I'm afraid I'm depressed.?

Question

Over the past three months, I have noticed very dramatic changes in the way I behave, act, think, and feel, but no one else seems to notice. I feel worthless for no apparent reason, guilty, and like I don't deserve anything good. I have been having terrible headaches, backaches, and I don't feel like doing much of anything anymore. I feel not as good as others when I walk anywhere, and like people are constantly judging me, when they probably aren't. I feel tired, and a lot of the time I oversleep or stay awake really late at night when I am really tired. Things that used to be fun seem like a chore. I feel miserable. I feel very anxious sometimes, I don't want to see people, and sometimes I'm scared to be left alone. The worst part about this is that I can't tell my parents, because I don't have a relationship with them....They don't care about my feelings at all. I am alone........and I don't know what to do. I'm only in 7th grade, so it's not like I can go anywhere. Help Me Please.

I don't tell my parents because I don't like to talk to them. I have hinted a few things to my mom and dad. My dad seems to think "the farther you go away from god, the more depressed you get, go to god, you'll be happy" I don't believe in any god. I have tried to believe again, but it doesn't work for me. I don't trust this "god" he does nothing for me. As for my mom, like today in our car for example...."I feel sad and I am not hungry lately." she says "oh, and?" or something stupid like that. I stay in my room all day. I am totally sure that I hint something is wrong to them, but they don't even bother to ask me if I am ok. They don't even bother to ask me how my day at school went. What kind of parents are these?

I have tried cutting a little bit, but I didn't really like the effect it had on me, I was already ashamed of my body and I didn't want to add to it.

I have no one to talk to about this at all, because I don't fully trust anyone, not even myself. I don't have any relationship with my parents and they have none with me. Sometimes I talk to my dad about rabbits, whoopie. I usually talk to my parents maybe twice a week.I always try to hide it around school, but not when I am at home. At one point in time, I was worried that I gave away too much information, but they didn't seem to notice. At school, it's like I put on a happy mask. I seem normal, but I usually brake down halfway during the day and go to the nurse's office for a little break and ice for my head.

Suzan K, I appreciate the effort, but seriously, do you think that it is going to work? I have tried so many times to convince myself I'm happy, but life living a lie, is worse than no life at all. I know it's easy to give someone advice to get off their butt and be proud of who they are, but I don't operate like that. I am a person who will put myself down no matter how much people tell me that I am worth the time. I can't change who I am; I don't think anyone can.

I crochett, sew, and play the piano. I think I'm going to quit because these things don't make me happy anymore

Answer 1

Well actually you can go to your guidance counselor and tell them your relationship with your parents and ask for their help. But on top of that, who cares what your parents think, you are important and you know you need help by your description. So get it for yourself. Call your family doctor and ask for his or her help. They can't tell your parents. Most young people kill themselves from depression than anything else. Please get help. You truly sound like an intelligent young person with a lot of goods things in the future. And if could be something simple like a hormonal imbalance which can be fixed by your doctor. Would it be something if it were that simple!!!!!!

Answer 2

It sounds like the Zoloft and the therapy are not working for you. It's time to call your psychiatrist or whomever prescribes your Zoloft and tell them that you are feeling very depressed and isolated. It is very common when you are depressed to become isolated and to feel as though you just can't fit in with everybody else. Your entire perception of the world and life can be distorted because your brain isn't functioning normally. It's not uncommon to have trust issues when you have depression, especially if people have let you down in the past. My suggestion to you is to be more proactive on getting help that works. If your therapist isn't the right one, look for another one. If your medication isn't being helpful then ask about trying something different. Chances are you won't find the right medication the first time around. Sometimes you have to be on higher dosages or even combinations of meds to get a good result. Sometimes they don't work for some people. Every body is different. You need to work on feeling better, then start trying to take some small steps with socializing. It won't happen instantly. I have had depression and anxiety since childhood and it took me a long time to adapt to the outside world. I didn't have a mother I could count on so be glad that you have a supportive parent... Good luck....

Answer 3

I'm guessing that you are about 12 or 13 years old. That's a tough age. There are a lot of big changes to your body that happen around that time. Not to mention more stuff is being expected of you because you're growing up. The way that you are feeling could be a result of changes in your body (like hormones etc.) or things to do with your family life or school (or both). If you can't talk to your parents, do you have another adult around that you feel comfortable talking to? Aunt, uncle, cousin.....or perhaps a family friend...coach...counselor...etc. Can you get your parents to make you an appointment with your doctor? Just tell your parents that you are having headaches. Perhaps you can discuss what is going on with your doctor.

!!!! Don't cut! Don't start something that you may not be able to stop later.

Talk to someone. You can do this.

Answer 4

Yes sweetie, it sounds like you are depressed. I can relate, as it sounds like you're telling my story. Your body is changing and that has a lot to do with it. You are aware of what you feel and that's good too. You say your parents don't care. Often, we think that but it's just the oppossite. They are at a loss and don't know what to do either. Have you tried telling them? If so, and they don't give you time to listen, find a trusting adult. Possibly a teacher, someone at church? Confide in them. Sometimes all it takes to get out of the slump is to tell someone. I used to write it all down in a journal, still do. THat's some of the best therapy for me. After I get it on paper, I feel so much better, like I had just talked to someone. I also pray. You can't stay that way, it's no good, but you already know that. Chin up.

Answer 5

I wish I had recognized these symptoms when I was in the 7th grade. You are profoundly depressed and it is something MANY people go through but very often they don't question it. If you had a toothache, where would you go? To the dentist of course. How about a broken bone? Again .to someone who can take care of it properly for you. When you suffer guilt without cause and have feelings of worthlessness that are unfounded then your "mind" is in distress so you should see a professional that can guide you through your ailment. See a school counselor and then a psychologist and I'm sure you will begin to heal.

Answer 6

i see that this is a big concern for you.

but let me suggest : depressed is not the word...but anxious.
depressed is such a strong word...

stress is a causative factor...another is ur irregular sleeping pattern...

what ur experiencing now is what we call "Stress Disorder"

The treatment for this is in you...yes, you.

here's a hint:

- take some rest. i know u need one.
- have some healthy food
- try to minimize ur coffee intake for now...k?
- don't worry too much. (having ur question answered now means someone cares and u r not worthless)
- no one is worthless.
- be wary of thoughts, they betray u sometimes. sometimes, we may tend to believe somethings that are not true at all...
- ur parents...try reaching out. it's not that u don't have any relationship with them...well, YOU HAVE. u just seem not to notice/recognize it...a relationship is 2 way...u give then receive, and vice versa...u have to participate.
- don't take things too seriously...RELAX.

i hope this helps...note me if you have any concerns...have a great day!

Answer 7

Yes! You do have depression or so it sure does sound that way. You may also have diabetes or thyroid diease. Talk with your school counselor/nurse or a teacher. I would not keep this to myself. Whatever it is it will not get any better without seeking medical attention. Call social services in your phone book or talk with your minister or coach some one who will listen, and take you seriously. I would even call 911 from a pay phone, ( if you do not want your family to know) and talk with them. They may can get you to the hospital or help in some way.

Answer 8

Sweetie you don't have to worry too much, everything will come to it's place. Many people feel bad some days of their life.
Look in the mirror, smile to yourself, and ask yourself if your schoolmates are worth to be better than you? I am sure that you are as intelligent, as sensitive, as beautiful as them, even better. Why should you feel inferior to them? YOUR CLASSMATES AND NEIGHBOURS ARE NOT BETTER THAN YOU!!!
Why should you label yourself as a depressed person?
Do you know how much medication doctors give to depressed people, and these medication are addictive and can harm your liver.
You can go to a counsellor, and to different teachers, but I don't advise you to go to a doctor, as doctors are looking for people like you to sell those antidepressant medication.
I repeat that is not depression for you to go to a doctor.
If you want to come out of this kind of situation, LEARN SOMETHING NEW, AND YOU WILL BE VERY HAPPY FOR THAT IN THE NEAR FUTURE AND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. For example a music instrument, as guitar, or accordion, or a new language, or crocheting, or makrame, or some distance interesting learning subjects, as how to prepare wine, or soap, or how to repair some devices as TV, or reading about psychology, to better understand people around you. You can also go to the library and read about successful communication, to be able to be assertive, in order to feel more self-confident. When you feel more self-confident, you will feel happier, and out of that sad condition youre in.
You have to keep yourself busy, to forget about this temporary condition.
You can also adopt a pet, or buy a pair of budgies, or love birds, that you will love, and forget totally about your sadness.

Good luck!!! So many answerers care about you, you will never be alone in this world.

Answer 9

OMG. i feel the same way. the exact same way. Im in the 7th grade too. and im 12. Just want to let you know, you are not alone.