Anybody have a 9 or 10 yr old boy I need help with mine?

Question

My son is 9 about to turn 10 and he never wants to go outside I know that all kids are diffrent but what dose the avg. 10y/o do for fun because I rember when I was 10 it ment the world to me to be able to go outside and play my boy dosent want or like to much he also dosent watch alot of TV or play on comp. or video games mostly stays in his room pretending that he is the principle of a school he says thats what he want to be when he grows up so what other types of things could I encourage him to do for fun just so he can see there is more to the world than just his imageination

Answer 1

Well, I don't have a kid, but I have a 10 year old brother (CLOSE ENOUGH, LoL)

I think it's cute that he has such a strong idea for what he wants to do when he grows up. My brother is extremely fond of his video games, gameboy, computer, etc. He plays soccer though, and enjoys recess.

My little bit of advice would be to keep encouraging his dreams -- in a way that benifits you as well! Try suggesting that he takes his 'students' out on a field trip and give him a scavenger hunt paper to work on with his faithful 'students'. Or, recommend him to take recess because he is sure to agree kids need that, and principals do to! Also, you can try introducing him to an outdoor sport, like soccer, baseball, football (aaahh!), and others. Or you can have him teach YOU a gym class out in the lawn! Tell him it's good practice for when he wants to be a principal and teacher -- it's also good for you to spend time with your son.

Good Luck with getting your little Teacher outdoors!
~Ainsley, the teenage sister!

Answer 2

My son also likes to "pretend"... I've heard him talking in his room, and thinking he is talking to me asked what he said, and the response is usually "I'm just pretending..." It is good he is doing that, rather than glued to a TV or video game. Does he have any kids his age nearby? My son started spending more time outdoors when he found a friend to play with, and now is more inclined to do it on his own. It may be helpful to find some fun activities you can do together - take a walk or a bike ride, play catch with a ball or frisbee, make a snowman, etc., depending on where you live and what the weather is like. We sent our son to day camp at a Nature Center, both in the summer and during winter break, and he found new things he likes about the outdoors. He loves to hike and snowshoe, and those are things he can do alone, with a friend, or we can do as a family. You could also teach him, and maybe his friends, the games you played as a kid. Maybe he can be the pricipal, and take the family - his students - on a field trip some where. The key to finding things he will like is to try lots of different things and keep encouraging him. An imagination is important, and for some kids, it is enough. Find ways to participate in his world, and ways for him to participate in yours.

Answer 3

Does any of this describe your son?

"There are impairments in two-sided social interaction and non-verbal communication. Though grammatical, their speech is peculiar due to abnormalities of inflection and a repetitive pattern. Clumsiness is prominent both in their articulation and gross motor behavior. They usually have a circumscribed area of interest which usually leaves no space for more age appropriate, common interests. Some examples are cars, trains, French Literature, door knobs, hinges, cappucino, meteorology, astronomy or history."

If so, he may have Asperger's Disorder, a mild form of autism. In Asperger's Disorder, affected individuals are characterized by social isolation and eccentric behavior in childhood.

Under the circumstances, you may want to have him checked by a mental health professional.

If this is NOT the case, you can take him places to get him out of the house. After all, he's the child and you're the parent. Fairs, playgrounds, events that are child-oriented. Live sports. Have a picnic, and take the basketball. Does he have a bike? If he's not skilled at sports or bicycling, you can teach him with patients.

Good luck with your boy! Mine is 9 going on 10, and he's my first "jock." What an experience!

Answer 4

I have a 10 year old son also. He though is very friendly, and likable kid, chooses also to sit inside both at home and at school recess times. Have you sat and asked him why he wants to do this? At school, it maybe a social issue. Is he sensitive to what others say to him? This also maybe the reason why he chooses to stay inside. Does he have any friends, or neighborhood kids he likes to play with?
Sometimes, kids can be introverts just as much as an adult.
Have you tried getting him out into a social function such as Boy Scouts, etc? My son is not much of a sports player, likes to also play computer, video games, watch tv, read books... So we put him in cub scouts a year and a half ago to encourage social development without forcing physical sports , etc. I am happy to say, he is now a Boy Scout, and loves it!

Answer 5

my son is 9 almost 10 and is involved in every sport imaginable, have you tried getting him into some type of team sport? soccer is a good one where all skill levels can compete together. other than that try a barter type system, if he wants to watch tv have him go out and ride his bike for an equal amount of time before he can watch tv. or go on a natur hike together and see how many different types of leaves, bugs, birds, etc you can each find. or have a scavanger hunt. involve him in outdoor chores for computer time. make him ear videogame time with physical activity. too many kids these days waste away there days inside therefore there are more over weight kids than every before. also they seem to get sick easier because they never get the fresh air and exercise they need.

Answer 6

Its good for them to have an imagination, but he should get outside and have fun too. Mabey there is a bully at school or something and mabey thats preventing him from going outside. Mabe ask him if anything is bothering him. My nephew is 10 and he loves to ride him bike and play at the park with his friends. He takes a two-way radio with him so we know where him and his brother are at all times, cause they have bullies that bother them a lot!! Try talking to him to make sure he is ok. Im sure he will change and not want to be inside at all in a little while!! Hope this helps a little.

Answer 7

i have a 9 year old girl but not the same problem. i would think that the imagination can be used for something artistic you could do with him, or writing camp so he's around other people who kids who may be introverted (or imaginative if you will). ALL kids these days lack interest in much else outside of tv or video games.

our daughter loves tv tv tv and more tv but it causes weight problems due to boredom eating. when she watches tv, she's doing other things now like drawing or playing dress up. i wish you luck as you tap into what your son really could be doing that is productive- my last tip, is pick something to do TOGETHER; i've found my kids will do most ANYTHING if i do it with them, no matter how lame!

Answer 8

Does he have friends near? Or does he get teased about something and is just not telling you? Why don't you go out with him and play basketball or some other 1 on 1 game and see if you can tell what is really bothering him.. It sounds like there is something going on that he is just not telling you... Try to get a handle on it now, because it will just make it alot tougher when he is a teenager.. Good luck!

Answer 9

The average 10 year old boy is into sports and video games. There's nothing wrong with NOT being average. It's a little weird that he just plays "principal" (I was never that ambitious- I just played "teacher," lol). Have you ever joined him? Give it a try and find out what it is about playing in his room that is so appealing. Maybe you can figure that out and incorporate that into other things.

Answer 10

I don't have a son, but I have several cousins that age. What you should do is take the video games out of his room and put a time limit in the games. So when he runs out of time he could read a book or have a friend over to play or go outside. That is how my mom brought me up. At the time I thought it was sooo unfair, but now I'm almost glad that she did that.