There's this guy who really, really likes me and he goes out of his way a lot for me and I can tell that he has some insecurities (see my other questions for more information if you really want to help). He's always bringing up this other guy that he thinks likes me and talks about how he thinks we're such a perfect couple and goes on and on even though I've said I don't like that guy. He brings him up all the time.
I feel like he needs reassurance that I like him because even though I've told him, it seems like he's trying to feel me out to see if I really do. I haven't kissed him yet (b/c we're not b/f and g/f and if I can't date him, I don't want to lead him on) but I really want to. Even though I tell him I like him, it just doesn't seem enough. He always brings up the other guy and stuff. Plus, he's always telling other people that we're 'g/f and b/f' even though I've told him we're not (and I explained using the reasons aforementioned). What to do?
2007-03-08 14:23:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How do I get him to KNOW that I like him even though I say it.
2007-03-08 14:23:17 · update #1
He's very insecure. But I know how that feels myself... yes, he's basically searching for reassurance. To be honest, he won't ever be fully reassured. He'll constantly need to know you truly like him, which will wear you out.
Talk to him. Explain that you truly do have feelings for him, and that if you two date, he has to accept those feelings will be there for a long time.
Oh, and if you two date, try to just give him small reassurances. A small kiss on the cheek at random times is all it takes. ;)
Now if you'll excuse me, my omellette is ready :P
Good luck!
-AOS
2007-03-08 14:30:01 · answer #1 · answered by Atrophy OS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently someone has cheated on him. You need to tell him that what happened in the past is ruining how you feel about him. Tell him that if he persists in not living in the now with you and leave everyone else out of it that you don't want to spend time with him. Jealousy is a really scarry thing to deal with and a jealous man/boy is a dangerous thing. Sounds like he needs professional help before he blows it. Be careful, anything can set him off.
2007-03-08 22:28:56 · answer #2 · answered by Sue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him that you don't want to hear about other guys that might like you and such. He is very insecure, and the fact that you have not told him how you really feel isn't helping much.
You need to tell him, that is all that should be required. If it isn't, they maybe you need to find someone new.
2007-03-08 22:28:01 · answer #3 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the question is how much do you want him to relax? Elephant tranquilizers are top-notch. But it is easier to sneak up on an elephant with a tranquilizer gun than it is to sneak up on a boyfriend. Sorry I know your question is serious. Hey what about humor?
2007-03-08 22:30:38 · answer #4 · answered by Pluto Corsini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont listen to sir douche bag infront of me or first but anyways, just start talking to him and end conversations with " you know your alrite" or somthing like that, just little things go a long ways unless hes really shy then you have to make a big step. Maybe ask him to go to lunch or movie on weekend, maybe just a little peck of a kiss then leave quick, but dont make it too long or smoochy, you know wut i mean, best of luck on wutever happens
2007-03-08 22:32:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start kissing him, you could even do somthing to him that would really get his attention. you could drop down and get your eagle on girl
2007-03-08 22:27:22 · answer #6 · answered by Marciano 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋