My husband and I have been married for a little over a year, and we would like to adopt or foster a child. I love taking care of things and i also like being around kids, but there are a few things in our life that i want to know if it is ok to have and still foster or adopt a child. First of all, we live in a 2 bedroom apartment, it is 1300 Sq. Ft. We do have two dogs and a cat, and they are apart of the family to where it would be hard, i mean super hard to have to get rid of them. We also have a bird, some fish, and 2 baby bearded dragons. We do not smoke, we only have about one alcoholic drink every other month. My husband works, i stay home. My husband makes about 50-55,000 a year. We have two safe family cars. I used to work at a Day Care Center so i am certified for some things, although i want to renew a few other things. We travel about 3 times a year. We don't usually go out of the U.S. though. After all of that, is there anything that SS wouldn't let us foster or adopt???
2007-03-08 10:19:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
It sounds fine to me. You would be limit ted to one child, two depending on the size of the bedroom. The condition of the house is important, peeling paint, screens in windows, railing, etc.
There are a lot of things you need to go through, but you seem to be set as far as what you stated.
Pets wouldn't be an issue as long as not overwhelming the house, kept sanitary, and will limit from children with allergies.
2007-03-08 10:48:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
All of that sounds fine and all.. but the main things a foster/adoption agency is going to look at will be the amount of love and care that the child would be given.. as well as whether or not you have the means to take care of their needs.
My only concern about what you said, is in regards to all your animals (my, you have a lot!) and how they are family, and it would be hard to get rid of any of them . Trust me dear, I know all about loving animals and everything.. but sometimes, children can be allergic to certain animals, and it becomes a choice.. you can either have the animal, and your child be sick.. or get rid of the animal, and make your child better. We had a situation similar to that, where our son (he was very young at the time.. just a few months old) was severely allergic to cats, and well.. we had a cat. Our son had so many outbreaks from it.. we decided to let the kitty be an "outside" kitty from then on, and the problem was solved! I know that doesn't exactly work for all situations (not all animals can be outside like that), but my point is simply that whenever it comes between a child or an animal.. it shouldn't even almost be a tough decision. If you would have too hard of a time getting rid of any of your animals, I think you might not be quite ready to bring a child into your life.. cause you never know when the situation might mean that there are no inside animals or anything like that.
There would be a lot of inspections/interviews needed for either situaion (whether you adopt, or have foster children). But if you have a good, safe, and clean home.. and are a very loving and stable couple, then I would imagine that things should go pretty well for you.
Best of luck!
2007-03-08 10:35:24 · answer #2 · answered by arkiegirl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As wonderous as your lifestyle presents itself the many animals per sq foot of your apartment leaves me apprehensive in especially for special needs children where that much dander and allergen could ruin the experience for everyone.
Inversely I would be concerned for the animals where that many could be vulnerable to the antics of children who do not always treat animals kindly. Who would you worry about first, the animals or the child or both and have you bitten off more than you can chew in this case ?
Consider the potential vet bills compiled with a child who has special needs and you have spent more than you can earn in a year ?
Inspite of my reaction there are so many homeless children that I am sure there would be someone who could appreciate becoming a part of your family unit.
Here is a new concept taking place as well. Adopting a family such as a mother and child and sometimes the father too. This may be a kinder experience since you might be supporting a greater cause, that of say a mother attending university to become permanently self sufficient in the future. You might find sharing a larger home in this format works.
I sincerely wish you luck, it sounds like your intentions are filled with love, hope and many dreams. I hope it all works out for you in the end.
2007-03-08 10:58:11 · answer #3 · answered by lightwayvez 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a perfect candidate for adoption or foster care. It's not nearly as much about your income or the size of your home as it is your mental, physical, and emotional health. Good luck - based on what you've said, I can't imagine why you would be denied.
2007-03-08 10:26:56 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from what you have told us i see no reason why you shouldn't be a foster parent or adopt a child
i am a foster parent and you have much better qualifications than i do
2007-03-08 11:23:24 · answer #5 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
steal the child from the adoption agency
2007-03-08 10:24:43 · answer #6 · answered by *YAWN* 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋