Trying to Potty?

Question

Am I being Fair? I have a 3 year old who I am desperately trying to potty train so I have offered him Chocolate each time he goes Potty. 1 lil piece of Chocolate if he pees' and 2 lil pieces of Chocolate if he goes poopy.
So, now my question is....I babysit a 5 year old lil girl sometimes and she wants a piece of candy too. I have told her that she is already potty trained and I am trying to teach my son to use the potty like a big boy and by him getting the candy is suposse 2be special 4 him.
Now if I give her candy or something to that effect too then I am not doing anything special for my son &he wont see the potty training thing as anything he wants to do if she gets something too.When Hes the one going potty & not her. Am I wrong?What should I do?
The mom said that her lil girl feels treated unfairly &she isn't trying 2have my son &her kid compete but she wants me 2go &buy her kid sweettarts or something so that when I give my son his chocolate reward her kid gets 1 too?

Answer 1

have her use the potty and give her the candy and maybe your son will catch on!!!!

Answer 2

boo freakin hoo. you dont do the same for everyone! man I learned this one the hard way. you reward kids or do for kids based on NEED and need alone. dont feel obligated to do something because someone else tells you so they get equal treatment. it is a sure recipe for failure. if the mom says that in front of the 5 yr old then she's sabotaging your ability to take care of her child because the child will know you two dont agree and will use that to her benefit. DONT feel obligated. you're doing right wiht your child to potty train how you are doing and dont over explain yourself.

Answer 3

it's not like you give every kid at the birthday party a present, is it? 5 year olds should know the meaning of dissapointment by now, even if they don't, they know the word "no". Tell her she's a big girl and you need her help. Make her a cheerleader.