I'm pretty, hardworking and I love to have a good time. I just don't understand why guys always back off when they find out I have a kid. I don't want them to be daddy, or even meet my son. I always tell men I have a son right off the bat. They usually call me and then end up standing me up. Why?
2007-03-08 14:24:27 · 21 answers · asked by MJ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And for all you people who think I am a bad person, I am 27, and divorced my husband because he cheated on me.
2007-03-08 14:36:20 · update #1
At the very least, consider yourself lucky. You have an automatic screening system for shallow jerks. You sound wonderful and someone special will find you. You know when you are looking for something it never comes and we can not force good things to happen so!
Love your precious child, focus on the joy that only a child can provide. I understand it is lonely from an adult perspective to not have adult company but too much time pursuing this can take away from your precious little one. Also God will or your ideal of spirituality will provide. Focus.. do not worry, love your child, do not waste your time...love your girlfriends, enjoy their companionship. YOU know where a bad relationship can lead you and leave you. Take your time.
2007-03-08 14:37:20 · answer #1 · answered by Tereka Bodika 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because men r Jerks? Usually, they think all u want is a daddy for ur son, & they don't want that kind of commitment. Keep looking, u'll find some guy that won't be scared 'cause u have a son. I'm a firm believer to tell 'em straight up, u have a kid, if they find out later, they'll think u were trying to hide it to hook 'em. Trust in urself that u're doing the right thing.
I wish nothing but the best for u & ur son.
2007-03-08 14:40:39 · answer #2 · answered by louise b 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
some guys just dont want to get involved with a lady with children because of how you still have to have the relationship with the father of the child and they dont want the hassale of it even though you may say you dont even want them to meet your son but i find thier is nothing wrong with a ready made family i had a relationship with this women for 12yrs and she has 2 boys we drifted apart but were still close friends so see thier is some guys out there who will accept the fact that you have a child and if thay back away from you then you dont need anything to do with them so make certain before trying to get involve with them
2007-03-08 14:44:16 · answer #3 · answered by unknowen 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maximum super adult men does not. you will stumble on a solid one accessible. It relies upon lots on age. while you're on your 20s, forget approximately it. adult men do not want that toddler MaMa Drama. while you're on your 30s, in all probability be ok. by using then this is theory you're settled down and greater mature. I nevertheless do not think of you will get cream of the crop. comparable is going for adult men, females do not choose all that crap.
2016-12-18 08:57:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be discouraged, there are A LOT of people I know who have had kids and have met someone and eventually got married. Let's just say those people that didn't respond well to you having a child were not the right person for you.
Sometimes, you just have to be patient until you find the right person. There is someone for you out there.
2007-03-08 14:29:27 · answer #5 · answered by bbrzt 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Guys automatically think that you're looking for a daddy or that you have too much baggage. Guys want to be the most important thing in a woman's life and if she has a kid that's not going to happen. Besides most men are children themselves.
2007-03-08 14:28:45 · answer #6 · answered by dropkickchick 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Any man who has half a brain will not want to get involved with a woman with a kid. You probably can hook a man with just as much baggage as you though, or one that is abusive/alcoholic/druggie/lazy. Your attitude here is one of ... I just want to use you for a good time. I don't really need anything else. Who would want to waste one time with someone like that. Relationships should be much deeper than that. You having a kid just shows men you have bad judgment and don't know how to use bc. They are afraid of getting used for your own pleasure and not getting anything back.
2007-03-08 14:32:59 · answer #7 · answered by lily 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
They don't want the responsibility. I was there. I was 16 when I had my daughter. They like to know that you can do whatever whenever you please w/o anything holding you back. But don't worry, you'll find someone who wont care. There are some good guys out there.Good Luck and be patient for that one to come along.
2007-03-08 14:28:46 · answer #8 · answered by jessnclh 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
well you should have listened to your parents and every other person in the world who told you to wait. you're the perfect example of why abstinence is the best thing. no one wants to date a girl w/a kid because:
1. it's hard enough getting to know the girl, now we have to get to know some kid.
2. if things get serious we'd have to spend extra money on the some kid who isn't ours.
3. the fact that your all stretched out now.
4. you had unprotected sex, along w/a baby you could have std's
basically you're more of a hassle than girl's who decide to wait. you did this to yourself. did you not expect there to be any consequences?
2007-03-08 14:34:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
i don't think they get the idea that they don't have to be a daddy and plus if you're at least 25 people are probably looking forward to longer lasting relationships which will sooner or later involve you kid so good luck
2007-03-08 14:28:35 · answer #10 · answered by angel 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋