I am 22 years old and I am madly in love with my boyfriend. We've been going together for almost 8 months. I can definitely see myself spending the rest of my life with him. We had one conversation about it and agreed we'd wait til at least one of us was out of college with a career. But, I would like some kind of hint. I don't see a problem in a long engagement. It'll be another 3 years or so until he graduates and I have NO idea how long I'll be going to school. I'm in no hurry to actually be married. But, I want some kind of... assurance, I guess? I don't really know how to put it into words very well. But, hopefully someone out there knows what I'm talking about.
2007-03-08 13:38:13 · 15 answers · asked by carebear_grl21 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I haven't brought up the topic since we had that single conversation about 3 months ago. But, I know he does love me and saying goodbye is getting harder and harder.
2007-03-08 13:46:57 · update #1
When we're young and relationships are easy, we want every promise there is that it will never end or change. The fact is, that things do change and as much as we want to believe that this is our 'true love' and could 'never, ever love another', the fact is that we could.
Take your time, don't rush him into a promise that he is obviously not ready to make. Talk about your dreams and enjoy the moment but don't be in a hurry cause as soon as you insist on getting some kind of assurance, you can be assured.... things will change. You don't want to push anyone away.... enjoy what you have and you'll be all the better off.
2007-03-16 13:40:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait. 8 months is not really a long time to really get to know someone. Be happy that he is not affraid to discuss these things. Wait and see what happens, you may change how you feel, he may change how he feels. There is plenty of time, don't rush such an important decision. And don't push him to make this decision either, it's surest way to push him away.
Stay happy and positive and you will be the most attractive girl in the world to him. When he's ready you can get married.
2007-03-08 21:45:30 · answer #2 · answered by yutu34 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you must, just mention casually that it would be fine with you if the two of you were engaged. Just that and Then drop it and let him do the doing. If you keep bringing it up then he won't like it and he won't think it is his idea. The power of suggestion is a good thing, but beware turning into a nag about it if he doesn't respond.
2007-03-08 21:43:33 · answer #3 · answered by Sue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, this is sticky. I can understand his choice to want to wait until one of you has a career. But also I wonder if he's just making excuses. But it's not so much about what he wants, it's about what you want. There's is no garauntee that you two will get married, so if you're willing to wait and see then do that. But if you are ready to be married, that's what you want to do. If he doesn't want what you want then maybe it's not meant to be. But just decide how long are you willing to wait.
2007-03-08 21:47:03 · answer #4 · answered by beanie_babymama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you push the question, especially after the two of you agreed to wait a while you will push him away. If it is meant to be, it is meant to be. Don't spoil it and demand a comittment before it is needed. Relax and have fun and show him that you are the best possible person to be with.
2007-03-08 21:44:46 · answer #5 · answered by ttpawpaw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him how he feels about engagements? not in relation to you, but just as a question. it might be that u and him are on different levels right now and u r spending more time thinking about marrying him, than he does about marrying u. he suggested to wait, means he is not ready,he didnt even think about it.
2007-03-08 21:42:41 · answer #6 · answered by Mystery_gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about you buy the ring and get down on one knee. Then you want have to hint cause you already asked.
2007-03-16 15:59:12 · answer #7 · answered by tarakootenay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him a lot of guys are hitting on you, so u need a ring of confirmation that ur engaged.......i tried that and it didnt work for me but it might work for u.. lol
2007-03-16 20:12:31 · answer #8 · answered by DesiGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no guarantees in life,so carry on and see what happens.
an engagement ring would be nice once college is over.
2007-03-08 21:42:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you said, you might want to get engaged. Good luck.
2007-03-08 21:44:25 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋