So there's this guy who's so sweet and fun. He's my mixed doubles partner on the tennis team and we always have so much fun playing. I'm really comfortable around him and we can talk about real stuff. I feel like we have a good, real relationship. I also really like flirting with him, and so does he. I pretty much know that I'm giving him the right signals and everything for him to like me. I just found out from a friend that he does like me, too. Today at tennis it wasn't even weird or anything. We just laughed and stuff and he drove me around in my car. He's a good Christian, my mom loves him, and he cooks. He's cute, too. It can't get better, right? But I'm not sure if I like him like him. I'm just not drawn to him, you know? Like, I'm not sure if I want to kiss him or anything..... Should I go for it anyways?
2007-03-08 13:36:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To matt, it's not that he isn't "super attractive," because he is. It's that I'm not super attracted to him- it's a chemistry thing, which is not something you can help.
2007-03-08 14:04:47 · update #1
Yes..you need to try it or you will always wonder..what if.......... you seem to really like each other and that is a great start ..maybe this could be the start of something great....I repeat Yes..do it
2007-03-08 13:41:57 · answer #1 · answered by connie b 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
By "like him like him" do you mean love him? You said you are giving him the right signals. Signals for what? If you like him then give it a try. You don't have to love him to go on some dates with him. That is what life is about. Meeting different people until you find the right one. Who knows maybe you will end up liking him liking him. If not that is ok also. Love at first sight doesn't always happen.
2007-03-08 14:10:35 · answer #2 · answered by Jodie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to be so picky about who you date?
Personally I don't think I would want to date you because you seem a little shallow to me my dear, this guy has all this in common with you, your mom likes him, he is a good christian, he is cute, he can cook, but you don't find him super attractive, so your thinking he isn't good enough for you?
Why do you have to be so attracted to him that you can't wait to kiss him? I mean really!
I can't say I am super attracted to a girl I am about to date either. She has just average looks, suffers from several disabilities, is 53 years old, is a mom, and lives several states away. But you know what I am not the shallow guy I once was in high school, I really like this person and I don't care about her looks. She is everything I want in a women, she is a beutiful person on the inside, it has been a while since anyone has treated me so nice and she is so sweet to me. Our compatibility profile's are almost identical. I can't wait to meet her.
2007-03-08 13:57:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay, I think that no matter how nice a guy is if you dont like him dont go out with him and break his heart when you break up with him cause u dont like him. No one deserves that. BUT from what i just read you really need to stop the "i like you signals" if you dont like him...but i kinda think you do. but if you dont tell him u like him a lot as a friend and that will basically let him know ur not interested.
2007-03-08 13:43:03 · answer #4 · answered by afogirl101 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give it a try... Keep on hanging around with him. NO one says you have to marry him. If you enjoy it and to not lead him on then there is nothing wrong. YOu might want to have the Talk.
2007-03-08 13:42:23 · answer #5 · answered by chad R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think you should go out with him to get to know him better. its always better to be loved than to love. when things have fallen into place kissing him or more will follow. dating him, if you enjoy his company, will be pleasant to you and you'll realize that there's a deeper meaning to him and you will look past the physical attraction.
2007-03-08 13:49:49 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would go for it anyway worst comes to worst you will break up but at least you know it was worth a shot you might end up with more cemistry then you thought and hit it off really well. best of luck
2007-03-08 13:40:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your Prince Charming.
2007-03-08 13:40:44 · answer #8 · answered by ttpawpaw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happened to me once....I took the chance and he turned out to be the great love of my life.
2007-03-08 13:44:47 · answer #9 · answered by LolaCorolla 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should.........ever meet a person you knew you wouldn't like then wound up being good friends with them? Could be the same thing here......give it ashot..it's not like you had plans
2007-03-08 13:41:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋