I'm so confused. I think I love this guy but I dn't know. Help please?

Question

I broke up with a boyfriend to date this guy. I was so nervous about him though. We both worked together but in different areas of the store. I found out he liked me from one of his HS friends. He is 25 while I'm only 19. My mom who is SUPER overprotective ( this is a serious understatment) okayed me to date him. I wanted to make sure she was ok with it from the get-go because while I go to college I'm still living at home.

So we started to date. Never before with a guy have I ever wanted to say "I Love You". He felt the same way because we wanted to make sure that we weren't just saying it but really meaning it. After a week of dating him, I said those three little words and he said them back. He was a little miffed that I beat him to saying it but I knew what I was feeling and had never felt like this before. I never really dated in HS so this guy was my first real romantic relationship. I was a virgin when I met him and he knew that.

We talked about wating for marriage and he told me that he would wait for however long it takes for me to be ready.

When we were together he made promises of marraige and I told him that my mom wanted me to wait to finish college and he agreed I needed to do that. But I told him when he told me he was ready to settle down that I was ready to and at that point I was. I was falling head over heels for this guy.

So one night he came over to my house after church and one thing led to another. I gave him something I can never gain back all because he made promises of love to me.

I know it all seems so childish and that I should have stood behind my values and waited until marraige but at that point and time it seemed like the right thing to do.

Each day I fell more in love with this guy with Valentines Day rapidly approaching. He already had his gift, tickets to see Rodney Atkins in concert, third row seats. One night I was house sitting for a friend and I call him when he gets off work to grab us a bite to eat. He brings my V-day gift to me that night, the Thursday night before V-day. It was a diamond-heart shaped pendant. I was tickled pink.

We had made plans for V-day after my Wed. night class that I teach at my church and had talked about them for weeks.

I go over to his house after skipping my last class of the day to go see this guy I'm incredibly in love with only to find him asleep. I was feeing desperatly romantic only thinking about our plans fr that night. We take a nap on his bed but he complained of a back ache and stomach ache and turned away from me. I figured it was nothing until he started to get text messages from someone. I didn't want to bother him and trusted him completely. I get up to leave to get home to teach my class and ask him if he's going to come out to my house later or if he wants me to swing by his house( knowing or thinking he's not feeling well). He says if hes not feeling better hes not coming out. I leave his house in tears mostly because my heart desired to be with him this day and because I can feel a tug that something is majorly wrong.

i get to church that night and call his mom to check up on him. He's not at home she told me.

I'm thinking ok he's feeling better, grabbing a bite to eat and then coming out to see me. I'm thrilled at this point. I get out of church and call him to see where he is at. He asks me if I've gotten his latest txt msg yet.

He breaks up with me over a txt msg, doesn't even have the nerve to come see me and show me respect to tell me face to face. I learn later there is another girl involved and that he kissed her two days before we broke up.

I feel so lost. I'm getting back to the things I used to love, but they aren't making me happy. I want him back so bad! I know I am stupid if I take him back but i just don't know. My heart was broken and I think I did love him but I'm not totally sure how he felt anymore.

Answer 1

This is your first love. You will compare all others to him.
Unfortunately, for all his charm, he was a two-timing pr*ck. So no matter who you date after this, they will seem better.

My eyes glazed over before I reached the end. Did you actually do the deed? I hope not, if only to ensure that this turkey missed an opportunity of a lifetime.

I hope you get over him soon, and find someone else. Just remember, men are rarely good with words. Judge them by their ACTIONS instead.

Answer 2

Your story is sad and i all most cry, because the same thing happen to me.You have to let him go. I know it will hurt and it will take a long time to get over but you have to do it no matter what. If you decide to get back together it will hurt you horribly. I have to say he wanted one thing and one thing only(sex) and what he wanted he got and went to the next girl. I will till you no lie " say away from him, don't you hurt yourself more then you already hurt. Because he sleep good every night while you cry.

When you get older you will laugh and say "What the hell i was thinking."
There is some one better out there for you to love and cherish
so, hold on and keep looking for the one who will love you no matter what the circumstance is.
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!