ok so there is this guy who has liked me for a little over a month now.. i told him off at the beginning (because i had just gotten my heart broken) but then i just went on a first official date with him (i had "hung-out" with him before) and i had the best time on this date (monday).. but the thing is is he told me he was going out with this other girl (which he has liked Forever.. but told Me that he didn't like her anymore at all) last night and so they went on a "date" i guess. so it just makes me mad because he talked bad about her to me and told me he didn't like her anymore.. but he obviously still does.. right? so anyways, i think that he doesn't want to have a Girlfriend.. just wants to play around.. and i've never been the type of girl to want this.. but i kindof Don't Mind this "playing around" ...is this horribly bad of me, since he probably only wants me for my body.. he doesn't really Care i don't think it seems. maybe i am just settling since committment hasn't worked?
2007-03-08 11:56:49 · 9 answers · asked by coolio 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well...if I understand this right, he seems to be trying to "play the field" with both you and this other girl. You have feelings for him, but you don't think he has feelings for you. At the same time, you enjoy your time with him and want to settle for him even though he may just be using you, because something is better than nothing. Is this correct?
If so, I can definitely see where you're coming from. If you like this guy, you'll want to be with him. And if you want to continue that type of relationship knowing that he may be using you, that's your choice. However, the problem with this is, it would seem as though you're emotionally attatched and he is not. this can create problems; you will get more attatched and committed in the "relationship" (or lack thereof) and will probably end up getting hurt.
If you're sure you can keep yourself detatched and just have some fun with this, then go for it. Just make sure it doesn't go farther than you want it to. But I wouldn't recommend "just settling" for less than what you really truly want.
2007-03-08 12:11:37 · answer #1 · answered by SheIsDeath 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know for sure that he's just playing the game and you don't mind the flirting and being able to just hang out when you want and then go be with someone else with out a problem then theirs no worries. But that sometimes back fires in to a huge emotional mess so make sure that your both on the same page.
2007-03-08 20:04:19 · answer #2 · answered by robert t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well..you said you had a great time when you went out with him and you just got out of a realtionship...so sounds like great timing! Usually the first person you see after a bad break-up tends to be a rebound affair so go ahead and have fun....don't make any big plans for this to turn into anything long term and just have fun while you can. If he likes the other girl..he'll go back to her so let him....use this to build your character....Best wishes and God bless!
2007-03-08 20:04:26 · answer #3 · answered by Godsent 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not that it's terribly bad of you, but it's terribly wrong! Sometime in the future, you are going to get your heart broken again if this is continued.
2007-03-08 20:01:12 · answer #4 · answered by vgordon_90 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not bad of you - or him for that matter. Just as long as the two of you are honest with each other about what you want out of your "hanging out" together, everything should be OK.
2007-03-08 20:00:45 · answer #5 · answered by lanibear55 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your getting used, it looks like he's on to you and knows what you are doing. Quit it before your body is going to be used and afterwards thrown away like a used paper towel.
2007-03-08 20:02:20 · answer #6 · answered by inesp01 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go on a play around this may lead to something better.
2007-03-08 20:01:30 · answer #7 · answered by curious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is terrible! he shouldn't lie like that. just stay friends with him and if u want to then get revenge.
2007-03-08 20:01:42 · answer #8 · answered by Elie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't care then enjoy! just know what he is using you for!
2007-03-08 19:59:46 · answer #9 · answered by Irie 123 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋