would i have to live on the barracks? could i live where i am now in my house its rented? would i live at his main base? can someone tell me how my life would change.i do have children to.havent asked my partner this question as he hasnt asked me to marry him lol.im just wondering what would happen .can you help?x
2007-03-08 08:47:43 · 10 answers · asked by gypsy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Most of the time you would live on the base wherever he is stationed at. You would not live on the barracks, as they have houses where married people live. Your life will change somewhat, because you may be transferred after a few years and you would have to uproot and go elsewhere with him. If he is a career soldier, then you probably will live many places throughout your marriage. But, do not go with him unless he asks you to marry him. Also the fact that you have children, you should have some security. Not being married, you have absolutely no security. I would stay put in your rented house until you have that wedding band on your finger and be very frank with him about the way you feel too. If you love him and he loves you, there is no reason why you should not get married. Marriage is a committment and he should show his committment to you and your children before you leave your home and go places unknown. Best of Luck
2007-03-08 10:01:41 · answer #1 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married to a soldier and when he is not deployed, we lived in an apartment. BAH is your housing allowance. How much he gets depends on where you live. Here in Texas, our BAH is only $800. It really isn't enough to cover a mortgage payment but it helps! We also get a food allowance, I think BAS, and that totals around $200 per month. Once you and your husband get married and adds you to the system, they will pretty much kick him out of the barracks. He can live with you in your house if it is close to the base, or he would have to rent an apartment.
Also, you and your children would receive health insurance and if you pay for it, dental insurance. We pay about $10 a month for dental insurance. Cleanings are free, there are co-pays for cavities and what not.
Your life would change completely. Military life is a whole new life. If your boyfriend is career military, you would move to where ever he is needed. You could end up overseas in Germany. You may have to deal with deployments. I could talk forever about how your life would change. I think it is great, but soon my hubby will be out of the military and he is going to pursue becoming a firefighter.
I am very proud of him. Hope this helps.
2007-03-09 11:41:56 · answer #2 · answered by His Angel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are in UK then you can live where you like as long as he can get to work on time. There are certain postings where you don't have a choice and have to live in quarters allocated to you but while in the UK you should be able to stay where you are.
Life does change quite dramatically as you have to learn to accept them being away a lot of the time. But you do have the support of the fellas unit whenever you need it . It does sometimes take over your life as you are expected to join in the unit`s functions, BBQ`s, Party's, coffee mornings etc. You are always seen as the `excess baggage` and your feelings are not a priority to his boss.
You will also have to ready to move at short notice if required. Often you have to move home on your own as your partner will already be out there. I moved 4 times in 10 years. This can have a toll on the kids as they no sooner make friends when they have to move again.
But on the positive side I still have some very good Friends made when we were in the forces that I would never had the opportunity to meet otherwise.
2007-03-08 17:07:37 · answer #3 · answered by bluegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, You won't have to live in the barracks silly lol !
Only when you GER MARRIED, he has entitlements for family housing. You guys could live on post (and save lost of $$$ since you don't have to pay for utilities, trash pick up, etc) or you could live outside post. Depending of his rank, this could be a bad or a good idea. If he is lower enlisted, his BAH (Basic allowance for Housing) should be low, so you guys may end up with out of pocket expenses.
You life would change in the sense that you will be alone and away from family and friends.
Good luck
2007-03-08 17:31:25 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My birth mother was in the service ... she had to give me up because she wasn't married. As far as I know families cannot live in the barracks. Once a soldier, or serviceman, gets married the family will have to rent an apartment or get some other sort of housing arrangement. The government should subsidize it though, so you shouldn't have a problem with it.
2007-03-08 19:29:02 · answer #5 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The military will usually give you an "allowance" for rent on your own place but it will have to be within a reasonab;e distance of the base...you can request military housing and live on base but that can take a long time
2007-03-08 16:54:02 · answer #6 · answered by Soon2BMrsCarlson 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When married you wouldn't live on base, you would live in base housing. Which is usually located JUST off the base.
You wouldn't be living in the barracks.
You could also live in your own home if you wanted to.
2007-03-08 19:57:49 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he hasn't asked, I think you are jumping the gun. You would not live in the barracks, you would be in on base housing or you could live off base.
2007-03-08 18:08:15 · answer #8 · answered by Dawnita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your living with him u would need to move to his base. my fiance's dad was in the RAF for 22 years and my fiance had a great childhood seeing the world and living in the base. they'r really great community's to be a part of. hope this helps
2007-03-09 15:00:55 · answer #9 · answered by Kerryx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can continue to live where you want. Or where it suits the pair of you.
2007-03-08 16:52:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋