Very scared of my dad dying?

Question

I am very scared of my dad having a heart attack and dying. I pray that he will never die and cry every night because I am so scared. I would just miss him so much. I am almost in tears as i write this. I love him so much...and i always hear about all of these guys in their 40's dying and i am so scared that that will happen to my dad. Any comforting words?? advice ? is this normal?

Answer 1

It's normal to fear the passing of someone you love very much.

I don't know how old you are but for very young people, death is a difficult thing to comprehend and understand.

My advice to you is to make the most of the time that you have with your dad. You don't have to spend every weekend and every minute with him (you need to balance your life), but take the time to see him or call him on the phone.

Do things together. Go to a ball game together. Go snowboarding (or maybe just snowmobiling), water skiing, swimming, enjoy vacations with him. Go to the movies and then play some goofy video game with him. Bike riding. Or just go grocery shopping with him. Maybe just tag along while he goes to Home Depot or Auto Zone. Just talk to him. Ask him questions about how he met mom. Or what was his brother/sister like when they were growing up.

There's a lot about him that you don't know because you weren't around when he was growing up. So just ask. He's was a young person once and I'm sure he would be glad to related some things to you.

Eventually he will become not only your father, but a good friend too.

If you're older, then just enjoy his company over dinner.

Remember the little things that get on your nerve and understand that maybe one day, those will become precious memories. (I remember when my 2 year old would make so much noise it drove me crazy. I just thought about the time when she would be all grown up and the house would be so quiet. And then the noise would be music to my ears. She's out of the house now, but the music brings back special memories.) Does he burp at the dinner table? Slurp his soup? Track dirt into the house?

You don't have to say, "dad, I love you". But believe me, if you give him a hug, it will warm his heart and he'll know what you mean.

He may be your father, but once a long time ago, he was just a child like you. He had (and still may) have fears just like you're going through.

There is a speciall bond between fathers and daughters. That bond never goes away.

Trust me...I'm a dad of a 16 year old young lady. :)

Answer 2

i cant say much but my dad is 65 an he is still living today my dad hasnt been the same for years he didnt drink untill i was 12 an now im 21 but since he started drinking he has never been even a little of the same but i think of him dying all the time because i was always daddy's little girl so im very scared too

Answer 3

i cant say a lot yet my dad is sixty 5 an he continues to be residing as we talk my dad hasnt been a similar for years he didnt drink untill i replaced into 12 an now im 21 yet because he began ingesting he has never been even somewhat of a similar yet i imagine of him lack of life each of the time because i replaced into continually daddy's little lady so im very scared too

Answer 4

The best thing you can do is show your dad how much you love and appreciate him, instead of focusing on something that might happen.

I grew up with the knowledge that my dad could die literally at any time. He got sick with a heart condition two years before my birth, so I grew up knowing that at any time he could die. He finally did die, at the age of 60.

No one is guaranteed a tomorrow. So make today count!

Answer 5

If you did not feel this way, I would believe you were not human.
It is called empathy. As humans we possess that natural ability to feel emotions.
We all have come to the realizations that we or someone we know is going to die.
This is a guarantee in life. There is nothing you can do to avoid it. But you can live healthy and eat right. This will prolong you life span.
I suggest expressing to your dad how you feel.
Maybe make some suggestions about exercising and eating healthier. Do what you can to keep him here with you as long as you can.

I sympathize with you.
My father has chronic kidney failure. He was diagnosed over 19 yrs. ago. He was on dialysis for 7 yrs. In 1995 he got a kidney transplant. In 2005 that transplant died. Now he is back on dialysis. I know the reality. Due to his lack of kidney, I know other organs will eventually fail. I also know one of these days my mother will call me with that dreadful phone call. I know this. But as long as he is here we are all trying to make his life expectancy longer.

I suggest you do the same.
Also spend as much time with your dad as possible.
You will regret it 'LATER'!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

It's completely normal. But think, if your dad is a nice, healthy guy, he'll be fine. I mean, most of these men are 400 pounds and suffering from heart faliur. So, don't worry. I do that to, but my dad's fine and he's 54. Just live to the fullest and enjoy your dad.

Answer 7

My Dad is 60 and a diabetic. I remember when he got real sick and I realized that he wont always be there for me. One day his day will come. Anyone that knows me, knows that my DAD is my hero,and my friend. I love him dearly! I cried every time I thought about this but WE all know our time comes to an end. I spend a great deal of time with him and I tell him how much he means to me. I pray that he can live a long life but I know its not guaranteed.

I know if he were to pass, I said everything that I needed to say and I spent the time I wanted to with him.

Yes, I know it will hurt tremendously but it is a part of life.

So cherish your experiences and NEVER forget to tell him you love him.

Answer 8

I'm scared of my parents dying too. They are in their 70's and have heart problems. I cry alot, but I make sure to tell them I love them every time I see or talk to them. I let them know all the time how much they mean to me and am grateful to have them in my life. They are very good to me and my children. Just make sure while he is here to let him know how much you care.

Answer 9

It is totally normal to worry about something like this, it's a scary thought, but you can't keep worrying about it, you won't enjoy life then. Also, if he did, he'd be in a better place, and when it happens to you too, you two will be reunited with no more pain or suffering, just you and him forever and ever.

Answer 10

i am very worried about that also....But dont worry about that. When i ever feel like that i always spend more time with him. My dad is almost 53 i try not to think about that stuff. Dont think about it.