My daughter is 17 months old and constantly slaps people if she doesn't like something. She slaps me, her sister and her father and caregiver. She slaps the dog and inanimate objects when she gets mad, if there is no living thing close by. Saying NO in a firm voice doesn't work. Scolding doesn't work. Slapping her hands or holding them down to stop her from slapping doesn't work. I feel she is too young for any discipline stronger than a hand slap, but am at a loss of what else to try.
2007-03-08 10:44:30 · 11 answers · asked by Cobalt B 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
At this age, she is hitting to communicate. She doesn't have the words she needs, so she uses her hands instead.
Honestly, the very best thing that you can do it to watch her like a hawk and intervene BEFORE she hits so that you can teach her the proper way to react to a situation. Use words FOR her. "You look mad!" or "you must be frustrated" or "you didn't like that" or whatever.
Talk to her about "gentle touches" and teach her how to touch gently.
If she does hit, say "no hitting! hitting hurts!" and then the person/animal who was hit gets all the attention.
Consistency, redirection and patience until she learns to communicate better!
2007-03-08 10:52:31 · answer #1 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Stop slapping her hands. You are showing her that its okay to slap when don't like something.
Pick her up, say "No" and remove her from the scene.
Tell her hitting is not allowed and she has to be away until she calms down and can play nice. Keep her away for a minute or two and then tell she can go back.
You might have to repeat several times, but how many times have you tried other methods? Be consistent. Yes, I know, it may keep you very busy. That's called being a parent!
2007-03-08 10:59:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Try this ... get a playpen with really tall sides and put nothing in it ... this is the time out spot ... tell her no firmly, if no response then put her in the time out spot ... she will cry, scream or whine ... but leave her there for at least 3-5 minutes then take her out. If she acts out again repeat, kids even at her age can connect the dots ... do something bad ... go to time out ... I don't like time out ... maybe I won't do bad things. She is young so it will take her longer to learn this tough lesson so hang tough!
2007-03-08 10:51:28 · answer #3 · answered by jennifermlayne 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
YOu can't possibly teach her not to slap by slapping her, can you?
How strange is that to a child, if you think about it. You must be blowing her mind or enraging her with the injustice (depending on how developed she is.)
Just remove her from whatever situation she is in, and say "We don't hit. Hitting is wrong. I cannot let you hit." Then sit with her until she calms down, holding her if you need to, telling her - i'm going to hold you until you calm down because i know you want to be in control. "
You tell her - we don't hit, we use our words. Then, try to phrase what she's feeling "Oh, youre so angry." Obviously, you can't teach her hitting is wrong if you hit her. You just can't.
Give her lots of notice when you're going to change things on her, to minimize her frustration while teaching her how to deal with frustration.
Also, you mention her caregiver. Children who endure more than 10 hours a week separation from mommy at the age your child is are much more aggressive than children raised without the stress of this separation.
2007-03-08 11:04:09 · answer #4 · answered by cassandra 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Sit her in the corner, facing a wall. Also have her sit on her hands. If she gets up- continue to place her back in the corner, until she sits there for 2 minutes!
Tell her it hurts you/daddy/ the dog when she slaps you, And it makes you sad. Ask her if she likes to make you sad, (hopefully she will say no)
Explain to her that slapping is not nice and if she does not like something to tell you she doesn't like it and why. Ask her to "use her words like a big girl"
- GOOD LUCK-
2007-03-08 10:54:45 · answer #5 · answered by Ashleigh 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
the government college device embraces a loss of discipline and private duty. it somewhat is why maximum government faculties kit "coaching" in direction of the fewer smart toddlers. it somewhat is to dumb down the achievers, as a substitute of raising the underachievers. stepped forward placement classes have even been called "racist" and are then discontinued.
2016-10-17 21:57:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when my youngest son was doing this at that age
i would take hold of his hand and in mine and squeeze it firmly and put my face up to his and tell him
"that hurts and you will not do it that is not nice"
you have to do it every time and the others he hits have to do it
i do not belive you should ever hit a child under 2 years of age
2007-03-08 11:38:17 · answer #7 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her that is she dosent stop she will not get to play with something. Threaten Her (not in a bad way, scare her a little bit)
2007-03-08 10:49:29 · answer #8 · answered by Harts 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
remove her from the scene. firmly hold her hand and tell her NO. take away the objects she hits. let her cry. she will learn- she is testing you.
2007-03-08 10:49:15 · answer #9 · answered by KitKat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my brother (who is 16 years older than me) somehow developed this very intimidating look. he used to give this look to his daughter and she would stop whatever she was doing. all it took was "this look". she is now 18 years old and is still scared of that "look". he uses it on me sometimes and i will say "stop" "can u please knock it off" " i am going to leave if u don't stop that".
seriously develop your own "look" now.
2007-03-08 13:21:03 · answer #10 · answered by Miki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋