Ok, hey! Firstly, I'm not some weird stalker. Here is the history: we were together for 3 years but the relationship was totally on her terms and everything I said seemed not to matter. I found it hard. I met someone else for diner with no intentions. Dumped my ex and got with this other girl for 2 weeks. Jumped into bed, something I hadn't done with my ex in 3 years (she's traditional - I respect that). Decided I still loved my ex completely and have been trying to get back together with her for over a year making some slow progress. My ex says she now wants to get back together but is scared and wants to wait. But for how long I don't know!? Any ideas/suggestions??
2007-03-08 11:47:14 · 11 answers · asked by orange07974 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
good luck on this one. take it slow and easy. be prepared to keep it on her terms. (that will make you as frustrated as before) but hey you love her. make it work. she wont forget it though.
2007-03-08 11:50:25 · answer #1 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, you started everything. why? you let her control the relationship. it should be give & take. then when you can't take it anymore, you dumped her for another girl. in other words, you bailed out on the relationship. that's not how it's supposed to be.
for a girl, it hurts a lot to be dumped by your bf. especially for another girl. so you should not be surprised why you're making slow progress in your attempt to get back with her.
of course she's scared......who wouldn't be? you did it once already. so she's thinking there's a possibility that you might do it again.
if you really love her and promise to make the relationship better this time, be patient and prove to her that you are sincere. work for it.
2007-03-08 19:59:40 · answer #2 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly you got to give her the assurance and care that she needs to continue the relationship. You got to prove your love for her. You can do this by being there for her, listen her problems, just casual conversation about everyday life and work, common interests, and maybe go out and have some fun sometimes. It may take some time before she can be ready for you but give her time. Be patient. Good luck.
2007-03-08 19:52:46 · answer #3 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take a minute and breath.. Then I strongly suggest you be friends with the first girl for a bit first. Then go from there, but first I would advice you to take some time to just be alone and figure out what you really want, and in the mean time just take things one day at a time. Best wishes
2007-03-08 19:51:41 · answer #4 · answered by lil_paws4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her time, and tell her that u have some say 2 in the relationship. If she doesn't agree 2 give u more equal terms in the relationship.. there r more fish in the sea.
2007-03-08 19:51:22 · answer #5 · answered by raven22229 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to burst your bubble but you are a stalker of monumentos proportions..you have stalked her for three years and never scored...this girl is not all there and has brought you down to her level..jump into bed with a few more to clear your head..you have a life try to live it and let her sort herself out its not your responsibility
2007-03-08 20:23:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my suggestion is to be patient. if u act too clingy to ur ex, i think that all ur hard work of getting back with her will be in vain. wait with her, eventually, im sure SHE'LL ask YOU to go out again.
2007-03-08 19:51:46 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never go back to an ex! Sorry chum!
2007-03-09 00:49:40 · answer #8 · answered by filmstu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on cos if you get back with her she will only throw it in your face at the least thing about the other girl. life goes on and i think your wasting your time here.
2007-03-09 13:27:46 · answer #9 · answered by julie z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to learn about sincerity, honesty and integrity.
2007-03-08 21:13:18 · answer #10 · answered by The Hiker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋