I'm white but he seems to be obscessed with black women with big behinds. I was shocked. I don't know what to think. Does he fantasize about them when he's with me? why would he want to be with me? I am not very shapely like a black woman. I am confused.
2007-03-08 14:15:25 · 17 answers · asked by mariabianchi 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body ➔ Other - Skin & Body
Tell him how you feel. Express your feelings. If he doesn't quit, kick his bootay out da door!
2007-03-08 14:19:01 · answer #1 · answered by ant 2 · 1⤊ 5⤋
So he likes black women. Who cares? My husband likes Asians, and Latino women in addition to black women. He is with you so he must think you are beautiful. I am attracted to people of other races in addition to my own. Just because he likes looking at black women in porn doesn't mean that he isn't attracted to you or in the moment with you when you are intimate. He might sometimes fantasize about black women when he is with you but everyone has fantasies about other people from time to time. Get over yourself he is into you or he wouldn't be with you.
2007-03-12 14:08:24 · answer #2 · answered by On the upside 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to assume that your bf is not black, and to him black women are exotic. Men love women that seem to be exotic. If I were you I wouldn't worry too much, it's just a fantasy thing and if he didn't like you or if he really wanted to be with a black girl he probably wouldn't be with you.
If you want you can ask, he will probably give you a half *** answer and if you ***** about it too much, he'll only think that you're insecure and it might make him shy away from you.
2007-03-08 23:13:57 · answer #3 · answered by lele5240 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't confuse a man's porn collection with his feelings for you. Don't assume that because he has porn, he doesn't care for you. Most men peruse a wide variety of porn throughout their lives. In fact, I wouldn't trust a man who denied any interest in porn. So he's fascinated by black women, would you be happier if he was fascinated by big breasts or big beautiful women or suicide girls(those girls with the tattoos)? If you don't like it, tell him to keep it out of sight.
As for who he's thinking about when he's with you, to paraphrase a scene from Bull Durham; Would you rather he be with you and fantasize about someone else or have him be with someone else while fantasizing about you?
He's with you for a reason.
2007-03-08 23:01:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Most men and women aren't with the person they fantasize about. That's all that it is, is a fantasy.
Don't read into it, if your insecure I would have a chat with your partner.
Good Luck
2007-03-09 01:09:14 · answer #5 · answered by mevanr8x7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a reason he is with you. If he wanted to be with someone else, he would be. Let him have his fantasies. Everyone has SOMETHING they fantasize about... don't get too critical about his. Don't make yourself insecure just because your guy likes big butts. If anything, this is an excuse to over-indulge and eat some ice cream or something. At least he isn't obsessed with like, feet or rape.
2007-03-08 22:20:40 · answer #6 · answered by Randi W 2 · 7⤊ 2⤋
Tell him how you are feeling and if you want answers to those questions, you're gonna have to ask.
2007-03-09 10:48:20 · answer #7 · answered by 4eyed zombie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just pretend you didn't see them or just make a joke out of the situation.
2007-03-08 23:53:34 · answer #8 · answered by L.M.L 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it doesnt mean anything...its just a fetish...besides that...if he was masturbating it probably had nothing to do with you and should not affect how you feel about him...almost all guys masturbate...its a fact of life...what he chooses to look at is no ones business but his own...
2007-03-08 22:28:13 · answer #9 · answered by stuartnin 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I would confront him about it, I wouldn't want to be with a man who prefers what I'm not. Maybe it's just purely sexual and what you two have is the real thing. The only way to know where his heart is...is to ask him.
2007-03-08 22:26:50 · answer #10 · answered by cotton~candy 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋
talk to him about it. tell him if makes you feel uncomfortable. most guys do it. and a lot of white men just have fantasies about being w/ women of color. that's just how it goes.
2007-03-08 22:22:30 · answer #11 · answered by Jess_Dancing_Queen 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋