so she should definately be comfortable (my mom wasn't use to wearing a dress).

Best wishes! Don't worry to much, everything will work out and you'll have a beautiful day!

Answer 3

Usually the mothers get together and decide what sort of dresses they want to wear so that one does not show up the other. The only real color rules I have heard have been to avoid white and be careful with black so you don't look like you are mourning. The idea of beige suggests something to blend into the background, but I think the mothers can wear anything that won't offend the bride (miniskirts, major cleavage, etc). See if you can compromise and agree to the same sort of outfit (pant suit, cocktail dress, whatever) but in different colors that would appeal to their own senses without taking away from the bride.

Answer 4

I've never heard of that. The mother of the bride does not have to wear beige. The mother of the bride and the mother of the groom should wear dresses that don't match or clash with each other or the wedding party, but it doesn't have to be any specific color. When my husband's daughter got married, I wore sage, and his mother wore a champagne color. Beige is so boring, who would ever dictate that rule! lol Tell your mother to pick out a dress, and find out what color the mother of the groom is wearing, so they don't wear the same color or clash.

Answer 5

Formal weddings, Mothers of the bride do not have to wear beige. However, both Mothers of the Bride & Groom usually wear the same color, or near the same shade at least.

Hopefully that helps

Answer 6

That is ridiculous. The mother of the bride does not have to wear beige and usually wears one of the wedding colors or something in a color family close to that. Best Wishes.

Answer 7

If your mom needs tips on what to wear, she can visit this mother of the bride store online (http://www.audreysmotherofthebride.com/) where they cater solely to MOBs and MOGs dresses. Under their "tips and advice" section, it tells her what is the tradition and what/what not to wear. Goes for the mother of the groom as well.

Briefly, the mom of bride chooses her gown first and the color of it complements the colors of the wedding or bridesmaid dresses. Then the mother of the groom follows suit. If MOB wears long, MOG wears long, etc. Their dresses do not match but look similar in colors, length, and formality. So, this means that beige is not the sole color that the mother of bride or even groom can or should wear.

Answer 8

I haven't heard this either, usually I will mix a little tradition and throw the rest out the window. Its your once in a life time wedding. Why let someone else tell your mother what she should or should not wear? As I see it your mother is a very special part of your wedding and she should be allowed to choose something she will feel beautiful in. A color that matches her hair color and skin tone.

Good Luck and Best Wishes

Answer 9

I heard that, too. It was on a show about this wedding coordinator. It's not true. It was started because nobody except the bride is suppose to wear white. Also, VERY traditionally, only a virgin could wear white (SILLY!). But it turned out that it wasn't a real custom at all. So your mother can wear any color she wants, as long as you agree on it.Remember, this is YOUR day. Make it perfect. Don't listen to anyone except those who want to make you happy. Have a GREAT wedding.

Answer 10

No beige honey! Unless of course it matches your wedding party. The mothers of the bride and groom should semi-match, and both should semi-match the theme colors of the wedding. If it is a very informal get to gether she can wear pretty much what she wants.