Should i spank my children?

Question

I have 3 children, tweo girls at 4 and 7 and a boy at 5. I have never spanked them before, but my wife and I do believe in spanking and we both have been spanked before. We rarely had an occasion to spank them before but we hesitated to do so. Last week all three of them have disobeyed in different ways. they were punished with long timeouts, but their behavior didn't change. Do you guys think I should spank them and if so, how should I do it.

Answer 1

Spanking works wonders once other methods break down. You said you used time out, that's great. Now if they do it again, yes you should spank them. Never lose control when spanking, but make it count. Don't just do the one swat thing, those hardly work. My husband and I use the old fashioned way of bare tush, over the lap. We seem to get the best results that way. Just remember if you use spanking, like any consequence, there must be a lot of communication, and teaching as to why this is happening, and how to avoid them in the future. The spanking just backs up your teaching, it by it's self doesn't teach, you do!!! In parenting you need both, consequences and teaching. That's the best method
Do what you feel is right. Love them and you can't go wrong.

Best of Luck to you

Answer 2

4 and 5 give them 7 hard spanks with hand each time add 5 more to it...and the 7 year old give her 10 spanks harder each time with hand add 30 more each time sheis bad

Answer 3

Yes. Some times it is the only way to get through to them. I have 4 kids and when they have done something like fight or do something dangerous we spank them. If you tell them what you are about to do, how many swats they will be getting, make sure they understand why they're getting spanked, and let them know you love them it's a good thing to do. Hug them after you're done. Also tell them that if you didn't care about them you wouldn't spank them. Give them swats on the rear with your open hand. NEVER spank your kids when you're angry. Good luck and God bless you.
P.S. The Bible says if you love your children you won't spare the rod.

Answer 4

yes, i think i really needed to get spanked as i was bad and my mother got angry at that moment. That little girl is my neighbor and she visited us before i get spanked. She seems that not care to see my half nake body. However, do you think a boy aged 9 can be spanked like that in front of a little girl?

I was asked to stay naked in front of that little girl for half hour.

I believe that I will spank my kids if they misbehave. But not very often and the nude part infront of the little girl is not needed.

Yes, I have to admit that I hate that old fashioned spanking. However, I will behave well to avoid this kind of spanking. Therefore, I turn out good now.

Answer 5

Do you really want to teach your kids that hitting is a appropriate response? Timeouts don't work every time; but neither does spanking; or anything else.
If you never spank, you will never spank too hard.

The best advice I ever got was NEVER EVER HURT A CHILD!

Answer 6

THE 4 AND 5 YEAR OLD GET A REAL THIN BELT HIT THEM ACROSS THE BOTTOM WITH TWO OR THREE TIMES AND THEM NOW THAT EVERY TIME THEY DISOBEY YOU THAT WILL HAPPEN THE 7 YEAR OLD SIT DOWN AND TALK HER THAT SHE DON'T OBEY YOU WILL GIVE HER A SPANKING AND SHE WONT LIKE TO GET A SPANKING IT WILL HURT BUT ITS GOING HURT YOU MORE THEN HER THAT YOU HAVE TO DO IT IF DISOBEY YOU

Answer 7

ZEE you're brilliant...I love your answer.

I agree.

Here's what another member of the yahoo answers community had to say...and I also totally agree

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Only a Liberal Nut Job cannot tell the difference between abuse and discipline.

Look at the difference between children today and children 20-30 years ago. Look at the lack of respect, the bratiness and complete disregard for most people. What is the number one difference between how children are raised now versus 20-30 years ago? SPANKING!

It's absolutely needed.

It's funny how Liberals think nothing about killing millions of babies each year through abortions, yet you mention spanking and they freak out! That's pure insanity, their message is clear, killing is OK, but don't you dare spank!

Answer 8

Yes spank them.
Always with love.Never with anger.
Spank them on the hand or the butt not the back.

A few swats on the hand with a switch may be enough or a few pops on the bottom with a paddle may be necessary.

When my daddy spanked me---it hurt.......it hurt my butt.
When my mom spanked me----it hurt.......it hurt my feelings.

Either way ---I learned.There are consequences for my actions.
I love them both for teaching me to think and to make wise decisions.

Nobody spanks me now.(I'm all growed up :)
But when I happen to make unwise decisions....my conscience hurts me. I can depend on my conscience to guide me in life in many ways because it has been trained to distinguish right from wrong.
This is the results of loving discipline.

Answer 9

oki doki there is now the time to explain you that parents should know that children are really inteligent and they know all of there parents syou should be strict and you should act with them as youre were there freinds . !

And should spank them when they are being really really notthy and they dont understand you or they disobeidd , several times , !

But you should explain them tilll they know , !!!
first of alll ,, it doesnt matter if you give them long time outs because a kid didint understand it in his way he willll think bad of you , he will think that you dont love him and you dont care of him ,. you should explain himm.. at least 3 time and when he doesnt ,, understand you or he doesnt want to ,talk to you then you should surelly spank ! But you should be really angry and youre kid should see this , ! because if you are to nice with youre kid he willl let let all of what you said to him and he wont care and he will do bad things and think that you wont say him anything and he will think that you love him so much !

Answer 10

of course u should spank them especially since u have never spanke them brfore now - u will catch them off guard