I think my girlfriend is overweight and so i typed into a search engine "my girlfriend is overweight" to find suggestions on how to encourage her to lose weight and then she saw it and shouted and cried. now shes just crying, how can i make it better?
2007-03-08 11:15:07 · 13 answers · asked by MeeMee M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You could start by reassuring her that you care about her. I'm assuming that you did it because you worry about her health and not because you dislike the way she looks. Either way, try to console her and in the future, suggest that you both take fun walks together or participate in physical activities that could spur weight loss. Whatever you do, don't nag her about her weight or make her feel worse than she already does. Be nice.
2007-03-08 11:21:50 · answer #1 · answered by bombastic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You said you THINK she is overweight so there is a possibility that she is not. If she is not then you really hurt her feelings. Many things factor into weight such as her height. It is possible that even though she is not small she is the right weight for her height. If she is overweight maybe she knows and is struggling with it. You should been a little more sensitive with this. First you should have found out if she really is overweight and by how much. Your research may make her feel like you do not find her attractive or there is something wrong with her. Tell her you were just concerned and that you really care. If you be honest then she might come around.
2007-03-11 13:38:35 · answer #2 · answered by TLC 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could create a fake youtube video or web comic series under an alias pretending someone else made it, and pretend that you were looking to find that. That'd be pretty extreme, but at least the rest of us would have a new video or comic to look at?
Or, if you don't care about entertaining the rest of the world, you could be honest to her and say that you want to be supportive to her and that you might have been looking for info that you could help with. Since she's crying she probably thinks that you feel disgusted by her or something, so let her know that you still like her very much, and if you really were disgusted like she suspects then you would have broke up or something instead.
2007-03-08 11:24:07 · answer #3 · answered by Tim J 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOu probably can't...the damage is done. You have hurt her feelings in a big way. She is probably sensitive to this issue and thinks that you have been exploiting her over the internet. HOwever, an apology and reassurance that you meant well could improve things. Also, if you think she needs to lose weight for health reasons then explain to her gently that this is so and reassure her that you still love her regardless but would like to help her. Maybe take exercise together walking etc...she needs to know that you'd love her even if she was the size of a house!! And if you don't think that you would still love her at that size...then you didn't love her to start with and need to let her go.
2007-03-08 11:23:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
For one thing you shouldn't be doing that where there is a chance she might see it. Being told by someone you care about that he thinks you are overweight is very hurtfull. Start by doing something really simple. Take walks with her in the evening, make dinner for her something that is healthy for both of you. You don't have to tell her she is overweight but you can introduce things like simple walks or stretches you guys can do together. Don't make it all about her. Tell her you are interested in working out and toning your body more and encourage her to join it. NEVER TELL A WOMEN SHE IS OVERWEIGHT.
2007-03-08 11:21:42 · answer #5 · answered by kelly_frogs 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
That's a tough one. Obviously she isn't comfortable with being called overweight. Tell her you can tell that she is not happy with her weight, and although you love her the way she is (you do right?) you want to help her be more confident.
2007-03-08 11:19:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 10:04:57 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could try talking to her. it might not work. when a girl is called overweight it really sticks with her. good luck. DEFINATELY include the word "sorry" when you talk to her!
2007-03-08 11:25:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
how could she make YOU feel better if you found typed in her google history "i have to fake it everytime with my boyfriend" or "different ways to fake an orgasm" or "does penis size matter if i love my man?" ....could you get over that? think not. you need to break up with her, she deserves a man who can love and accept her for who she is. not some little man-child who has to google help!
2007-03-08 11:24:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
just tell her your trying to help her, and that you like her the way she is, but you thought SHE would like herself better if she was thinner. say you just typed that in because your frined said you'd get great results.
2007-03-08 11:20:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋