What I mean is how much freedom should she have and also how much privacy should I give her.
2007-03-08 13:17:06 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You should always know where she is and who she is with... but I personally think at that age, dropping them off at the movies or the mall for an hour is ok. The internet is a dangerous place, and no matter how many parental controls you put on, I wouldn't be comfortable leaving her alone with the computer for any real length of time.
As for how much privacy she deserves, she deserves alot, don't snoop in her journal or dig through her backpack without warning unless there's a reason to suspect something is not right. You are the parent and you know when something is wrong... trust your instincts. It is ok to read that journal if you think your daughter is cutting herself, or contemplating suicide, or hanging out with an older boy and acting strange. It's your job to protect her.
2007-03-08 13:28:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how much you trust her. Let her know that. My daughter asked when she would be able to walk to school alone. I told her when she was in high school, but that I also need to trust her. Right now we have a very open relationship. I trust her. Has your daughter ever lied to you? I feel that children need to earn their privacy and freedom. That is very important to us. And of course whatever is age appropriate. I told my daughter that if she wants any kind of privacy or freedom she needs to open and honest. I need to trust that she would make the right decisions when I am not present. Trust, very important.
2007-03-08 13:28:55 · answer #2 · answered by WALACPL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Freedom to do what? Privacy for what? It depends. If she's trying to withdraw from family life and activities that's not normal though.
My 11yo can be alone in his room to talk on the phone or just have time to himself. He can go to friends' houses when there are parents there. If we are out as a family and he wants to go in certain store on his own or something like that he's allowed to, but he's not not allowed, for example, to "hang out" at the mall or stuff like that. 10 and 11yo shouldn't be totally unsupervised IMO.
Again, it all depends on what sort of things she wants to do and your judgment as her parent.
2007-03-08 13:25:58 · answer #3 · answered by Deb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how responsible she is and if you trust her.
Start off with little freedom like giving time curfews, if she comes home on time then give her more times to go out. If she blows it then step back.
2007-03-08 18:19:13 · answer #4 · answered by pinkmalibu442 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should be allowed to answer the phone and be able to talk on it.
She should be able to go on the computer and go on the Internet with limited websites.
She should be allowed to pick out her own clothes, take a shower by herself.
She should be able to get her own snacks and choose what she wants to eat.
She should be able to spend the night at friends' houses and have friends over at her's.
She should be able to stay up till at least 9:00 on school nights.
She should NOT have a cell phone yet.
She should NOT be able to go places without supervision (movies, mall)
2007-03-08 15:06:03 · answer #5 · answered by em<3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
However much makes you feel comfy!!!
2007-03-08 13:21:23 · answer #6 · answered by mominkansas03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋