how do i cope with a high need 4 intimate companionship when i still do not feel I'm ready 4 a new relation ?

Question

I have many personal issuse with an X as well as a few gender issues . But, still i have such a great need for some one to be with . It isn't even a sexual thing , i am a cuddler and in privite I can be very needy eamtionaly. Should i even look for someone , and if so how should i go about it ?? please help somebody.......

Answer 1

Get a puppy you'll get all the love and cuddles you need without the hassle of a relationship.

Answer 2

In life, we don't always get what we want, when we want. It's going to be hard but keep being patient, and let out all that pent up emotion in a healthy way like taking up a physical activity...like say, running. Keep a regular journal, and write everything in there, don't hold anything back. Have strong social ties with some close friends and family. Think about other passions in life. Think about other people you care about, or even the larger good, to see where you can help, and be useful. Your time of beign close to someone & having a loving companion, will come, but not just yet. There are issues to be resolved. The wrong path is easy to take, but you wont respect yourself at the end of that path. The right path always seems difficult, but with the right attitude, you can do it, and you will respect yourself so much more when you do the right thing. We just have to pass through the storm, in order to see some sunshine. Stay strong.

Answer 3

Deal with your issues first. Take a step back and see the big picture. Take time to pamper yourself. Maybe take a look at some goals in life you may be neglecting. This is a hard time but the key to getting through this is to not isolate yourself and endurance.

Answer 4

Uh....no? Why would you want to get someone's hopes up for a relationship that you don't even want? If you're horny, masturbate; if you need to cuddle, buy a teddy bear. And try to figure out what makes you so needy. Until you can be content being alone, you won't be any good to anybody anyway.

Answer 5

you've answered your own question. you want love, not sex- and that's not something you can just go out and pick up. you mention you are not ready and that you are emotionally insecure. i think the puppy is a fantastic idea. be nice to yourself get a massage.. use the single time to reconnect with yourself- get a better idea of what whoami w is and what you want.. take care!

Answer 6

well do you think that you will end up hurting this person that you get all this intamacy out of??? if so just wait till you are stable enough to know who you are and who exactly you want to be with!