i am 36 and a fitness enthusiast . now i have never been able to settle down with a girl with that perfect waist . now i am getting older .... so i have met a very decent high school teacher .. extremely nice aged 30 . the only point i am stuck up on is that she is 5 ' 3 " and 158 LBS . am i being shallow , callow , feel free to write whatever you want in the frankest possible language .
2007-03-08 13:38:04 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No. You are attracted to a certain look, as nature intended it to be. We are all attracted and repelled by different things. Take it from me: if you settle on something that is only slightly bothering you now, you will be sorry later. Those "little" things that kind of turn us off in the beginning, end up being HUGE issues, later in the relationship. If the weight is an issue, perhaps you could work out with her and help her learn to live a healthy lifestyle. You should also let her know that this is an important issue to you, so when she gets comfortable and settles down, she won't decide that it is okay to veg out and hit 188. If she doesn't want to work on living a healthy life, then maybe this is not the person you want to be around? But, if she will commit to an exercise regime with you, and YOU are willing to work with her (and happy with her company in that setting), then why give up on extremely nice and the possibility of you having a satisfying relationship?
2007-03-08 13:51:34 · answer #1 · answered by mad_madison_maiden_x 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little, but we all have preferences when it comes to dating, and it's fine to only feel attracted to a certain type. Just realize though you might miss out on some very great people. If you really like her maybe try and get her to come to the gym with you. It may not work though she might just be built that way no matter what.
Go on a few dates, see how much it bothers you. It may sound shallow but no matter how much you care about someone, if you do not find them attractive there will be sexaul problems. But remeber sometimes when you get to know someone you don't even notice those flaws anymore.
2007-03-08 21:46:04 · answer #2 · answered by krissy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, i'd say your being a bit shallow but at the same time, you might consider sparing both your feelings if your not 100% sold on the girl. But remember, looks aren't here forever, so factor that into your desision. Plus my mom was like not that thin, but then she started working out at 38 and got an amazing body. You could work out with her if its that big of an issue!
2007-03-08 21:45:07 · answer #3 · answered by Alexis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you chose your partner based on her look or build, you will be unhappy. Looks only go so far, and a "perfect" waist is an illusion.
Is she comfortable with her body? Because women who obsess about their weight... they're just a tiny but neurotic and high maintenance.
Maybe if you two get involved, she will go with you to the gym. Or maybe at 36 it's time to learn that you don't get to chose your partners from a Victoria's Secret catalog.
2007-03-08 21:43:48 · answer #4 · answered by kelannde 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u are. if ur thinking about settling down, and the teacher lady is a perfect choice, u should be able to look past some of her flaws.
but i understand what ur going on about, everybody wants the best for themselves.
2007-03-08 21:43:29 · answer #5 · answered by Nanook~Maybe I need a longer Name?~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not really, I mean you can't help what you're attracted to and why people want to force themselves to like someone is beyond me...however, I think people miss out on so many great relationships on silly physical things like "waist size" that can be changed through exercise, diet, liposuction and however else......I try to remember that the physical part can change..the personality, decency and character of a person is a totally different thing
2007-03-08 21:47:32 · answer #6 · answered by lata 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly. yes. i mean if u like this teacher and ur comfortable with her and enjoy spending time with her. what does weight or height have to do with it. if you really like this person don't let them go because they don't look like a model. that could be the love of ur life. u never know
2007-03-08 21:42:32 · answer #7 · answered by prchik 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep dude ur being shallow ........ looks can only go so far ....... it truly is the person inside that truly matters
2007-03-08 21:44:39 · answer #8 · answered by Robert C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your choice is yours to make, it shouldn't matter what we think. Whatever makes you happy makes us happy.
2007-03-08 21:41:44 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. Smarty Pants 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bro...if u have to ask the question...than u know it prob is shallow
2007-03-08 21:45:00 · answer #10 · answered by PHX SUNS r GOIN to da 'SHip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋