A couple months ago my best friend, and I mean my BEST friend, the one that I would trust with my life and tell all my secrets to, messed around with a guy that I was kinda dating. Now I say "kinda" because we weren't serious or anything. But we had been seeing each other and messing around for more than 3 years. Then one night I left the bar early to go home and I found out that my best friend left with him and gave him a ********. Now we're kinda talking again, but she keeps asking why we aren't as close anymore. Is she retarded? What am I suppossed to say? Shouldn't she know that it's never gonna be the same? I need advice on what I should say and how I should be acting around her now. I don't trust her at all anymore, and it's really sad cuz we used to be super close. She tells me she can't lose me cuz I'm her only "true friend'. Shouldn't she have thought of that before?
2007-03-08 14:25:12 · 2 answers · asked by Dee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Am I the only person left on earth who really values my friends and thinks that you shouldn't mess around with someone they've been with? I don't care if the relationship was serious or not, I would NEVER do that to any of my friends!!
2007-03-09 06:46:10 · update #1
I think she is a good friend, and those kind are too valuable to throw away. Yes, I agree that what she did is something that i would never do, however, it seems to me that she didn't think this would bother you. Not because she thinks it is OK to have sex with a guy you are dating, but because she didn't think you were really, seriously dating him.
Tell her what you felt and talk with her about what she did and why, too. If your friendship is strong, this is something that you two can work through and have a stronger friendship in the end.
With all that said, if you doesn't realize that having sex with someone you are dating in the future might cause problems, then go ahead and move on.
2007-03-12 09:48:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to send mixed messages, it's going to bite you in the @ss. And that's just what happened.
IF you were serious with this guy, you wouldn't date anyone else and neither would he. BUT- you weren't serious.
So you shouldn't have a problem with who he dates, including your "best friend"
If you want to rescue both relationships, you need to tell BOTH of them how serious you want to be. If she truly is your "best friend" she will hopefully recognise your claim on him, and not go out with him again.
2007-03-08 19:53:54 · answer #2 · answered by Alan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋