she used to be very well behaved.and now everytime she comes back shes very bad!!And she refuses to drink water but she only wants juice,sode,milk!!!its making me so angry what should i do?
2007-03-08 11:23:55 · 11 answers · asked by Heather G 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Lay down the rules and tell your daughter that she will be banned from going to her mother's house if she carries on with the bad behaviour and as for drinking water, tell her that she will either get water or she can stay thirsty. Tell her that you have rules that you expect her to obey and if she gets away with bad behaviour at her mothers house, tell her not to think that you will put up with it. Take away her favourite toys or restrict her from certain activities. Also, talk to her mother and let her know how your daughter is behaving. Hope this helps. God Bless!!
2007-03-08 11:39:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is being spoiled at the mothers house. you need to talk to the mother and set some ground rules. my mom owns a preschool and i have grown up around kids all the time. they are perfectly fine during the week. they go home for the weekend come back on monday and all they want to do is be held and have all the attention. what you need to do is give her the water after she comes back from the mothers if she refuses to drink it then look her in the eye and say "if you get thirsty i have the water" and set it down on the counter so she can see it. she will get thirsty quicker than you think. whenever she wants a drink hand her the water she might walk away the first couple times but soon enough she will drink it. NEVER give her soda and hold off on the juice. those just arent good for a child.
2007-03-08 12:31:57 · answer #2 · answered by Susan D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just recently got my two year old son to drink water regularly. We started buying bottled water. He seems to like the fact that if he wants a water all he has to do is get into the fridge and pull the bottle out. He can do it himself. I think he likes the independence of it. Try buying bottled water...that might help. Also try flavored water.That's how he got started drinking bottled water...drinking the flavored water...Vitamin water is good...is flavored...and doesn't seem so blah to kids. Kids like things that have taste to it...and there is no taste to water. Which is why I think most kids don't drink it.
As far as her behaving once she come back...try doing like a star chart. Buy the colored star stickers (or any stickers) and get a calendar and every day that she behaves all day she gets a sticker for the day. Once she has a week full of stickers she gets a prize...be it something sweet...toy...or let her pick the stickers out for the next week. That's what my mom used to do with my sister...and it always worked. Once my boys are old enough to understand the "system" we'll be using this too (right now they are 2yrs and 10 months)
Good luck...and I hope this helps!
2007-03-08 11:33:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her mother how she behaves at her house and ask her about her disciplinary actions. She cant let the child get away with everything-that's just going to turn your daughter into a brat. About the drinking thing, milk and juice aren't bad to give to a child but I wouldn't give her too much soda if she's still growing. First of all, there's tons of sugar in soda and I read in a medical journal once that there's evidence that too much caffeine can block calcium intake therefore slowing growth (which is why everybody says drinking coffee stunts your growth).
2007-03-08 11:33:43 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say the best thing to do first is talk over your concerns with your daughters mother. Dont speak civilized anymore? Its only natural for a child to prefer soda over water....and obviously your daughter is being given this while at her mothers. I think the best balance would be to try to get her mother to agree that there must be time for water at her home too. then you wont have to be the bad guy. Good Luck!
2007-03-08 16:24:43 · answer #5 · answered by mayasmama2707 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with the mom and talk about how to constructively raise your daughter. Voice your concerns about the lack of drinking water and how it could affect your health.. Come to a common ground between the two of you because if you don't, your daughter is just going to play the two of you against each other as she gets older.
BTW-
you're the parent, don't let her walk all over you.
2007-03-08 11:36:51 · answer #6 · answered by britt g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her mother and see what is going on at her house and plan with each other to have the same rules and disapline so that it the two houses wont be too different from each other and not prefer one over the other.
2007-03-08 11:32:19 · answer #7 · answered by JB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your energy getting angry. She's a little girl and she needs you to love her, to guide her and take care of her. Offer water. Maybe put a slice of lemon or orange in it to make it fun. It's very common for her to come home misbehaving. You need to get with her mom and discuss this. If you can get on the same page with her upbringing that is better. If not...well, good luck. Be patient.
2007-03-08 11:53:08 · answer #8 · answered by Fotomama 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to the mother and ask why she is like this. also how old is your daughter?? Also if she naughty put her on time out or take something away that she likes to do.
2007-03-08 11:29:14 · answer #9 · answered by TipMaster69 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
explain that there are different rules in different houses and you dont try to make her mom feed her water and she shouldnt expect to get what she does at her moms at your house. dont over explain or she will pin you two against each other. sounds like she's learning what works in her favor to get a rise out of you. put a stop to it now or it will get worse...wait til puberty!
2007-03-08 16:22:52 · answer #10 · answered by tryinthis2 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋