I want to stop crying and get over my problems....?

Question

People tell me that what I am crying over is not really worth all my tears and I wish that I could stop crying but I guess I am an emotional person. I feel embarrassed and I know people view me as weak, but I know I can be strong. I been crying a lot and I really just want to stop, but once we start talking about it, I start to cry again even though i try to fight back my tears. Maybe all the stuff I am going through will make me a stronger person, but I desperately want to know how I can stop crying now. I know maybe talking to someone will help, but I don’t think there is anyone who feels the same way I do. Please help =)

because i have to confront someone about it tomorrow and i am afraid that i might just start crying again, and i dont want that to happen.
I even cried a little in class, because i became obbessed about it and started to think about it the whole time. This is why i guess my friends dont really understand, and thats why i feel so ashamed half the time.
Depression - i was thinking about that, do i have depression and maybe thats why its so hard for me to get over it?

Answer 1

First of all....take a step back, take a deep breath, and look deeply into the situation. You say that what you are crying about is not really worth all your fears. Have you honestly determined that your crying is not worth it? Crying is a form of cleansing....tears are water of the inner self, springing from our spirit. Perhaps the crying is needed to rid yourself of the hurt. Only you can determine if the trigger for these many tears is big enough to cause such a release of emotion. If the trigger is that big, then cry! And why do you have to be strong for that.....has someone been telling you things like grow up, only babies cry, knocking you down with verbal insults, or have you heard this in your environment. Everyone cries - either publicly, or in silence where others will not hear. Yes, there are surely many who feel as you do. You are not alone - I have cried through the loss of a child, a best friend to suicide, my first love killed in an automobile accident, my life long career job, and now my husband is dying with lung cancer. I have cried many tears, and there were times when I tried not to cry, to hold in my emotions. These times were the most harmful to me. The pain was not dealt with, so it surfaced later in a way that cause far more harm, than when I had let the tears flow. So, my dear hurting soul, please allow the pain to be a healing pain. May these words comfort you, bring you peace and a better tomorrow!!!! Sheila in WV

Answer 2

Having someone tell you that what you're feeling is stupid or not a good enough reason to cry, can be painful. They are your feelings, so you need to know that it is ok to feel them in any way that you choose.
However, having said that, when a person crys alot, it could be a symptom of depression. If you're feeling depreesed, crying would be typical. You didn't say what you're going through, but if you've lost someone you love, either by death or even just out of your life, you may be experiencing grief. Grief can cause you to cry alot. Yopu need some professional advice. Talk to your Dr. if you can. If you're a young person, then please talk to your parents, or another adult that you trust.
Either way, please know that your tears do not make you weak.

Answer 3

Its perfectly normal for children under 10 years of age to cry. Above 10 years of age, children have enough experiences to help them understand how different behaviours would bring various reactions from people around them. They develop problem solving skills and have fair judgement of what is expected from them.
I was very healthy in my childhood. But slightest criticism or harsh remark from anybody used to bring me tears! You would do well to take some personality development classes. They teach you how to regain control after defeat, back-stabbing, unfair criticism etc.
When I had a fair jugdement of where I should exercise my right, where I must voice my opinion and where I can let go of some unpleasant situations, I felt I wasn't crying anymore.
Dont get me wrong but other person is likely to misunderstand you, if you cry. You seem to convey that you are not strong to take responsibility of your faults(Remember, all make mistakes some time or the other, but few have strenght to admit it) You convey by crying that you dont have an iron resolve to face adversities and wouldn't stand by your values if you need to assert them. You will find people sympathising you, but wont assign you any responsible task. No responsibility means no opportunity to show your talents or strengths. That will weaken you further.
Instead if you start asserting your opinions most of the weaker lot will stay out of your way thinking that you have strong sense of conviction and reason for your acts.
You could have resistance only from two types of people, (a)strong and wise, (b)strong and fools
Strong and wise will explain why your thinking or act is erroneous(if it is erroneous) before taking any action. In this case you will immediately change your behaviour and thinking. Strong but fools will seek to harm you first. In this case you wont cry, you will stay out of their way. Beat them by your wisdom. DONT BUDGE!
Also make sure when you gather your strength and confidence, you dont let weaker cry!

Answer 4

I think u are suffering from depression that is making u cry. Be relaxed and do not get stressed that makes u fall into depression. Be relaxed, be confident, be less sensitive and keep a open mind to accept the inevitable.

Answer 5

I might be wrong but it worked for me and might work for you.I was also very sentimental and cried on small things .i tried to overcome it .i went to the toilet and cried for 5 minutes in front of mirror i found out i did not look nice crying and that do you believe made me very strong.Self belief works the way nothing does.

Answer 6

my ex used to cry a lot, and got told the same things about how what she cries over isn't worth it. Sometimes crying is all you can do.if you need to talk to someone you can gimme a msg anytime

Answer 7

you need not cry for every thing. you should take it easy every thing in your life. but you do the opposite.if you are getting embarrassed it is just only before your friend and not any one else

Answer 8

Your habit can be controlled, if you become a detached person through meditation.

Answer 9

keep telling ur self..." I won't cry, I know I can, I will". it's difficu;t though. But by practise u will win over it.

Answer 10

try to do meditation