If your kids don't like the food that is put in front of them...?

Question

I have 2 kids and we went to my best friend's house last night for dinner. We were having clams, my kids aren't picky at all. So my bf and her husband and 1 child sat down and started eatting the clams like there was no tomarrow. I started eatting them they were extremely tasty and delcious my kids, picked at it and hardly ate anything. They were having a sleepover so I couldn't feed them anything afif they were to have come home. I was wondering what I should have done now and if it would have been rude to say that "My kids don't like clams can you make them something else?".

Answer 1

I'm NOT a short order cook. I don't cook 2 separate meals. HOWEVER, I do try to make meals that everybody will enjoy. If my children don't like the entree, they can usually be happy w/ the side dishes. If nothing appealed, they would be free to get a yogurt out of the fridge. We generally DON'T make "kiddie" meals either. We prepare what we like (curries, steak, meatloaf, whatever).

My children are NEVER forced to eat a meal and are NEVER sent away hungry in punishment for eating. I try to treat them AS I WANT TO BE TREATED. For example, I HATE HATE HATE Korean BBQ. My husband's family and our kids just LOVE it (except for my son b/c he's allergic to sesame). Since I'm the only one who doesn't like the food, I try to eat something light ahead of time. At the gathering, I have rice and any other side dish I like. I can't imagine somebody saying, "You eat what you get and that's it." Sheesh!

At somebody else's house, I would not force my children to eat either. I would hope one of the sidedishes would satisfy. Otherwise, I'd quietly ask the host if I might make my children a sandwich or a yogurt. I might even bring something for my kids, just in case.

I most certainly wouldn't announce that the food isn't good but would thank the host profusely. I wouldn't apologize for my children either as we all have rights to our tastes. I would explain to my kids privately that it's important to show thanks for somebodies hard work in preparing a meal and complaining is rude.

I do have to say that I think it's rude of the HOST to prepare an "exotic" meal w/o checking w/ the guests. If I showed up to a dinner where the host had prepared liver and onions, I'd be horrified. I'd only eat the sidedishes and get food later. Kids often aren't able to wait as long as adults can to eat though, especially if there for a sleepover. A good host, in my opinion, tries to make a meal that all the guests are likely to enjoy...checking w/ them if necessary or going the "neutral" route when in doubt.

Answer 2

Clams are a weird thing to serve children anyways, so they should have expected that there would be a change that they wouldn't like it. If I was you, I would have taken my kids out to eat and then when you brought them back, maybe have dessert with you. But also, if it was your best friend, I would have just been like, sorry, do you have some peanut butter or something. Most people understand that kids can be picky.

Answer 3

Relax. Most kids aren't shy about telling anyone they are hungry. Especially at a sleep over. I'm sure there were some other snacks and things they had to tide them over til they came home. I would have told the kids before we left home, as I do with my 3, whatever is served, I want you to take a little bit and try it. If you don't like it no biggie. Then give them the side dishes to eat. Believe me, one way or the other, the kids got something filling.

Answer 4

I'm sure if your friend noticed that your children didn't eat much for supper and, she would have offered them an evening snack to make up for it. And most mothers notice these things...

A thoughtful host often inquires as to dietary preferences before planning a meal. I probably wouldn't have attempted clams with children. At the least, I would have thrown some spaghetti on to boil as a back up.

On the other hand, it would have indeed been rude of you to tell her at dinner that your kids didn't like the food. Kudos to you for raising your children politely enough that they didn't yell, "Eww!" at the first sight of their dinner and for being adventurous enough to try the clams.

Answer 5

I think what you should have said was that you enjoyed the food and it was delicious, but my kids dont really enjoy clams, so if you dont mind me asking, would it be ok if i just go pick up Burger King, Taco Bell, etc. and let then eat that. I am really sorry though, that my kids not really eat clams. (All you have to do is say it nicely and in a comforting way) A

Answer 6

Yes, that would have been rude. It's rude to tell someone who has put some effort into making a meal for you that you don't like what they've made, and then expect them to make something else for you. It would also teach your children that it's OK to behave that way. Your children should learn that they need to use their manners and eat what is given to them, and show some appreciation for the effort made, not to expect that someone is there simply to serve them. They're not going to starve to death overnight, if they really hated the clams so much that they couldn't put forth the effort to eat them, then let them know that it's their problem if they're hungry later. I'm not trying to be mean in saying that, but I just think that kids nowadays expect adults to act as their servants somehow, and don't know how to show appreciation. Before 30 years ago or so, NO adults would have even CONSIDERED cooking a special meal for a child who poo-poohed what they were served. We really need to get back to some good old-fashioned manners.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Well they should have known clams aren't exactly most kids favourite meal. Didn't they have something to go with them and the kids could have ate that. If not, if they were close friends I would have asked to make something myself, like a grilled cheese or something easy.

Answer 9

I would not have asked them to make anything else.

Next time, you could just pack a little sandwich or a little microwave meal and just take it over to the friend's house and let the kids eat that.

Answer 10

Next Time ask your BF what she is Making in advanced...that way you can get your Kids something to eat a Little earlier. and also Not all Kids like Sea Food....or they might have been more excited for the sleep over and just wanted to play B4 Bedtime.....