My fiance is not a romantic and he makes me feel uncomfortable when I want to be romantic. I love dancing slow, staring into each others eyes, listening to music, sitting infront of a fire, I write poems, letters, make surprise romantic dinners and holding and cuddling. How do I make him want to do this with me more? We have been engaged one year and dating 3 years. Thanks for all suggestions!
2007-03-08 10:15:02 · 9 answers · asked by prettybird 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if he wont do it by now he will never do it!
2007-03-08 10:17:42 · answer #1 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're dealing with his basic nature. The best possible thing you can do is accept him as he is. Although he might not be a very demonstrative person he must have other qualities that make up for this or you wouldn't still be with him. Try not to pressure him because you'll make it into a big issue and he'll be more self concious than ever when he does feel like expressing his romantic side. Also, if you're bound and determined to try to alter his behavior try altering your own. If what you're doing now isn't getting the desired response try something else. Maybe let him be in control for a while. Don't be so quick to demonstrate your own feelings and that might make him try harder. This is simple manipulation though and probably not healthy for your relationship. If romance is so important to you that you don't feel you can live with a partner that doesn't live up to your expectations in that department maybe you've simply picked the wrong guy.
2007-03-08 18:25:16 · answer #2 · answered by Andrea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dear, this universe has an amazing balance to everything!
if you are both romantic, the relationship will be boring!
if you are both un-romantic, if i need to say, also it will be a wild and not balanced relationship!
your fiancee loves his work, loves his nba or nfl or sports game? right?
and you were so understanding with him about that? right?
am i right?
if yes, well the 1st thing amaze him by diffrent stuff, now his favorite let us say nfl team, right, if he is into nfl, go and get him a football card, a way to expensive one, like an exquisite or something, surprise him with it!
ok! he will feel something new!
and always make feel bad that he is missing some important things in your life, like let me say your 1st date aniversary, the 1st .....u know! and if was bias with the candel romantic things you do, let him now!ok!
and dont go traditional, and let him watch kate and leopold, that is not true in our time!
ok!
always remeber the balance between the white and black!
all life is about that!
ok!
myself i am way to romantic, i love those things you are talking about, u enjoy doing them right? u want some credit right? u want the same for you? u deserve it? right? well it will not ever be happening!
look at him how he shows u his love, ok! how do u know? see that, look at that, this would be his love!
my wife, does not do me a lot of candel dinner and all of that, but she shows me understanding, and support that i need in my career, this love!
ok!
take care! and you can alwyas ring a bell to help u out!
ziad!
2007-03-08 18:28:51 · answer #3 · answered by zizou15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to balance romance with sex!!. To mellow can be suffocating, so mix a romantic dinner with black lingerie. And if you are getting married to the guy and you have been dating 4 years you should be able to talk to him about this, tell him when he does romantic things that you love it, and that you would love if it hapened more often!!! POSITIVE REENFORCEMENT!!!, don´t criticise him
2007-03-08 18:21:46 · answer #4 · answered by L V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG!
Alright this is what i think you should do.
Bring it up to him, tell him how you feel, make him understand what you think, and what you want. Then it should change if he loves you. Also if that doesn't help tell him to watch the movie hitch with will smith. It is very accurate.
=) sorry if i could not help more but im not engaged so i have no idea what its like =)
2007-03-08 18:20:24 · answer #5 · answered by cr80exp2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make him feel like he needs to b more romantic around u so give him that impression u sure to get some kind of respond
2007-03-08 18:19:15 · answer #6 · answered by Valarie W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just walk around the house with some hot a$$ thong and no top and nothing else...I mean do chores and watch tv, and just lay around like that if he don't like that that you're more than welcome to come to my house and I'll make u feel wanted....;P
2007-03-08 18:19:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
slip into a discussion and find out what he wants you to do
and then you can work it from his way
2007-03-08 18:18:17 · answer #8 · answered by shambles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yerself.
2007-03-08 18:17:49 · answer #9 · answered by rae_ramirez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋