Why don't today's young women what to be more lady-like in public?

Question

I hear a lot of cursing and see a lot of common street behavior (i.e., loud and crude).

We were taught manners, to be polite and speak softly when in public.

To gottagri - no loaded question - just observation. You can be tough inside and still be feminine, keep your softer side. It was a nice time, sorry you had to miss it

Answer 1

Unfortunately its just a sign of the times... We live in a world of Blackberries, UTube, and Reality television. Also families are more and more dis-functional these days. Its a domino affect really... With no Father in the home, the conventional family structure breaks down. The Mother in many cases is forced to take both roles... Of course this has contributed to women becoming stronger and more independent, and that is great, but there are negative side affects too... Young girls are no longer being taught how to be ladies, but how to protect themselves and how rough the "real world" is . Not only do they learn this at home, but also at school and other social arenas. Its a double edged sword really. We want our daughters to be tough on the inside and yet ladies on the outside. Unfortunately as I mentioned earlier, when the family structure breaks down, those values are the first to go...

Answer 2

I feel kids are going to have a hard time because of all the negative media and influences that desensitize them. The world is changing rapidly with all the new technology, some better, some not. Kids do learn at home, but even with "good families" some turn out to be bad eggs. Wish the schools could get back to some basics to reinforce good values and support parents roles at home. It is a just the times, scary to think of what future generations may be.

Answer 3

That's a good question, but it's also loaded.

kids these days aren't as "bad" as you think... for example, teen pregnancies are down, drug use is down, and youth-involved crime is down compared to 10 years ago.

It may be that an older generation does not understand the newer generations, and vise versa.

What generation Y had to "grow up with" and value is not going to be the same that the boomers had.

I am a female of the Gen Y generation, and I don't perceive girls of my generation becoming "less ladylike" than previous. Infact, I find "ladylike" an offensive word because of its sexist connotations. In my perspective, society back then was too sexist for both males and females.

People complain about how children are so materialistic, but the consumerist-materialist oriented society was designed for the baby boomers. Also, people complain about the children being so lazy and getting fat, but remember it was the boomers who invented and keep alive the fast food, sit-you-butt-on-the-computer-all-day-quietly lifestyle.

There's always two sides to the issue.

Answer 4

Home Training. Parents arent home and when they are they are guilty for working so much and indulge their kids wants (not needs). In my case, I am not a Lady, I am a Woman. My mom taught me manners and the Army taught me to be a soldier. Being polite is a good quality, however why should I speak softly? I want to be heard, not ignored.

Cursing may not be lady-like, but it sure is woman-like.

Answer 5

young women don't act right, and neither do young men. it's a domino effect. with almost no real dads in homes (and i mean dads, not just fathers) the young men are growing up unguided and without gentlemanly manners, and young women are growing up feeling unloved, abandoned, and unwanted. so they go out, try to get attention, and find out that -- unfortunately -- the best way to recieve attention is through loud, brash behavior.

it makes me really sad. i've grown up in a very good home, with both my parents. i have a wonderful dad. but i go to school every day with girls who haven't had what i have, and they just don't know. they don't know any better than to act how they do. it's a really sad situation, and although they could be more responsible, all blame shouldn't be placed on them.

they're just lost and confused.

Answer 6

Manners start at home. Some of these kids are the most self indulged group of kids ever. They drive better cars than us and feel like the world owes them. They have no respect for elders and it is sickening. I moved out of Los Angeles to the Midwest and I am seeing that kids out here are a lot more respectful so far.

Answer 7

How fortunate of you to have been raised to behave politely. It is sad that so many are taught to be crude, nasty and cause trouble.
But there are foul people at any age

Answer 8

You are correct, but nowadays, speaking softly generally means are game for being played for a fool and taken advantage of.

Answer 9

They only embarrass themselves. As long as it isn't me. I think as long as no one can hear you from a mile away it's ok to talk and have an educated conversation at a medium level. There are still some classy ladies out there, ya know?

Answer 10

i think of lots of the classics are nevertheless favorite by using youthful females right this moment; nicely setting up, clean, nicely made outfits are nevertheless "in vogue". yet I additionally think of you're appropriate that lots of the previous 'regulations' not be conscious; and that i say thank goodness for that! i will placed on white footwear and pants all twelve months around. My handbag and footwear do not would desire to tournament; i will use issues that bypass nicely at the same time with out wanting to be matchy-matchy. i admire the blouses and knit tops that are squared off on the backside and made to be worn outdoors of pants or skirts; even peeping out below a blazer. specific; the share of bag to the size of a female is substantial; inspite of the undeniable fact that it's not the only element that concerns; back then females did not tote laptops, and now we do, and the tiny purses are handy, why carry a much bigger bag whilst one isn't necessary? The youthful females right this moment who placed on outfits it particularly is purely too tight, or who exhibit too lots, are actually not fashionable. they're right this moment's variations of a hussy, or floozy, or in line with possibility slightly a slob. lots of the sheer tops over slip like undergarments are very lovable; yet ill setting up outfits that leaves not something to the mind's eye continues to be not seen to be in-type. I actually have a letter from the 1920's from my super-uncle to my super aunt; he chastises her for a gown she wore to a occasion that became into too revealing; and he instructed her she became into not that form of female. exhibiting too lots isn't limited to right this moment's youthful females. i rather do not omit lots of the previous regulations. whilst i became right into a youthful female, the grown up females wore girdles....and until now that females wore corsets....i don't omit those. I see no good clarification for footwear and handbag to verify. i don't omit the crinoline slips that my mom used to make me placed on below my Sunday college outfits. i don't omit the bobby pins my mom used to twist my hair with. i don't omit pant hose or stockings in any respect. My daughters do love a number of my mom's favourite issues: footwear, purses, a number of her outfits and tops. Celebrities nevertheless placed on classic robes to award ceremonies. There are nevertheless youthful females who delight in classic issues. I appreciate seeing how youthful females right this moment blend older issues in new techniques......to me that's what vogue would desire to be.