why do girls want a good guy but secretly want a bad boy?

Question

Is being a good guy mean you are being easy or do good guys have to be bad boys in disguise?

Answer 1

My best friend is an ace at this. He's married and I'm single.
I am useless at chatting up girls but he can 'pull' so easily.
He says treating a girl mean is the best way and so far he's proved it to me.
example:
I see a girl i like, i wanna go and be nice and ask her if she'd like to go for a drink and meal! We go out and I'll give her a peck on the cheek like a gentleman and ask if we can meet again soon.

He says:
Do the same thing but when it comes to kissing goodnight, back off! Push her away and say things like ' I'm not sure we should be together, i like you but i like other girls aswell'.

Now don't forget he's married, he doesn't 'mess around' cause he loves his wife.
But every time we go out he will have girls pestering him like crazy if he gives his number out because he hasn't given in!
He says they love to have the chase as well as men do?
It astounds me.
I can't do it because i guess im an old romantic where i think women should be treated like women! Special!
He has women after him all the time! I have girlfiends but not to the extent they wanna rip my clothes off!
Who is right here???

Answer 2

Girls like the excitement of a bad boy. It's the lure of being bad which is always just a little part of everybody. But they really want a good guy for the long haul. Being a good guy does not mean you are being easy. Girls like good guys. Just add in a little excitement now and then and they will adore you just the way you are!

Answer 3

Good question. I'll start with the bad boy. I think when girls are young they want the boy that their parents warn them about because they know it will upset their parents. On this note lets face the fact that no boy is ever good enough for any mans daughter. The reason is because men were once boys and we know how they think, what they want and how far they are willing to go to get it. So the girl wanting the "bad boy" is a rebellion thing.

I think as women age and realize how moronic boys are they understand that they really want a man. The good man will take care of buissness. He will go to work and help with the kids. He will make sure his wife has everthing he can possibly give her. On the flip side of this however, She wants to know that her man can handle stress and be couragous. He needs to be a rock in a lot sitiations and she needs to know he can be there to support her. She wants a man that isn't afraid to go out and defend her honor so to speak.

My wife is proud of me being a fire fighter and she loves to go off roading in the jeep with me. She likes the little streaks of adventure. She likes the fact that "her man" is on that truck when the call comes in. There are times she is nervous on a call but when I get home she is excited to see me. It gets her adrenniline going too.

I think women need to seek a good guy that likes adventure. Good luck and I hope this helps.

Answer 4

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Hey look, Iwrote this huge long thing for you but it got erased, I'll tell you the gist of it though... here:

I'm not 100% sure but Ithink it's the appeal of excitement, love, romace, thrill, sponitanity, attraction, SeemslikeMost "goodguys", per say, end up being boring, dull, anal-retentive, judgmental, AHHHUUGGHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!
And even if you both Have that right now, At First with someone, it can ware off after a period of very short time, and sometimes as women we believe it has to be there ALL OF THE TIME... It's nice, but one has to learn, in time, that it isn't always going to be there 24/7 in a relationship, THAT ISN'T A BAD THING!, so long as you both still love each other, and know that the passion for one another is always there, but maybe it isn't during her time of the month, she / he had a bad day, things are hectic, when you're working, when problems arise, everyday whatever!....
Unfortunately, it just takes time to understand that That is all it is, is a Lust you are trying to fulfill, however at the time, you really may not believe that... you may think it is Suppose to be there,otherwise it just isn't meant to be!... not so, that's an entrapment for many women! We can seek the "un-wantable" into what we thing we want. It just takes time for this to pass, or sometimes it comes back during or after a bad relationship too.

Good Luck to You!

Answer 5

The same reason a guy wants a good girl but secretly wants a bad girl !

Answer 6

Women are fickle creatures knowing there is no such thing as a good man and bad boy together. If they do not know that,,, they find out quick. Then they find a good guy to complain to about the bad boy they are stuck with and how bad he is to them. I say good for them,,, laugh in their face, and walk away. I am not a bad boy,,, but the good guy left me long ago.

Answer 7

Do you know that I fully have been told the secret of why this is the case. However, I am a good guy so cannot break a confidence and I'm a bad guy because I am not going to tell you so I can use the knowledge for my personal gratification.

Answer 8

I think for some it's like a drug, the adrenaline rush is addictive. For others it's the need to help or mother someone with problems. For others it's low self esteem, and guys can really manipulate her to think every thing bad is her fault,and somehow she doesn't deserve the good one. Perhaps it's just immaturity, good guys look better after you've had a few life experiences. Perhaps you're looking in the wrong places for the right kind of girl. Role playing your someone else could be exciting,but changing yourself into someone you don't like to please someone else seldom works.

Answer 9

Girls want bad boys because they are fun and exciting. Women want good guys because they care about long term commitments and self-respect. Stay a good guy. In the short term it may be difficult, but in the long term you will find a better woman!

Answer 10

The reason why some girls like good guys is because they are pussys. Nah not really. Thet probably gothurt by a supposibly bad boy. Me other hand I get hurt by good guys. I like the bad boys.