i want to like it but i feel like he chooses it over me and that makes me resent it. also, it was his ex-girlfriend's dog and i really wish she would have just kept it. it's an expense to my bf and takes up what little free time we have. how do i learn to like it? i want to try for my bf
2007-03-08 12:11:19 · 22 answers · asked by alise 1 in Pets ➔ Dogs
Oh my gosh, when my husband and I first met, he had a stupid little yippy dog that used to poop in the house all the time... drove everyone else crazy. The stupid thing used to tear up my clothes and nothing else, except the carpet. He only took the dog in because it was his aunt's and when she and her ex-husband broke up, he said that he'd let it wander the streets. My husband is a big softie sometimes.
I never did learn to like it. THANKFULLY, he gave it away to a very nice older couple who were home with it all day and spoiled it more rotten than it already was!
I DO love dogs, I have one now who I couldn't love more. He's a great dog. Best advice, just learn to co-exist with the dog.
2007-03-08 13:13:11 · answer #1 · answered by Trouble's Mama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can anyone NOT love a dog? Pets are a big part of a person's life. Would you have the same feelings if he had a kid by his ex?? Sounds like you need to grow up a bit and if he dumps you, good for him. Now then, if you are sincere about this relationship, you need to find things to do that will involve the dog. Perhaps hiking in the woods would be a nice thing. Dog parks are all over the place. Do not in anyway listen to the posters who want you to harm the dog. It is not the dog's fault it is where it is. It is nice to see someone care even though it wasn't his pet in the first place.
2007-03-08 12:31:47 · answer #2 · answered by hazeleyedbeauty1967 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ohhhhhhhhhhh it isn't the dog but that this dog was his ex-girlfriend. Remember not only is the dog is an ex so is your boyfriend. I hate to say this if you are jealously of a dog what would you be with other things in his life. Just a thought.
When you take on a boyfriend you take on things around him..If you can't accept the dog then you need to move on. NO one should give up anything for the sake of another. ..Just another thought. good luck to you and your boyfriend and a dog lol
2007-03-08 12:24:01 · answer #3 · answered by china 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, I seriously HATE my boyfriends dog as well. He gives this dog so much attention and shes a nervous dog who is constantly stuck up his ***. I am an animal lover but I ve hated this dog since day one. Wish I could learn to cope myself. I really wish she would run away or something. She has made me not like any dogs for that matter. I used to love any and every dog. But yea, maybe it is some jealousy but I hardly get to spend time with my HUSBAND, not boyfriend and she takes up all his time. We have a daughter together and she s always growling at my baby. And I tell you one thing, first time she bites my baby she s outta here. Idc where she goes but it wont be here. I m sorry but I too need to vent abt this. Before I give her away without his knowledge.
2016-09-21 06:58:01 · answer #4 · answered by Ducky 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What sort of dog is it? Well, owning a pet is a responsibility and good on him for taking it if she wouldnt. Its also something you cant ask him to get rid of as he probably loves his dog and it was there before you. Its just a case of 'love me love my dog.' If the dog takes up what free time you have, join in, go on walks with him and the dog, buy toys for the dog and you be the first to play with the dog with the new toy. Go shopping for it, clothes and whatnot. Most people i know dont want babies just yet and some dont like babies but every girl i know loves going shopping for baby clothes (they're so cute). Just compromise and dont be angry or hate the dog for being there, its not the dogs fault. Its the only way to make it work, get to like the dog, if you think its gay , change your mind and think of it as cute. If it takes up time, join in and make it your time as well. Dont think of it in terms of whether your bf chooses it over you, think of it as he is a good pet owner who takes responsibility for his dog, it means he would probably make a responsible father too. If it does things that are annoying eg bark, jump up, tell your bf that it annoys you and maybe you could spend some time together training the dog. If your bf loves you too, he will be willing to compromise. I agree with dutchess tho i love my dogs and love me love my dogs, bfs come and go but my dogs are always there for me.
2007-03-08 13:01:32 · answer #5 · answered by Big red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...it's annoying and looks gay...? What does that mean?
When my husband and I adopted our first dog together, we had no idea that we had gotten a dog that was terrified of women. He would cower and run out of the room whenever I walked by and would only 'listen' to my husband, no matter how much I tried to love him. It really hurt my feelings at first, but I was determined that that dog would learn to love and trust me. Eventually, he did--it took three years!!
If you really want to try to learn and co-exist with the dog, try setting limits on 'alone time' vs. 'us time with the dog'. Maybe a once weekly long walk with the dog or trip to the dog park can be balanced out by time together without the dog.
2007-03-08 12:49:15 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but the dog was there before you. And it was also there when you began a relatioship with this guy. Either learn to like the dog, or move on.
Another thing, you shouldn't be mad at the pup because he used to belong to the guy's ex-girlfriend. I doubt the pup had much say in who adopted him.
2007-03-08 12:39:29 · answer #7 · answered by Paula S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well i am single at the moment but i would choose my dog over a guy unless i was married! nobody messes with my dog...i love my dog... she's always there for me, listens to me and i can talk her up and tell her things that i couldn't tell others becuz she can't talk lol!!they have that unconditional love!! if you and your boyfriend love each other than don't worry about it... if he's an animal lover than sure he'll really love his dog! get over it and don't dwell on it.... things will work it self out!!
2007-03-08 12:41:36 · answer #8 · answered by dutchess4u05 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your bf likes dogs. That's part of the package that you got when you chose him. If you really don't like dogs, you might be with the wrong guy.
2007-03-08 12:22:37 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would so tell him, Tell him: its taking up are time together.
And what you just told us.
If he dosnet understand tell him to hit the road, cause if he really loves you, he'll do something about and, or spend more time with you then his dog.
hope you get everthing firgured out! good luck!
2007-03-08 13:07:18 · answer #10 · answered by tdude09 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋