I care so much about this person and I have tried to be there for them, but I can't do it anymore because it is affecting me to watch them destroy themself! The drugs and the inconsistent, irrational behavior is killing me and I don't know what else to do...
2007-03-08 13:44:50 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I went through the same thing with my step-father he hook up with the wrong crowd and then it really drain the life out of mother as she tried so hard to get him to see what was wrong with him and we even kidnapped him to rehab, but his sorry a*s friend(so-called) went right up there and took him out. It wasn't until he hit rock bottom and ended up in the hospital that he realize he didn't want to lose his family to this life style that he was living and his so-called friends bail on him and didnt even come see him while he was in the hospital either. that also wake him up about his friends also. So in conclusion let your freind hit rock bottom hopefully he'll wake up before it to late or he'll be taking a serious "dirt nap"
2007-03-08 14:45:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help them, they have to help themselves. You are being an enabler or co-dependent (depends on the situation) by always being there for them. The best thing you can do is say "You are an adult, you know what you need to do, you are responsible for your actions and decisions. I love you, but I can't live your life for you". You can empathize, but for your emotional health, you need to draw the lines. Your friend then needs to understand and know not to cross them. Keep the communication open, but, be strong for yourself. If something goes wrong, remember, it is not your fault. You did your best. You can only do so much. God Bless
2007-03-08 21:57:28 · answer #2 · answered by paulette542001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty, You can't. They have to want to help themselves first and this is affecting you now in a negative way, you have to take care of yourself then. Sorry this has not helped much, just my thoughts.
2007-03-08 21:51:27 · answer #3 · answered by homesweethomediana@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well take it from an x addict we don`t really see the damage we are doing to the ones we love ,the drug is the prime directive of the day from the min we wake up.have patience and compassion this person is very sick and needs your help!!
2007-03-08 23:51:58 · answer #4 · answered by nuflicks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if someone doesnt want to help themselves u cant do anything to help them so distance urself and get on with ur life i know thats hard but its what u have to do
2007-03-08 21:56:05 · answer #5 · answered by Robert C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's called tough love. this person needs professional help. until he/she decides they've had enough,stay away from them. when they realize their friends have had enough,i'm fairly certain they'll turn around. it's going to take one or two years for them to see what they did to themselves. please be there for them when they return to the normal life.
2007-03-08 22:01:32 · answer #6 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋