My big sister told me that she needs to stay with my boyfriend and I for a month. She says that she's depressed and she needs some "away time" from her kids. Her plan is to go through a cleansing process with includes dieting, exercising and a job search near my place. She just used my boyfriends credit card for a membership at "Sugardaddie.com" (without permission). I love my sister, but this may cause a few problems. what should I do? Should I let her stay?
2007-03-08 13:19:06 · 11 answers · asked by Donna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
sure why not
2007-03-09 04:38:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the full circumstances of your sister's situation, but if it were me I would suggest she gets some counseling, because if she is as depressed as she says, running away isn't going to make things any better for her. Not to mention the stress it will cause on your relationship with your boyfriend. I've let my family members and my boyfriends family members stay in the past and it didn't end well. I would support your sister, but not in your home. Not to mention SHE HAS KIDS, they need her.
2007-03-08 13:33:09 · answer #2 · answered by mrskittycat76 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough LOVE!!!
She is a user.
She needs to put her kids first.
YoU need to put yourself and your relationship and your home and boundaries first.
Relatives come and visit, they don't move in for a month, use someone's credit card, and mooch!!!
Get her outta your house.
Tell her NO!!
Cancel the credit card, and report her use as fraud.
You are only gonna have trouble.
This is between you and your sister.
So be strong, and tell her NO WAY!!!
Company is like fish, it starts to smell in 2-3 days.
Tell her she needs to do this at her own friend's house.
This "finding herself" is not your issue.
She needs to do this on her own, by herself, or go back home to her kids.
she is being a selfish, manipulate, untrustworthy B!!
then when you are done telling her, call your parents.
Have your B/friend at home in the other room when you tell her, and have him put her stuff on the curb.
at the most, pay for 1 night at hotel in CASH!!!
cancel your credit cards, and anything else she may have stolen from you. or borrowed in her words.
tell her to go find a sober living or 1/2 way house.
2007-03-08 13:27:30 · answer #3 · answered by Lilly 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she is using credit cards without permission, you will have alot of problems if she moves in, and it sounds as though she plans on living there longer than one month before you know it her kids will be there too.
2007-03-08 13:24:38 · answer #4 · answered by dpascoe8692 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it sounds like its going to be trouble from the beginning, it probably will be. Use your best judgement.
I lived with my sister and we get along very well, but it was a disaster and there were hard feelings when it was all said and done.
2007-03-08 13:24:19 · answer #5 · answered by dewdrop034 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Family is family. No matter what she has done. My family has helped me in the same situation also many times! Dont close the door on your sister. Never shut your family out, but lay down some rules, and make sure she is aware who is the boss in your apartment, (which is you and your bf)... :)
2007-03-08 13:24:26 · answer #6 · answered by se3 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tough love, say you'll be glad to find her a place near her that isn't very expensive, but once you get her it sounds like she'll never leave.
2007-03-08 13:22:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you should seriously set some barriers with your sister when it comes to living with you and your boyfriend for a month.
looks like she is stepping over the line already. talk to her and be honest with her about things.
2007-03-08 13:22:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, she is your own flesh and blood, and she has problems and with staying with you it would help her figure them out. I say it is worth a shot. Good Luck!
2007-03-08 13:34:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not if she's acting like that
2007-03-08 13:26:57 · answer #10 · answered by lata 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋