My 2 year old is very fussy all the time. What could be wrong with him? What can I do to stop him from being s

Question

My 2 year old is very fussy all the time. What could be wrong with him? What can I do to stop him from being so clingy and fussy?

Answer 1

Have him checked for worms.

Answer 2

I also have a 2 year old...soon to be 3....and a great network of friends who also have 2 year olds. What you find out by being around so many 2 year olds is that they all are so different in their personalities and yet they all have so much in common. For instance, my daughter is a bit clingy and fussy as well. However, some of her little friends don't seem clingy or fussy, but boy how they throw and tantrum at the drop of a hat! For all troubling behavior, you just have to do what works. It may take 10 attempts, but you will find something that works.
I have found that tiredness and hunger intensify my daughter's fussiness/clinginess as do being in situations that she feels intimidated. She happens to be VERY shy so I have to accept that and work with it instead of against it. This applies to whatever your little one may struggle with.....work with it, not against it. For instance, my daughter is shy.So.....I do not force her into strange situations and up and leave her. I talk to her about it beforehand and spend some time letting her warm up to her new surroundings. In the end, I DO leave her because it is for her own good that she learns to cope in situations that are a little difficult. So....consider when he is fussiest and see what you can do to make him at ease. Talk him through it. Two year old understand A LOT more than we think.
Also, maybe your son is going through a transition....new sibling, new childcare, etc. That makes them feel like their world is out of control and brings out the fussies.
I will have to admit that the fussiness gets to any good parent and at times I have snapped at my daughter....never works though...and one time I actually put her in her room and told her to come out when she was done whining. Miraculously, that worked.
I guess what I am saying in a round about way is that there are so many things you can try.......just keep working at it until something clicks. Oh, and just take some fussiness....it comes with the territory of the twos. Instead of dwelling on it, try to see all the good that twos bring....they can start dressing themselves, helping "cook," understanding how to be a friend, and begin imaginary play. This too will pass.....and then you will wonder where the time went.

Answer 3

You can't really stop it. They call it the Terrible Twos!!! *rolls eyes*

Two year olds are at a stage where they can't always convey what they want with words and it can frustrate them. They don't understand things (obviously) the way older kids and adults do and not being able to tell you what they want can make them angry. And, also, they're just kids. They're learning, exploring, and very excitable over the littlest things.

The best thing you can do is to channel the excitements and even the frustration into helping him learn words better so he can talk to you. Try to get him interested into lots of different little games and keep him occupied - that should help with the fussiness. If there is a lot of fun things to be excited over, the fussiness should go down.

Also, make sure he's getting enough rest at night and taking naps. Sleeping well can make a big difference. It took personal experience to learn that one.

Good luck!

Answer 4

The only good way to stop a child from being clingy is to hold him and love him and give him attention until he's at the age when he doesn't need it. Give them what they need when they are young and they will be secure, confident, independent. Try to take a very dependent child and force independent behaviors on him and what develops is a pseudo-independence which inhibits intradependence, that is, functioning as a member of a family, group, society. Or, it just collapses them, fulfilling your fear that they are too clingy and fussy.

In "The Irreducible Needs of Children" by Drs Brazelton and Greenspan, they stress the importance of spending 15 minutes of every hour your child is awake with your child following his direction in play. This does not include all the reading you should be doing, all the talk you should be doing while you are cooking and cleaning, engaging him and teaching him how to function in life.

Through age 5, children learn best from their mom, from being with their mom. All other learning is produced under stress, because being away from mommy is stressful. In fact, more than 10 hours a week separation from mommy in the first three years is devastating to a child's intellect, social skills, emotional wellbeing and attachment, and physical development. You are the key to your child's life.

If you are spending this significant amount of time a day focused on him and engaged with him and enriching his world and he is still fussy, try wearing him all day in a sling. Get a sling anyway, it's much better than a stroller for ease of use and comfort for your child. If he's still fussy, check with a doctor.

Answer 5

That sounds exactly like my daughter but I just give her the attention she needs, do things she loves to do (zoo, play in the water or with the ball outside) I try new things like baking, art or even getting water bottles and knocking them down with a ball. I have her take naps daily to get my break from her being so clingy and it gets her in a better mood.

Answer 6

ahh I am going thru it with my son as well. It is frustrating, but honestly your best option is to ignore the tantrums, that works for me. Try time outs as well. Just be firm and consistent. Threats dont work and either does hitting your child. At 2 yrs old, children don't understand that. All they know is they want their way and they don't understand why they can't have it all the time. Just stay calm, its scarey for them not being able to control their emotions. Try talking calmly and explaining to him/her what ur doing and why. I know it sounds ridiculous, but honestly I have had fantastic results with my son. Good luck and remember it will get better!

Answer 7

if hes clingy get him with new ppl..and for the fussy..part..if he cries..let him cry..but dont be mean and dont let him never get what he wants...control it alot..alos..give him lots of veggies..and milk..also..

Answer 8

threaten him! im sorry and im not being racist but black people threaten the chid and the child has no problem! beat the child's butt (of course not too harshly). but im sorry you cant just say "No Billy, calm down" you say "Billy you stop yo fussin and shutup before i smack you in your face"...and if he fusses and cries about you sayin that give him a spanking. disipline the child!

Answer 9

ok have you never hear of terrible twos?! wow..

Answer 10

the terrible 2s!!! *fear*