I'm 15 years old and i think everybody makes mistakes in their life. I had an abortion about 4 months ago?

Question

somehow i still feel gulity about what i've done and i really want to know if god forgave me. I was 23 weeks when i had it and this month was suppose to be the month for me to give birth. I know i'llprobably be sad all this month but ill get through it. Somehow i wish i could have kept my baby boy but my parents didn't know and i was scared to tell them. they didnt find out until i was like 21 weeks and someone told, thats how they found out. you can have an abortion until you're 24 weeks i was 23. sometimes i think if it was meant to be because i could've went to 24 without anyone knowing and saved my baby.

Answer 1

Don't pay any attention to the people insulting you in their answers. They are not you, they don't know you, or your situation. If you have access to psychotherapy, get yourself some. You will feel guilty about this for years to come, but do not worry, God forgives all.
I am serious about the counseling. If you don't know where to go, or who to see, call the place where you had the abortion, they will know where to send you. Your feelings of guilt are not uncommon, in fact they are normal. Talk to your mother, if you can, she will understand how you feel and will probably help you get counseling. If you cannot afford it, or don't have health insurance, your state probably provides it for free, especially to teens. THIS IS IMPORTANT.
And remember what I said about the negative comments you may read here. You may have waited a long time before you terminated your pregnancy, but you are too young to be a mother. Your baby boy is with God, and he doesn't hate you and neither does God.
Email me anytime you want to.

Answer 2

I personally believe that abortion should not be allowed that late in the pregnancy. However, I believe abortion is a necessary evil. I do think it should only be allowed up to 11 weeks or so.
I too had an abortion when I was fifteen at 10 weeks. I know in my head it was the right decision but in my heart I have been unable to forgive myself. The hurt will never go away completely, you will always mourn your child. It is a really difficult choice for anyone and only someone without a heart could do it without guilt or remorse.
It sounds like your parents possibly forced you to have the abortion.
Regardless of how or why it happened try hard to forgive yourself, learn from your mistake, and do whatever you have to do to make sure you never have to face this choice again. Do not get pregnant again until you are ready to take care of a child. Whether by contraception or abstinence.

P.S. At 29 I had a planned pregnancy with my husband of 7 years and now have a beautiful 3 yr. old. Life will go on and it even can be really good!

Answer 3

To start out with God is a forgiving God!!!! If you have asked for forgiveness it has been granted!!!! Praise God and move on with your life! I too have had an abortion in the past -I was not as young as you however, I knew that I could not handle the responsibility of raising a child. I know that there are a ton of varying opinions about what you did from outsiders. My first major piece of advice is that you can't share you situation with everyone- you see some of the horrible comments that you have received from other people on the Yahoo answers site. If you need someone else to talk to call the agency where you went for your procedure- you will get the support that you need. Not ridicule for something that is already over and done with. Secondly you will go on to have a successful life and children later when you choose!!!! PLEASE GET BIRTH CONTROL if they did not give you anything when you left the clinic. May God Bless and Keep you!!! Peace will eventually come with time.

Answer 4

I am so sorry you are going through this at 15 years old. You are right this is going to be a very hard month for you and probably will for a very long time. Please remember, you needed to have medical attention when you are having a baby to keep you and the baby healthy hiding was not the best route to go. Having a baby is also a life time career (there are many adults that aren't even able to handle that) not one to be taken lightly. Everyone does make mistakes and it depends on what you do with this experience that can make it better for you. No one should be judging you. You should work on being a 15 year old right now and make a good life for you and then work on having a child when you are older. Best of luck.

Answer 5

You're right... everyone makes mistakes. Learn from it and try to let go of your guilt. At just 15, sweetie, it would have been too hard to keep a baby. I was 23 when I had my first, had worked in preschools for 6 years, and I still don't feel that I was prepared! : ) It takes a lot to parent, and you deserve this time to just be a kid. If you can't willingly tell your parents when you are in need like that (you obviously weren't getting prenatal care, or someone would have told them before that), then you aren't ready to face the enormous responsibility of parenting yet. Be a kid for now. Leave parenting to your parents, and wait til you are much older to have kids. I'm truly sorry for your loss- I had a miscarriage and an abortion (medical reasons), and I know what it feels like to lose someone living inside you. You have to know that you made the choice right for you at this time in your life. Be a kid for as long as you can.

Answer 6

Listen sweetie, I've been there and I was also 15 at the time. I was scarred to death, overwhelmed with guilt and felt like I didnt deserve to be forgiven. But the truth is, we arent ready at that age to take on such a big responsibility, and not to mention everything we would miss in our own adolescents. I've learned that its better to regret having an abortion then regret having had a baby or missed out on your teen years. Someday when you're older and ready you will have a second chance and you will appreciate, love and cherish that experience so much more.

Answer 7

One aspect of the legal abortion regime now inplace has been determining when the fetus is "viable" outside the womb as a measure of when the "life" of the fetus is its own (and therefore subject to being protected by the state). In the majority opinion delivered by the court in Roe v. Wade, viability was defined as "potentially able to live outside the woman's womb, albeit with artificial aid. Viability is usually placed at about seven months (28 weeks) but may occur earlier, even at 24 weeks." When the court ruled in 1973, the then-current medical technology suggested that viability could occur as early as 24 weeks. Advances over the past three decades have allowed fetuses that are a few weeks less than 24 weeks old to survive outside the woman's womb. These scientific breakthroughs have been life-saving for premature babies, and also life-saving for now-viable fetuses who would have been subject to being aborted.

Though abortion is legal in many Western European countries, the procedure is more widely available in the United States. U.S. abortion law, in terms of how late an abortion may take place, is far more permissive than that of other nations such as France, Germany, and the United Kingdom. For instance, in France, unless the fetus is severely deformed or the woman's health is at risk, any abortion after the first ten weeks is illegal. Canada is more permissive, granting abortion on demand, while Australia places heavier restrictions on the procedure.

The legality of abortion in the United States is frequently a major issue in nomination battles for the U.S. Supreme Court. And, the Supreme Court continues to grapple with cases on the subject, such as the case of Gonzales v. Carhart involving what is called partial birth abortion. The Court heard oral arguments in that case during November of 2006.

Because of the split between federal and state law, access to abortion continues to vary somewhat by state. Likewise, some state health programs which poor women rely on for their health care do not cover abortions, whereas other states offer or require such coverage.

Answer 8

If you ask God to forgive you and if you are truly sorry for what you have done, God will forgive you. You seem really remorseful and I'm sure God has forgiven you. Maybe you could talk to your parents now and tell them what you're going through. You need support. We all make mistakes. I had two abortions and you never forget it, but you also need to learn from it. If you're going to have sex, please protect yourself. Not only from pregnancy, but from STD's, especially HIV. Start caring about yourself. Maybe get closer to God. That's what helped me. You sound like a real good person. You're very young. Some day, you'll marry and have children with your husband. Right now, take care of yourself and protect yourself. Talk to people who care. Surround yourself with positive people. Maybe find a church in your area to go to. They have alot of stuff going on for young people and they won't judge you. In time, you'll know when the time is right to have a baby. Take good care of yourself.

Answer 9

I feel your pain. I've never had an abortion but I can understand the hurt. Who's to say who God will judge and how He will judge them. When the time comes He will be able to look in your heart and see that you love him and see your pain. I believe we have a loving God. Please learn from your mistakes. Remember to use protection and save your body for someone who really deserves you. If you should find yourself in this predicament again please remember that there are loving families across America who would love to have a baby and would include you in their life. God bless you.

Answer 10

Abortion is murder and to commit murder should make a person feel terrible. At fifteen years of age, I guess someone manipulated you into having the abortion. But, now a days, kids have abortions because they are too young to understand that that is a viable human being inside the womb and not just regular tissue and blood as they are tricked into believing. The placenta is there to protect the baby from your immune system which would recognize the baby as a foreign body and attempt to self-abort it.

No way am I condemning you as some have earlier in this post. Abortion is a part of the human experience. Women have been doing it since the first women and for their own reasons. I can't look into your life or theirs and pass judgement as some have done here to you.

God loves you and understands your pain. He doesn't want you to have another abortion either. If you can't control your sexual urges or are being forced to have unprotected sexual contact then at least get protection in the form of a pill or patch. Your local health department can help you and be discreet.

When I was 19 years old and married to a viscious drunk and drug addict, I thought I was pregnant and would have had an abortion just to protect the baby from his rages and violent attacks on me. I would have had an abortion just to keep the baby from being born a physical or mental handicap child, too. There was no money at that time except for his drugs and drinking and no way was I bringing a child into a life like that. At 20, I was able to get a job and get the money up for a divorce. I hope he remains childless and alone all of his life like I have, too.

Adoption was never an option for me. Adopted kids, from the ones I've seen or heard about, were treated like they were less than animals in worth and often abused sexually. No way was I putting a baby into that kind of life of just being some pervert's sex toy.

We women have abortions for various reasons, but it is still murder. Murder is suppose to make you feel bad spiritually and physically. With prayer and counseling, you can get over the emotional/spiritual effect the abortion has had on you. Just don't do it again. I've known women who have had multiple abortions and they are the most miserable human beings alive. I was able to have a hysterectomy at an early age and I consider myself blessed because of it.

When I was 17 years old and pretty much accepting the idea that life was going to be this violent way forever, I asked God to never ever let me get pregnant. He heard me. No kids. Thank you for the answered prayer.

I don't know what I will say to God when he asks me about my decision to have an abortion had I been pregnant (I wasn't, thank you, God) on the Day of Judgement except I had no money, was scared most of the time from violent attacks (having been raised in that kind of home), and no way was I bringing a child into the world with a father like that. There's enough white trash people in the world without me adding to the population.