Why are most apartment managers women and rude?

Question

We live in an apartment. We have had two different managers. They have both been women and rude. Real @itches. I spoke to someone else who used to do landscaping for varius apartments and he said they were all women to and nothing but rude, inconsidereate, @itches. Why is that? Is it something the emloyer looks for when hiring a manager?

She isn't over weight.
To rader- don't be so quick to analize every question. I to am a woman. I have spoken to many people who have a lot of experience in this area. None of them have ever encountered a manager who wasn't a woman and extremely rude. It is just a fact. You are so quick to try and answer a question without thinking about it. You didn't even to7uch on the subject. Read what most of everyone else is posting. I am not the only one who feels this way!

Answer 1

An interesting observation. Must be because they are caught in between The landlord (who has been proved to be the worst type of being in the world ), and the tenant who most of the time is over-paying and not getting real value for his money let alone essential services like hot water, garbage pick-up, parking, security, etc. It's a wonder why there isn't more violence between both factions. I in fact know of an apt mgr. killed by disgruntled tenants-and they skipped out on the rent to booth! Some of the apt dwellers said she deserved it. Don't quote me!!

Answer 2

Apartment management is a tricky business, because people come in all kinds of mental, social and ethical stripes. A business has to pay its bills in order to survive. A tenant needs a place to live, whether s/he has the rent money or not. Sometimes these two needs are in conflict. The safety is in numbers, since the cooperation of the majority may cover the unreliability of the minority.

But sometimes it doesn't. And then there are the incidental expenses of normal wear and tear or of the thoughtless actions of destructive tenants. Too much of that could make a person suspicious and bitter.

As to what being a woman has to do with it, I'm not sure. Often assertive women appear to be shrewish and bitchy when they may merely be being "realistic" and practical. I'm not saying there isn't some gratuitous meanness in your situation, just that often women aren't allowed much social nuance between nice and nasty.

As long ago as the days of the Roman Empire, men's place was at the Senate and the forum, while women were regarded as rulers of the household and the marketplace. That meant the family budget. She determined what was bought and sold, who was hired and what got done, and for how much. Maybe your manager is channeling hard-nosed ancient feminine dealers.

Who knows what childhood traumas and hard knocks led your managers down their paths? Maybe they were indeed hired for just that quality. All you can do is smile, say as little as possible and try to stay out of their way.

Answer 3

Being a woman I can answer this on 2 levels:
My friend manages an apartment and is viewed by some as a "@itch" that comes partly from having to deal with people who think that she is at their beck and call, including contracted workers such as landscaping and snow removal. You have to have a very tough hide to work a job such as this. Most men don't have the ablility to be "@itches" it just isn't in them. They also lack the ablility to tell people no when their rent is 10 days late. My intention is not to bash men this is based on my own experiance working for a male apartment manager.

Answer 4

I became an apartment manager 16 years ago, with the clear understanding that I would NOT be rude and cruel to people. I have always treated my residents as my friend or family, taking care of their needs, and going a little extra for all of them. My building is always 100% occupied and I have the nicest people living here, that I couldn't be rude even if I wanted to. I hope and pray that not every manager is rude and that maybe there a few like me.

Answer 5

Congratulations! You have provided the perfect example of how to demonstate prejudice. Your question offers a general assumption about two classes of people, apartment managers and women, and in one sentence you have condemned them ALL - every single one of them - as rude. No exceptions, right?

Can you possibly imagine a more prejudicial thing to say? (Okay you can now go look up the word "prejudicial" while we wait .....)

Prejudice comes in all forms. It isn't just for black people or gay people or Muslims or Baptists or Republicans or handicapped people anymore. You, too, can be a bigot! Start generalizing about whole groups of people - and in no time at all you'll have turned yourself into the person your teachers and parents and church leaders and friends warned you about! My, aren't you proud of yourself now!

Answer 6

i think it is a curse of the landlady lol i too had a real b@tch for a land lady she was a stupid cow and almost let the apartment building burn down(she shut off the fire alarm in the midst of a fire!!) i think it is a prerequisite to be middle aged and bitchy to get that job...who else would want it but someone miserable!

Answer 7

You've had experience with two, and you talked to someone else about it . . . and that means MOST apartment managers are rude women??

That doesn't follow.

Answer 8

Hmmm....sounds like you live in my apartment complex. I think it is because they hate their sorry lives and their sorry pathetic job.

Are yours fat too? Mine are.

I think Biblio (the posting below mine) is a property manager.

Answer 9

Having to deal with tenants will do that to ya I guess.

Answer 10

Oh, they're probably just jealous of you.

Yep. That's it.

Jealous.