My boyfriend gets his kids once a month and his 14 year old daughter yelled at him for telling her she couldn't stay out after 7:00 pm (because it's dark). He told her she was grounded, she came the very next week-end and she fought him and manipulated the situation until he let her off. She even called her mother to talk him out of it. How much damage was done by him letting her off? Will she listen to him next time he tries to punish her?
2007-03-08 11:28:27 · 9 answers · asked by nutnut1957 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
let me give you a little hint here.
you are not this child's parent. you are the girlfriend of the parent. (even if the two of you were married you would only be the step parent) if you are smart you will absolutely
STAY OUT OF THIS!!! THIS IS NOT YOUR CHILD!!! IF YOU GET INVOLVED YOU WILL CREATE MORE PROBLEMS THAN IT WILL SOLVE. THIS IS BETWEEN THE DAD AND THE MOM. LET THE TWO OF THEM TAKE CARE OF IT!!!
i know it can sometimes be hard to bite your tongue but bite your tongue you must!!!
2007-03-08 12:31:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know...I don't beleive in grounding kids as a form of discipline. I never grounded my daughter. Never saw the logic in making myself miserable listening to a teen whine about being grounded...But then I disciplined my daughter so there really wasn't much to "ground" her for.
2007-03-08 19:32:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she won't listen. She thinks she's in control. Daddy punishes me, so i'm going to mommy. He needs to show her that he is in control, and that she needs to listen. Her mother is making him look weak, and therefore she will get what she wants. He needs to talk to the mother about this. She needs to be punished.
2007-03-08 19:32:35 · answer #3 · answered by Donovan G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That girl is just going to do it again because her father didn't enforce what he said he was going to do she needs to learn she cant always get what she wants next time she get grounded by her father she is just going to hassle him until he lets her off the hook and she will never learn.
2007-03-08 19:34:43 · answer #4 · answered by ALt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
teenagers never listen, but giving into them just makes them see you as week, if you say something you need to follow it through, or give the child incentives to be good, such as if you do the dishes then you will make the punishment less servere, but never give into there screams and shouts! they need to know that although they might think they are grown up they arnt!
2007-03-08 19:34:12 · answer #5 · answered by prince14 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Huge damage was done. Even if the punishment was unjust, you have to stick to it. She now knows that your discipline is conditional. You've made things hard on yourselves and, frankly, it's unfair to her.
2007-03-08 19:31:50 · answer #6 · answered by balderarrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe,maybe not once the punishment is set u need to stick with it 'its called Tough love ".
2007-03-08 19:31:50 · answer #7 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she just naged at him a little, that is normal. If she yelled and threw things, then she has little respect for him.
2007-03-09 15:28:41 · answer #8 · answered by Kreutzer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will only keep pushing the envelope. The more she can get away with, the more she will try to get away with
2007-03-08 19:32:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋