I have been seeing this girl on and off since October, we study together and see each other really often. However, in her room she has photos of her ex on the wall and is in contact with him regularly. She says she likes me but due to her returning to her hometown in May she says we have no future but she still wants us to date till then. Problem is i really really like her, however, the thought of her having me as a stop gap till her return home and possibly return to her ex hurts me, i enjo spending time with her but i feel i will find it hard to keep seeing her as before while i know it will never last. What do i do??
2007-03-08 10:24:26 · 8 answers · asked by Johnny Chapman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeh, i guess it would be a lot more straight forward if she didnt do things for me like bake for me, and other stuff i suppose that kinda makes me think she likes me a little, id like to see her cos i suppose im a bit lonely at uni and its nice havin a friend but i suppose it could get worse if i get more attached and in may she says thanks but have a good life...
2007-03-08 10:47:24 · update #1
Walk away now before you get really hurt. The longer you wail the harder it will be. She is only using you. It sounds like she still not over her ex. And you are filling the void, until she goes home. If you have any respect for your self. Let her go,and find someone else. Your better than that.
2007-03-08 10:29:21 · answer #1 · answered by sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now look for someone else to study with and start removing yourself emotionally from this friendship. She isn't an equal participant here. You persue her and she's holding back. That should show you that she may have realistic ideas if she's persuing her ex.
If she bakes for you she may be looking out for you, but you want a friend, plus more, not a mother.
Focus on what you want, study, friends, social life, work and the ideal relationship. If you are going to have a relationship its on your terms too. If you surrender to someone elses agenda you lose track of yourself in the relationship.
I went out with a guy who was a friend and he was fun...but the best advice he gave was "never go back". This girl has moved on in every way other than physically as yet. Do the best thing for you and replace her in your thinking and be open to find all that you need, want and deserve!
2007-03-16 18:07:19 · answer #2 · answered by piazamm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's told you what she can offer you: a temporary relationship until she returns home, and that she sees no future for you. She's been honest with you, and she treats you well. Those are both good things. So...your only decision to make is if you want to take what she's offering or not. You can't change her mind. But you can have a fun couple of months until she leaves. Or you could end it now. It's up to you if the desire to have her long term (which you can't do anyway) is more powerful than the desire to enjoy what little time you have. I would say live in the now, but that's just me.
Good luck.
2007-03-16 16:39:16 · answer #3 · answered by Vix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude get over it
you have got to be kidding me if you really try to keep this girl.
she doesn't want a relationship with you and she has made that clear to you, but you are going to turn weird on her. She isn't gonna keep hanging out with you and having sex with you if you start getting weird.
Listen, if you have some really deep rooted feelings for this girl then you need to stop seeing her before she starts playing games with your head. Watch, you guys will be chilling, and later on you see her heavily petting the jock strap of the football team. She'll look right at you just so you know that you mean d*ck to her.
If you can stay sharp and keep your heart from getting in the way of your mind then just see her when she is in town.
2007-03-08 18:33:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude, forget her man, girls are liars (not all) in situations like this, their also users. Shes probally telling her ex about you to make him jealous and so he'll want her back. Its best you end the friendship too it will be eaiser to move on, tell her you like her a lot and its hard to be "only friends". But dude you could "get some" if you wanted to, if she got back with her ex at least you'd know what his girl friend looked like naked.
2007-03-08 18:34:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other answers...you should definetly stop seeing her as soon as possible. Unless you are planning to move away with her, it's really hard dating someone when you know it will not last, espcially when she's going back to her hometown.
2007-03-08 18:32:09 · answer #6 · answered by PlanJam.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say good by, and look for anther.
2007-03-16 13:34:15 · answer #7 · answered by J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump her now, she is using you
2007-03-08 18:27:25 · answer #8 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋