This is meant as a sincere question. I don't like the world much myself. I see that there is a lot of suffering. Also, then most children have to work and toil their entire lives. Yet I have to admit, I started to have a biological kick for a child. I love kids. And I'm very motherly as I have pets. I am told by others i would make a great mom all the time, but what stops me is that I don't think I've had a great life. If I bring a child here, I will enjoy them a lot. But will they be happy to be here once they are out of childhood and realize bad things in the world. What do you think? Thanks.
2007-03-08 11:07:06 · 15 answers · asked by wcarolinew 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Yes, unfortunately, I feel guilty for bringing my second son into the world. He is very sick, we don't yet know what he has but his pediatrician is very very concerned about his condition. I'm worried sick about him. My eldest son is suffering as well because of this, I feel like I'm abandoning him, all my attention is focused on my youngest. But, as the first answerer said, my sons could grow up to save lives or bring peace and that really touched me. Every great man, or woman, were once babies and they made a difference to this world. So don't discourage yourself, you have a lot of love to give so bring babies into this world and make a difference too. Here in Malta we are going to have our first saint in June who was a very sick child and grew up to live in his 80's and made a big difference in his life to many people. He still does, after his death, people like myself pray to him and find comfort.
2007-03-09 02:35:03 · answer #1 · answered by jondavesnowy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a five month old baby girl and I have thought about that very same thing.Bringing a child into a world where there are so many things to be afraid of is a serious thing. In the end I decided I really wanted children but I hope to raise my daughter in such a way that she can make the right decisions and stay far away from the things that cause her unhappiness.
Of coarse you can't put your child in a bubble. I also know from experience that living by the Bible's standards made a huge difference in my life and I will teach her to love God and fear him and live a good life. Also learning from the Bible why the world is as bad as it is and what God is going to do in the future to bring about better conditions on earth is very comforting. There is hope for the future on earth. Psalms 37:10,11,29;1John5:19.I hope this helps. It really helps me!
2007-03-08 19:31:09 · answer #2 · answered by halfpint 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love my son very much, he is the best thing that ever happened to me, but there are times when I feel guilty for bringing him in the world.
My son was born several years after I had misscarried, and when he was born he was born with a syndrome and his little life has been very difficult. There is a great amount of guilt, but I have the Lord to carry me through, and my son was put here for a purpose. We cannot determine the future only what we know the Bilble says.
We can't live our lives worrying that there may be a horrible tomarrow and then refuse to bring children into it, because children as always are our future, and they are going to help determine our tomarrow. I don't know exactly what my son's future will be at the moment, but for all the guilt I cannot truely say that I would never have wanted him, because he has molded me and shaped me in ways that no other person would have been able to do.
2007-03-08 21:45:51 · answer #3 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know there is not many good things in this world but to feel guilty i can not say i do because i know i fill my child's world with love and family and although they will grow to realize what the world and life is as long as you stick to your guns and teach your kids respect and love i feel you have no reason to not think about bringing a child into this world and if you can not the love u can give to a child already born is the most selfless thing you can do adoption is great for someone as loving as you say you are .. You never know how great you child can grow and prosper ...Good luck on your decision
2007-03-08 19:17:58 · answer #4 · answered by samiyahlynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My child has suffered from multiple life threatening and altering medical problems since he was born. I used to feel guilty that I prayed so hard to have him. I wondered if God had made me infertile for so many years because he was sparing me or my child from his pain. I used to think that I had been selfish to ask for something that I wanted so badly when he did nothing to be brought into this world. All I wanted was to have a child with my wonderful husband and give him the world, or at least the best I could of it. I might have made different decisions if I had known that he would be sick, but I thank God every day that he answered my prayers and didn't let me know what might have been. Now I have a healthy, happy child and even though we deal with problems, I wouldn't change anything in the world. I wouldn't trade him for anything and best of all he wouldn't trade me.
2007-03-08 19:52:55 · answer #5 · answered by mechelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I am concerned about the life I have brought my daughter and future child into. I am most sad when I think that I birthed them only to know that one day like myself they will pass on. I know this is a long time from now (one hopes) but too look into my daughters eyes and how much I do not want anything ever to hurt her it kind of gets to me. I just do no tlike to think that she will leave this earth. I know she will still have a nice life and enjoy many things the world has too offer. I guess I wish we didnt have to die so soon. It seems we have so long on this earth but in reality it really flies by
2007-03-08 19:12:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. The world can be an ugly place. But I dont regret bringing my child into the world. I have gone through some tough times and I know my daughter will too but ultimately I'm pretty happy that I was born and I'm hoping that she will be happy too.
2007-03-08 19:19:39 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I have never felt anything but immense joy, pride and satisfaction about bringing my daughter into the world!! She is the most amazing person, and I know that she will contribute to the world in nothing but a positive fashion.
2007-03-08 19:14:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think most of us go through this. if you love and respect your child and teach them that not all of the world is ugly,i think they'll thank you for choosing to bring them into the world. first though, YOU have to realize that there is a good side to the world we live in. if you don't see it then neither will they.
2007-03-08 19:15:29 · answer #9 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do think about those things, but can only hope that our children will be able to do make the world better. If we're here for no other reason, it's to reproduce!
If you have a twisted sense of humor, watch Mike Judge's movie "Idiocracy". It will make you want to have children!
2007-03-08 19:13:00 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. Strain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋