Okay so over a year ago my brother who is now 19 was living with her. She had to give him the boot because he was stealing, fighting with her other kids, and basically NOT following the rules. She didnt want to do it, but her husband made her... The husband and my bro fought all the time too... So my bro took of to FL with this chick and needed to come back. The only plaec he had left to stay was with my husband and I... We let him stay and set rules for him. He did okay in the beginning but met another chik and was with her all the time... Maybe stopping by our house 1x every 2 weeks... Then they broke up and he came back here to our house. We are moving into a smaller house at the end of the month, so our house is a mess... Anyways, I found out that my brother stole a dirty movie from us and also my husbands dead fathers wallet... He hasnt paid us rent for over a month.. We decided to kick him out... Well he spoke with my mom and she calls me heartless... How do I deal with her?
2007-03-08 08:53:17 · 5 answers · asked by greygirl06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
when she says things like that, and yet they did the same thing to him? Shes being so hipocitic... Shes said she cant believe that I would put my bro on the streets and **** like I dont care and how heartless i am to do that... I believe that we had to do this in order for him to learn... All he does is live off of people! And steal and lie and use them!
So now me and my mother are not speaking and I dont care to because of how shes acting. She doesnt care about me or my husband... only her grandchild (my son)
We were going to stay with her for 6 months to save money to move out of state, but now we wont beable to go as soon as we had hoped
2007-03-08 08:55:35 · update #1
he's her failed child not yours, keep him away from you family, you need to get on with your life yoruselves, at 19 he has to find his own way--join the service, although they dont want thives with a record, this is why i believe in the draft!! when we moved out of state we just went-- period, w/about $2,500. and we survived just fine,
2007-03-08 09:07:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you two have already decided how you are going to deal with it - you are not talking to each other.
It is time for all the adults in the family to take care of themselves and not live with each other for any reason so that no one feels used. It doesn't sound like anyone has a lot of financial resources and things like money can rip a family apart. Support yourself and let the rest of your adult family support themselves. Stand firm but be polite about it - no need for name calling or pointing out past mistakes. Let your no be no and leave it at that.
2007-03-08 17:15:27 · answer #2 · answered by Stefka 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're doing the right thing, your mother is putting her guilt about how she failed him onto you. Put it back in her face and tell her 'why don't you take him, he's YOUR son!' Good luck and get away from that family! Don't let your son get too close to her either, she's proven not to be a good influence.
2007-03-08 17:58:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You mom is stupid. Maybe your brother should move back with her. If she says no, how heartless is it ?
Your brother is a thief and a mooch. As for the dirty movie, make sure you have dvd's and make a copy "archive" of them so they don't disappear anymore :).
2007-03-08 16:58:54 · answer #4 · answered by Sparky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore what she said, there's no sense or logic to it. If she thinks that what you've done is so heartless, how come she hasn't told her son to get himself right back home to her?
2007-03-08 18:17:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋