What to do about a rude friend?

Question

I have a friend who interrups people all the time, and just says whatever is on her mind in the moment, even if it has nothing to do with what others are talking about. (Like the ramdom thoughts that always go on in your mind all the time, but she says them out loud). She never lets you finish a thought before shoting her opinion at you. All she ever talks about is her parents or ex-boyfriend, and compairs everything to her experience with them. I was talking to my friend Ann by her car yesterday about something going on in my life, and wanted her opinion, becasue she is older, and Rude girl pops out of nowhere and throws in her to sence, which we have all heard a million times, totally interupting our conversation. She also talks SO LOUD. She is aware that she does these things, and anytime anyone says anything, she gets defensive and hurt. my question is, how do you explain, or show her that these is not a way to act in the world in a kind way???

Answer 1

I think if she really annoys you then the best thing to do is avoid her. She sounds really self absorbed and who needs a friend like that? I probably wouldn't bring it up because she would not be willing to assess the situation if she always has "two cents" to contribute and becomes defensive at criticism. There's really nothing you can tell someone like that, she will have to draw that conclusion on her own in order to make a change.

Answer 2

This is hard cause she is your friend right? Perhaps she has a bit of ADD ( attention deficit disorder) It sounds like your friend might have that problem. She is aware of her problem and you say it upsets her if someone reminds her of her behavior.I doubt she can help doing these things .... it's a impulse for her.

May I kindly suggest you have a talk with her ( just you two) Explain that you love/like her and that you are worried about her behavior.Explain that while she is a sweet lovely person that somes times her behavior makes her seem a little self centered and ill mannered. Tell her that you want to help her overcome this if she desires.

You can practice with her by taking any small object ... Basically tell her who ever is holding the object gets to talk or finish their thought. Practice having conversations with her passing the object back and forth.This will help her train herself to wait.
You can also tell her to practise NOT starting conversations with "I" That will help her not focus so much on herself.

This is a very hard habits to break and I am sure she would not be doing this if she could help it. Try to be kind to her OK

Answer 3

She sounds like a spoiled brat, and probably people avoid being around her and her friends.
Since apparently you have told her about these issues and she is too self-centered to try to change, then I would tell her that the next step will be to dissolve the friendship; that she either start acting and speaking in a socially acceptable way when she's in your presence, or you will find another friend.
The first time she violates this rule, walk away. Stay clear from her for a week or so. See what happens.

IF you can teach her a lesson on this, it will be one of the most valuable lessons of her life. Good luck. You don't have to be mean and nasty to do this, but you must stand your ground.

Answer 4

It's possible she has ADD or ADHD which would make it really hard for her to curb her behavior even is she's aware of it. Maybe if you limit your contact with her she will get the message that you expect her to behave when she's around you.

The other way to handle it is to interupt her interruptions until she gets the point. Talk just as loud as she does. Use her same annoying traits.

Before you do that though, are you sure it's her and that you're not overly sensitive?

Answer 5

Rude girl is is acting like this because she isn't being heard
Most people who speak loudly do so because they are ignored and want to be heard.
Explain to her that you care about her friendship and what she has to say but there's a time and place for everything, but she needs to be conciderate of you.
If you treat her the way you wish to be treated she may take the hint ...even if you have to bonk her on the head with the truth once in a while.

Answer 6

BTW it is two cents, not to sence.

Anyway you just keep quiet. You let her talk, and when she is finished, just look at the other person who you were talking to originally, and say, "I will call you later. Bye." Walk away from the girl, you don't have to go far, you can just turn around the corner and meet up and finish your conversation. Just don't acknoledge a thing she says, and end your conversation right there and then.

After you do this twice, maybe even just the one time, she will get it and keep her mouth shut. Just keep doing that until she gets it.

Answer 7

Let her know that her constant need for attention is annoying to you and your friends. Do this one to one, there's no need to embarrass her in front of others. Let her know how you feel and that her rude behavior isn't attractive or even tolerable. assure her that you want to remain friends, but won't if she continues to crave attention more than manners.

Answer 8

2 options:
Talk to her about the problem
Ignore her, stay away from her and she`ll realice that she is not someone you want to be with. I f she considers you a friend she`ll probably change

Answer 9

Some people have to be told point blank, and it sounds like this person is one of those. so just tell her you think she is rude when she does this and you want her to stop, if she gets upset so be it. if happens after that then embaresses her and see how she likes it.

Answer 10

From what you have dexcribed, she sounds like an obnoxious air head. You don't need trash like that in your life, find new friends.