I love my boyfriend, however he is 20 years older (I am 35 he is 55). He has had children, and doesn't want to start over. (Although he has said if an accident happens he would be a dad all over again.)
Most days I am very happy with our relationship. Most days I don't want children.
But on occasion I wish I had a child. And I would rather bring a child into a family where both parents want a child. But even then most days I would still rather have a child with my guy.
Then I think maybe I should find a new guy. Maybe I can find someone my age who wants to have kids before it becomes even harder for me to have kids. But I never was lucky at dating. Then my bf calls me while I am babysitting my nieces and nephews and I realize I love him and don't really want kids.
Is this a grass is greener on the other side of the fence situation? Is it just my biological clock ticking?
Would you stay or go?
2007-03-08 11:54:29 · 6 answers · asked by Jamie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Due to age and a family problem there will be complications when it comes time to give birth.
No I don't really want to leave him, but lately I have been working a lot, and he works an hour away, and he hasn't been visiting me like he did. He lives with his brother and his brother who is also his boss loves to party, and lately his brother needs a "chauffeur." So I have been a bit sad lately.
Do I love him? Yesterday I came home to a stuffed bear sitting on my table. And I smile everytime I see it. He makes me very happy, but I want to see him like I used to.
So maybe that's the reason my clock has been ticking.
2007-03-08 12:28:15 · update #1
dont get mad but im 18(18+55=73) and would like to have my dad in my life for as long as possible. i want him to see me graduate, play varsity baseball, and be a grandfather to my kids. At 55 the kids may never see that.....
2007-03-08 11:59:27 · answer #1 · answered by Scott D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I can only say this: Ultimately, it's up to you. There are a lot of reasons why you should think this over carefully; for example, if you decide that you don't want kids, ask yourself if you'll still believe that in 10-15 years. After all, once you've reached a certain point, there's no going back.
On the other hand, overpopulation is going to become a global problem in the future, so doing your part to help keep a lid on it is a fine notion...
But it's definitely something YOU need to think about, extensively, and with patience. I wish you luck.
2007-03-08 12:04:48 · answer #2 · answered by knight2001us 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your clock just ticking away. You do have to decide if you want kids or not and be sure of the decision. You need to research the complications that may occur because of your age. You need to consult your gynecologist about any concerns you may have if you do decide to have a child. In your question, which you need to reread, you really want kids because you are considering finding someone else. All the best.
2007-03-08 12:07:19 · answer #3 · answered by hbuckmeister 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a tough situation. I have dated older men but never went this far. You really love the guy and he love you too. I feel like if he love you he would respect your wish and get you pregnant. I think you want kids; you just don't want to leave that good man you have. Stay with him, but if you feel like it's going to come back and haunt you late; that you didn't have any children of your on; Leave him.
2007-03-08 12:02:36 · answer #4 · answered by Proud Mommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want kids sometimes, you make kick yourself if that time passes. I'd give it some serious thought. That is pretty old for him to even think about being a new father. He would be around for the important stuff. If you feel it's just a passing feeling and you really love the guy, then stay and embrace your relationship!
2007-03-08 12:00:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to make up yur mind!! Du yu want kids or not!
Once you make that descision u have yur answer!!
2007-03-08 11:58:15 · answer #6 · answered by mebh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋