Is my New BF an Alcoholic ?

Question

I'm a bit concerned that a guy I'm dating may be or become an alcoholic.
He is 32 and I'm 30. I drink socially but could live without alcohol.
I come from a family with 2 drunk uncles & have watched their health fall apart. I could really care about this guy, but need to know how bad his drinking seems.
Weve known each other 3 months. Half his stories are about drinking. He has even told me he has driven drunk a few times and I lectured him about it. That is not cool with me EVER.
Next he tells me he drinks about 4-5 times a week.
The last time we went out he had glass of wine, then half bottle of wine, then another glass of wine &a double stolis.
Is this a lot ? I said he was damaging his liver and he said the damage was done long ago.
Sigh. He said he wants to marry a nice proper girl who also drinks like a fish. (great marry a drinking buddy who won't judge him) Its sad because he is sweet, funny, smart guy otherwise.
What should I do about him ? Is he too far gone. ?

Answer 1

He is far, far gone. You have been with him 3 months too long. Time for you to say goodbye. Thank your lucky stars he's talked about this. What kind of a future will you have with an alcoholic. Eventually his life will become unmanageable and if you plan to hang around so will yours. Alcohol is a depressant. He may seem or be sweet, funny, and a smart guy now, but that's only because he is under the influence. What future will you have with him? Not to mention children with him or if you have any of your own would you want to have them around him. You sound like an intelligent person do the right think and get out while you can. Good Luck!

Answer 2

Here is a basic guideline to use when trying to determine if someone has a drinking problem: For adult males anything over 14 drinks (1-1oz. shot of liquor, 1-6 oz. glass of wine, 1-12 oz. can/bottle of beer) in one 7 day week may be considered problematic drinking. Usually one would look for patterns of 14+ drinks per week. If someone did this like once in their life, then it may have been a fluke. If it occurs say once a month regularly then there's probably a problem. For adult females anything over 7 alcohol drinks in a week, keeping in mind a regular pattern, might be considered problematic. Many alcoholics deny they have a problem because they believe they can handle their alcohol just fine, but if he drinks and drives then he is endangering not only himself but others, too. If I were you, I'd politely see your way out of the relationship before things get worse.

Answer 3

if you really care about him and if he cares about you (you have to know for sure) you should confront him with it. tell him that he is being unhealthy but dont do it in a judging way (if thats possible). alcoholics are fun sometimes but most of the time theyre reckless, irresponsible and immature. some people just dont know how to deal with alcohol, maybe he is one of them. if he doesnt listen you should break up with him because youre only looking out for his wellbeing.. and your own! god forbid he told you he was sober then got in an accident or something with you in the car!

Answer 4

If you are able to tolerate his drinking habits. If not, you got to lose him or else you will regret for the rest of your life. Good luck.

Answer 5

I think you know the answer to your own question.
Does the future look bright? Run like hell.

Answer 6

Run for your life...............
He isn't funny at all. Drunks can be very sweet, but in the long run, it's all sour.

Answer 7

yeah he is and there is nothing u can really do unless he really wants to help himself. let him know how u feel about it and maybe he will change his mind.

Answer 8

try to get him to agree to go to and alcoholic anonymous class