My best Friend is a freshman, and I love her soo much, but I think that she has crappy taste in guys. Her last boyfriend was a senior...She barely knew the guy and went out with him when he asked. In my opinion all he wanted to do is take advantage of her...While she thought he really liked her. She got into what I would call "slight trouble" in that relationship. Im worried now because she is dating a Junior, I just found out and she wasnt the one to tell me which is a bad sign(when she dosent tell me stuff it useually means that she knows its wrong and that I wouldnt approve). When I confront her she just think Im jelous that I dont have a boyfriend...but thats not true at all...I really care about her..and I dont belive that her boyfriend does at all...Im worried for her well being...Is it ok to confront her on this?...Or would it not be my place...?...Should I just leave this alone?.............Is it my right to get involved whenIm truely worried for her?..and what can i do??
2007-03-08 10:39:47 · 6 answers · asked by little miss sunshine 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i used to be that girl. and i was lucky enough to have a great friend like you who was always there for me. no matter what crazy situation i got into with whatever guy i was with at the time. i'd say the best thing for you to do is listen when she needs it and give honest advice WHEN SHE ASKS FOR IT! if you keep telling her how silly she's being she may end up not wanting to be friends at all.
hopefully she will smarten up and build some self-esteem. and then she'll be so happy you stuck by her thru it all. on the other hand, she could just stay this way forever, in which case if it's too painful for you to watch, you have to break away from her.
i know it's hard to watch but you can't give her self-esteem if she doesn't have it. all you can do is be a friend to her and let her know you're there for her without being pushy. she's going to do what she wants no matter what you say.
good luck! :-)
2007-03-08 10:48:18 · answer #1 · answered by RedDevyl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You confronted her. You did your best to show her that she shouldn't do this. You are a great friend to be willing to help her. You tried, all you have to do is be there if something goes wrong. If you get too involved, she might start to sway away from you. No one wants to here that they have bad taste in boyfriends, or girlfriends. You can try one last time, and try to see if she really likes him. Its great that you are worried about her, but there isn't really nothing you can do if she isn't willing to let you. Hope it all turns out well.
2007-03-08 19:43:29 · answer #2 · answered by Donovan G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is your duty as a friend to warn her of the potential trouble but if you keep warning her and she doesn't listen then try not saying anything and let her fall on her own, then maybe after her falling on her own will she realize and respect your opinion more, I know just watching is not going to be easy but hang in there
2007-03-08 18:46:17 · answer #3 · answered by Jane_Doe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should confront her, but it is out of place to demand her to break the relationship. The most you can do, I am afraid, is tell her that you don't think it is right. Besides that, nothing, because you are not her mother, or her. Sorry.
2007-03-08 18:44:59 · answer #4 · answered by Nikki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her before she gets in bigger trouble than she already is!
2007-03-08 18:45:09 · answer #5 · answered by Krupkake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show her what you posted. If she thinks that you posted that on purpose, show her my comment.
2007-03-08 18:44:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋