well, i take my daughter with me every other day when I go over my boyfriend house. but my mom thinks it's a very bad ideal. and it's not good to leave her by herself.what do you think?
2007-03-08 10:20:19 · 17 answers · asked by anderson_nakeisha 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If it isn't a very serious relationship and a good chance it won't stick, you don't want your daughter to get real attached. If it is serious there is nothing wrong with that. Mom is probably thinking that there might be too many men that come and go. That isn't a stable environment for a child. It is mostly up to you and whatever you think is best for your child. Only you know what is best for your daughter!
2007-03-08 10:27:52 · answer #1 · answered by Butterflies 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You will be with your daughter forever...
How serious is the relationship with this guy?
Is she going to get attached and then you guys will break up and she'll be missing him too?
Are you doing anything inappropriate with the boyfriend while the child is there with you?
If it's not a serious relationship...I wouldn't take her over there either...
And I disagree with another answer on here...just because mom is giving her "two cents" doesn't mean she needs to volunteer to babysit...
It's your kid we're talking about here...
It's YOUR responsibility to provide a good and healthy atmosphere for your child...not grandma's job.
Your daughter should come first ...leaving her alone so you can go to your boyfriends house is the most idiotic thing I've ever heard and to hear you even mention it...makes me wonder.
And if it is infact a not so good environment for your daughter....then she should be the priority here...not the visit with your boyfriend.
2007-03-08 18:34:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
The suggestion that you should wait until your child is 18 to date is ridiculous. But I do agree that you need to keep the boyfriend and your daughter apart until you are much more further along into your relationship. I went through that with my mother. Now my mother is a decent woman who did not fool around and bring man after man into our house. But I did get attached to two these men when I was younger. They were good guys, both of them. It just didn't work out. No ones fault. Just happens. When I was in my teens I understood more. Besides you need to really,REALLY know these men well before you let them around your child. Child predators are really charming men. That is how they get around a mother's intuition. Good luck to you.
2007-03-08 18:52:49 · answer #3 · answered by Bookworm4124 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suppose you asked the question...Is it ok to take your mother with your over to your boyfriend's house might give you a bit of perspective. There are some things where a kid doesn't belong...and on a date is one of 'em. And...leaving your kid alone while you date...1, depends upon how old your kid is and 2, seems selfish. Get a babysitter or wait until she is staying with a friend or grandma. You had a kid...act like a parent.
2007-03-08 20:53:42 · answer #4 · answered by wormsforbait 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if it was once in a while then it would be alrite but i think she is worried that your she is going to get attached to him and if you guys break up the she will feel like they are being broken up with too my suggestion is you go on actual dates and leave your child with your mom or a sitter you don;t want them growing up feeling constant rejection after you guys get more serious then i think you should have a talk about if you start bring your daughter with you all the time if he'll still see her afterwards even if you guys no longer get along if he is serious enough then it shouldn't be a problem
2007-03-08 18:32:45 · answer #5 · answered by momma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, you shouldn't bring your child around this man until you've been together for at least a year. It would not be fair to your daughter to let her get attached to someone unless the relationship is headed for marriage. Also, you wouldn't want a man to get attached to her and then stay with you only for the daughter's sake. Your time with your daughter is her time to spend with her mom, not her time to spend with her mom and the new guy. Otherwise, wait until she turns 18 and then start dating.
2007-03-08 18:32:59 · answer #6 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I have heard via parenting classes is that unless the relationship is very serious and marriage is in the picture, a child should not even meet a new "friend".
2007-03-09 10:31:11 · answer #7 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your boyfriend are going to be serious he better understand that your child will goes where ever with you and if he does not like it than you know that he is not a good guy to have your child around..
2007-03-08 18:24:51 · answer #8 · answered by TM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom's right. Don't traumatize your daugher by letting her get attached to any male in your life unless you have made plans to get married. It only hurts the child. Get a babysitter or just don't date until she's 18.
2007-03-08 18:25:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how well you know him and if he and your daughter have a relationship enough for you to know if she feels safe and comfortabel going there. Have you asked her? How old is she? She might have a lot of confused, mixed up feelings about it.
2007-03-08 18:25:38 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋