I met a guy that determines whether someone is right for them within in 5 minutes of meeting and doesn't like to waste any time after that. He says chemistry has to be there immediately. I know is usually happens that way but there have many times that I have become attracted to someone whom I have been around for some time but never really felt attracted to before. Anyway I am meeting this guy tomorrow and I'm not looking forward to it. I have already committed myself to meeting him and will not stand him up but I know he will probably not feel that "instant" thing for me and will probably end the date abruptly. I have been on many first dates where I knew they werent the one but I just enjoyed the date and the conversation and sent a thank you later on. This guy blocks women after he has met them so they can't contact him or look at his profile again. He is not my type in many ways as he has 3 small children and is in his late 40's. I have one teenager.
2007-03-08 09:44:52 · 16 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not looking to deal with little kids again or the ex wife. I think a older man with small children should be thankful he can get anyone to go out with him with all his baggage and most of his money going to the ex. He is also picky about my photos although he only has one headshot of himself, he keeps asking if my pics are current. Is this guy a jerk or what?
2007-03-08 09:46:26 · update #1
Yep...sounds too picky to me. Sounds like he needs a good kick in the ***...perhaps either stand him up, or go and order anything and everything on the menu...whatever is the most expensive. Tell him you have expensive tastes. He sounds like he'll drop you anyway...He doesn't sound fair. He asks for you pic over and over again...then doesn't send one to you. Plus...3 small children. I wouldn't want to do that again if my life depended upon it. There are many fish in the sea...just go find the one you're looking for, not him! Wish you the best.
2007-03-08 09:51:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a loser and someone to steer clear of. Just why are you meeting him anyway. I would hope he doesn't feel the "instant" thing!! Also, this is BS about knowing in five minutes whether you are right for each other. Its been very often that I've grown attracted to someone I initially was neutral about or even didn't like! Anyone who relies so heavily on "chemistry is also not likely to be a person who will be there for you in more ways than one if you catch my drift And speaking of people who have max baggage, i have not found them to be less picky, which may be part of the reason they have so much baggage!
2007-03-08 17:56:05 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. CoCo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a major jerk to me. Most guys who are picky like this have no right to be. That is a stupid way for him to know if someone is right for him or not. Obviously this doesn't work, because he is divorced and not in a serious relationship. I have had many good relationships where I didn't, "feel" anything at first. You really have to get to know someone. Sometimes I thought I "felt something" and they were the worst mistakes I ever made.
It would be great if he did feel something and you could tell him, "Sorry, but I just don't feel anything for you!"
Good Luck!
2007-03-08 18:02:05 · answer #3 · answered by jabegall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like this guy has much going for him. As far as being picky goes...I think everyone has the right to be picky. Perhaps in his case he may have an ego issue where he thinks he is better than everybody and ladies should be so lucky as to be in his presence.
I would be more worried about his blocking women. That could mean this guy has a lot more going on than you know.
2007-03-08 17:50:52 · answer #4 · answered by ←Shea→ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definite jerk. A good idea since you not standing him up, get dressed looking your best, ou know liike you can get any a man at any time any place, any where, nice dress 6 inch pumps, the whole nine . Get on the date and when his ego is feeeling blown up for being with this beautiful lady, kindly let him know that you don't thuink there is any chemistry and go enjoy the rest of the night yourself.
2007-03-08 17:52:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually the most baggage makes a person the most picky. Definitely a waste of time in the long run.
2007-03-08 17:51:50 · answer #6 · answered by Sparky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he has really been hurt in his past and has put up a wall to block ppl out. Just be yourself and if the date doesn't go well who cares, you've only wasted a little part of your day..
2007-03-08 17:49:08 · answer #7 · answered by stephanie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would call of the date.
2007-03-08 17:49:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he has issues with getting close to someone --- i know my lady was nothing i was looking for --- age, children --- yet it was an instant rapport --- it took me a few days to realise --- so yes i think he is being too picky --- he needs to keep his mind open --- and if i may say so do you --- you never know who will sweep you off your feet --- best wishes
2007-03-08 17:54:41 · answer #9 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honeslty that wouldnt be the type of guy i would want to spend time with.in 5 minutes you can barely find out anything about the person.
2007-03-08 17:50:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋