OK so you catch your husband looking at naked woman online....?

Question

and you are a little overweight....how would that make you feel, to see him looking at skinny naked women with like the almost perfect body

and to you its cheating but you keep catching him, and you are a little overweight....how would you feel to see him looking at women with the almost perfect body?

Answer 1

It should make you feel the same as he feels if you look at a naked man who is hotter than him.

He knows you aren't going to leave him for the guy. Or that you would even jump into bed with him if he offered it to you. It is eye candy, that's all.

Keep in mind men are visually stimulated creatures, more so than women. They get INCREDIBLY turned on by the sight of hot women. And it doesn't matter AT ALL how hot you are. It's not a complaint about you. You could be Ms. Universe and he'd STILL want to look at them.

As soon as you realize the following:

1. Those pictures are fantasies.
2. It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you
3. Him being all revved up from it likely makes him hotter for you
4. You berating him for it makes him feel ashamed and afraid of you.
5. He's going to look at it. He might just get better at hiding it.
6. Practically ALL men do this. Even those who say they don't.
7. If you relax and, even better, look at it with him - you'll get some benefits from it too. There is not a single time my wife and I haven't porn surfed where we weren't doinking with 10 minutes.

your life and his will get a whole lot easier.

HONEST it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. If you command him to stop you might think he did, or he might stop for a while, but it is a state of ignorance. He'll find another way to look. Increased sneaking around, lying, anger, checking up, scolding, shame.....these things do not make a great marriage.

You can call men jerks for being this way, but it won't change it. We are what we are. Feel lucky he's not cheating on you. Life could be SO much worse.

Answer 2

Without admitting any thing I'll just say that sometimes men look at that stuff and think I wish my wife would do that still. Men marry women hoping they will continue on the way things were before they get married. Some men feel that their wives were more fun before being married and want some of that back. Both men and women grow and change. My wife is a Little over weight and I just wish she was more confidant in herself. She is still a very sexy woman and I'll admit I'm not as fit as I was when we met. It goes both ways. You need to plan a romantic get away and show the woman you still are. She is in there. Bring her back out once in a while. Get back to fun flirty stuff you did when you were dating. If you are really that uncomfortable with your weight then lose a couple of pounds. I assure you that he wants back the lust you guys had when you were first together it does help a lot and it hopefully it will bring back your confidence. Keep your head up and be proud you are sexy. Besides those perfect women are airbrushed. A woman without blemishes isn't a real woman any way. Good luck and I hope this helps.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

I would feel awful....I know that all men like to look and there is nothing wrong with looking, but it still is very hurtful to know the man I love is getting off on another woman!! It doesn't matter if you are thin or overweight, it still hurts.

How interesting, after I was done giving my opinion I read through the other answers and all the men said to 'not worry about it' and all the women said it would be' very upsetting to them'. I guess that maybe I should think about what the men are saying and realize that maybe I would make more of a deal about it than would be necessary....nah, I would still kick his a&&!!

Answer 5

When I found out my husband was doing it, I FREAKED out because I automatically assumed it was because I just wasn't "doing it" for him. These women look NOTHING like me and it made me feel very badly about myself, and it made me even MORE self-conscious.

We've had this arguement a million times and it always ends the same. I really think, that as hard as it is to accept, that men have the need to look at naked women - all and any naked women, doing nasty things. It doesn't make them unfaithful, although it may seem disgusting to us as their wives. Men are wired differently. I know everyone says, "Oh, surf porn with your husband, or watch porn with your husband." I am not quite at that point yet where I can be comfortable watching MY husband getting so worked up over the busty redhead on the TV screen. Somehow I don't think that it will have the same effect on me yet. In fact, all the thought makes me want to do is keep my clothing on! LOL

I do hope to get past this - eventually. It takes time I think. And its nice to know I'm not the ONLY one bothered by this.

Good luck!!!

Answer 6

You're fighting a losing battle. You have every right to feel upset, but I don't think I know a man alive that doesn't look at porn, my husband included. I fought tooth and nail for about 2 months after I found out and I finally resolved to the fact that I cannot control that he looks at porn...period. My two choices were to either get over it or leave him (and then the next guy would do the same thing anyway). Since I wanted to keep my marriage, I got over it. And honestly, I don't think about it anymore.

And as for your weight, I don't think that's a factor. Your husband loves you for who you are and you shouldn't think that your weight has anything to do with him looking at these other women. None of what he is doing is your fault. Men are just preprogramed to be on the "hunt" and this is his way of dealing with that urge without actually being unfaithful.

I look at it this way, I'd rather him look at them on the screen than in real life. Imagine what it was like for men before pornography...if they had the urge to misbehave they didn't have an outlet other than to act on their urges.

So hang in there girl and don't let it upset you. Take care and best of luck!

Answer 7

I am so tired of men answering that it's normal to watch porn. It's not right. I've caught my husband a few times and it just feels horrible. Like I'm not good enough. I do and would do just about anything for this man to be satisfied and it's just so disappointing that he will still go back to that crap. I try my best to tell myself that it's not me. I am beautiful. He is sick and perverted.

Answer 8

I feel that if your man doesn't want you doing it than he shouldn't. I have looked at naked men using the same computer that my husband uses when I find his "secret" searches in his history. He blew up at me! I have found pictures that he was able to comment on and OOOHHHHH did he comment. I have heard so many stories of people cheating with someone they find online. I think that if they're looking in time they will cheat. Our daughter's are teenagers. Most of the women my husband searches for are around the same age. Not cool.

Answer 9

It doesn't bother me.My hubby does occasionally look at Internet porn.And I am overweight.But his looking at them has nothing to do with me.They are just images on a computer.I noticed you pointed out that the woman he looks at are skinny.Do you know why you pointed that fact out?It is because you are insecure about your weight.And you think you aren't has sexy or pretty has the other woman on the computer.Which I am sure you are wrong about.Their are plenty over weight woman whom look a lot better than the skinny ones.Their isn't any reason why you should feel bad about yourself.Just because he looks at porn.There are plenty of woman with really nice bodies that have spouses whom look at porn.And the problem doesn't have anything to do with the way they look.It has to do with their spouses need to see these other woman's pictures.At least he is just looking at pictures and not out trying to find someone to cheat with.

Answer 10

you are reading to much into it I think. Seriously, I love my husband to death and would never leave him or cheat on him but if a hot guy wanted to get naked in front of me you better believe I'd watch. It's not like you love your spouse any less or that you would cheat. I think you are thinking about it to much is all.