I'm 26 and very rarely approached by men. I have been told that I'm cute and dress well. I am intelligent and have a sense of humor. Also a big sports fan. Usually when I'm out with friends I am having a good time so its not like I am acting like a b****. What is going on? I don't have a problem approaching them. Its just nice to have them come to you sometimes. I don't have a problem with being single. I'm not desperate. Its just sometimes I would like to have someone instead of the same disappointments.
2007-03-08 08:36:00 · 16 answers · asked by Jen_n_TX 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hon, ignore all of the suggestions to dress sexy, that will just intimidate more men (unless you are at the bar, alcohol builds a man confidence, and sexy is good motivation). From how you describe yourself, you sound confident and secure with yourself. Men in general are scared to be rejected, so instead we tend to stare at a beautiful woman, but then don't approach unless she gives some sort of sign. However a confident and secure woman, who isn't "desperate", likely will not be giving off the signs that encourages use to approach, even if she is interested. So the only advice I could give you is this. If you want them to approach, work on the body language, make it a more conscious action to give off the signs. Otherwise be glad that you are not being bombarded by every guy out there, but sadly the ones that are approaching are probably the cocky guys and not the nice ones. Feel free to e-mail me if you want to talk about the body language a bit more.
2007-03-08 08:54:20 · answer #1 · answered by BrianW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...how approachable are you Jen? If you're too attractive, most guys won't have the guts to approach you. You'd be misconstrued as being out of their league. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be chased hun,...but it's also ok to go out and do a little bit of chasing here too. I say if you know what you want seriously...go out and find it sweetie. Great men simply don't fall out of the sky to fawn over you realistically. It's a nice dream honey...but also it's probable that that won't happen either. Get out and be socially available darling. Just be YOU otherwise. Nobody likes fake people Jen. Go out there and hit a home run babe,...and good luck to you in your endeavors too.
2007-03-08 16:44:48 · answer #2 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The unfortunate thing about the younger generation is its all based on looks. With the older generation because the looks aren`t there so much it seems to be based on financial status. Most times your perfect mate may be too shy to approach you for fear of rejection. Be yourself and have fun you will get your chance. A smile does wonders.
2007-03-08 16:44:09 · answer #3 · answered by grtoo9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well from what you said I don't know, if I were single and younger you sound like just the person I would be looking for. These younger guys you have to hit with a 2X4. They don't know when a girl likes them or how to ask one out.
2007-03-08 16:43:32 · answer #4 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok i'm having the same problem but a little weird problem ok first what you have to do is don't lisen to people that say go on this website you'll find a perfect match second thing is that you have to go to bars and other places to meet people. you'll always find a guy when your not thinking about it!
2007-03-08 16:44:56 · answer #5 · answered by chanel j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe some guys like the challenge. Dress sexy and show them your good stuff. But it depends on how you want guys to view you. Some guys just want to have sex, but if you want to meet a nice guy I suggest you meet them through friends.
2007-03-08 16:42:31 · answer #6 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes we have to reach out to others, go after what we want in life. obviously the only way your going to get what u want is to approach them first, men are sometimes bashful, just don't speak up first. so be the first to strike up a conversation with them.
2007-03-08 16:41:31 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys tend to be intimidated by a cute and intelligent woman. Relax, look around when ya spot one you think you would be interested in stare him down, not like a stalker but you know with that come hither look.
2007-03-08 16:40:35 · answer #8 · answered by Amber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well then when you like someone, just go up to them and tell them you like them instead of trying to play hard to get. if you want someone then find someone to like. dont just feel sorry for yourself because you dont get appreciated in that way. yoru 26 come on! the pool of men is still open for years to come. your not as old as you think you are. your young, have fun
2007-03-08 16:41:28 · answer #9 · answered by starstatus586 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound perfect to me, just go with the flow, maybe change the places you socialize, be the new chic in the area.
2007-03-08 16:41:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋